Your birthright is worthiness. And you can enhance your life to experience a better future.

So why do we get in our own way and make life more difficult than it needs to be? This is a question I’ve asked myself many times on my own journey.

I know I’ve often been unkind to myself, been critical, not feeling good enough, or telling myself I just don’t have what it takes.

And if this sounds familiar, here’s the truth: we have all been hypnotized to one degree or another by society’s expectations beginning at a young age.

Break free

I can’t speak for you, but I know I blindly followed society’s conventions to the letter. Those societal norms and expectations influenced me from a young age. Often making my life incredibly difficult and leaving me struggling to believe in my own worthiness.

But life is so much more than that.

It’s about finding our unique path, discovering what truly fulfills us, and embracing our individuality.

It’s about learning from our mistakes, taking risks, and pursuing our passions with authenticity and courage.

Nothing is wrong, and everything is right about recognizing your own worth beyond society’s measures.

You can define your standards by living a life that aligns with your true self, regardless of external pressures.

Ask yourself: “How would I feel if I rewrote my narrative, enhanced my life and embraced my personal worthiness, just as I am?

I know that’s what I wanted for myself.

The personal battle plan

I started incorporating positive self-talk into my daily routine.

I consciously tried to replace self-limiting thoughts with empowering and encouraging ones. As I spoke kindly and positively to myself, I noticed a remarkable shift in my life.

Things began to flow more effortlessly, and I started experiencing more positive outcomes.

Over time, I started to question the long-held beliefs that had once held me back. And it was then that I realized many of these beliefs were outdated and, worse, had come from other people!

Challenging these old beliefs opened me up to new possibilities and expanded my horizons. I discovered that I was capable of far more than I had previously thought.

Embracing positive self-talk and questioning old beliefs has been a transformative process for me.

It has helped me overcome self-doubt (not totally), unlock my true potential, and enhance my life in a more positive and fulfilling way.

Perhaps it’s time for you to do the same and witness the positive changes that can come from speaking kindly and positively to yourself. Believe me, it’s so well worth it.

Reconnect with your authentic self

In a society that may not always provide positive reinforcement, we must become our support system.

I reminded myself that I could trust my own judgment, not the irrational negative voice that sometimes plagued me. As a result, I consciously nurtured my well-being, showing kindness and compassion to myself, just as I would to a trusted friend.

It wasn’t always easy, but I committed to prioritizing my mental and emotional health and to be my own ally in this journey of self-discovery and growth.

I soon realized that the negative self-talk voice was not authentically me. It was a learned pattern of conventional behavior that I had adopted, but it was not my authentic self speaking. What an eye opener!

I knew that with some dedication and persistence I could separate myself from that voice and replace it with renewed authenticity and that in turn would enhance my life.

I made a conscious decision to embark on a journey of self-discovery, personal growth, and authentic expression. And it’s been on of the best decisions I ever made.

To enhance your life empower yourself

For those seeking to transform their relationship with themselves, it’s necessary to recognize that you have a choice in how you view and treat yourself.

Drawing from personal experiences, I’ve learned that prioritizing self-care and nurturing a positive relationship with yourself is crucial to our well-being and success.

You can start by engaging in positive self-talk, practicing self-compassion, and challenging negative beliefs that hold you back. It may not always be easy, and there may be moments of doubt, but perseverance is key.

With time, you’ll see amazing shifts in how you see yourself and the world. Embrace your worth and be true to who you are, empowering yourself to embrace new possibilities. Remember, you have the power to transform your relationship with yourself and enhance your life in oh so many ways.

Final thoughts

Yes, there will be challenging days. However, remember that personal growth is a continuous journey and facing obstacles is okay. 

The key is to break free from society’s conditioning, keep pushing forward, have those essential inner conversations, and actively work towards cultivating a positive view of yourself.

Because with persistence and self-awareness, you can overcome challenges and enhance your life. And you’ll find yourself reconnecting with your inner wisdom, intuition, and authenticity.

It’s about recognizing your unique strengths and talents and leveraging them to create a fulfilling and meaningful life.

It’s about letting go of societal expectations or external validation and embracing your true self unapologetically.

So, remember who you really are — a worthy individual capable of achieving greatness.

You are capable of creating a positive and fulfilling future filled with meaningful experiences and opportunities. So trust in yourself and your inherent worthiness, and let your authentic self shine brightly in all that you do.


Elle Sommer is the author of 4 books and a workbook. Her latest publications are a series called The Power of Consciousness, and you will find all three books in this trilogy now available on Kindle. She shares quotes, inspiration and positive vibes on Facebook, Instagram and Pinterest. And her greatest desire is to encourage and inspire others to create not just a good life, but a phenomenal life.


  1. So encouraging, Elle. Negative self-talk is so self-defeating, but we can get out of that loop once we decide to consciously work with our minds.

  2. So encouraging and so true, Elle. Until I felt like I deserved good things in my life, I allowed and settled for much less. We can change our lives and our mental health simply by changing the way we talk to ourselves. It made a world of difference to me.

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