Why We Need This Unusual Form of Forgiveness to Live Our Best Life

There you are, all relaxed and quiet and about to fall asleep when bam, some horrible thought drags you right back to some awful something that happened to you today, or didn’t happen, but it definitely should have.

And before you know it you’re wide awake, reliving that awful something.

This is no way to end your day…focused on what went wrong, with seemingly hundreds of negative thoughts bouncing around in your head.

Typically, it won’t help you get a decent night’s sleep.

And it won’t bring you a better tomorrow. 

Forgiveness and the art of living

The art of living every day greater than the one before is to let go of what went before in order to experience the wonderful things that are to come.

And this is where this unusual form of forgiveness comes into play.

Grow or fall back

Every moment in life we are either growing or falling back.

And this my darlings is a choice and has nothing to do with fate.

It’s true that there are times when events happen that hurt our heart and letting go of those wounds isn’t always easy.

Especially when we have a mind that insists we remember them, often just as we’re about to fall asleep.

And even though being hurt in life isn’t something we can always avoid, being unhappy or miserable or constantly focused on the hurt is a choice we can make. Especially when we’d rather go to sleep in peace.

And that’s where this unusual form of forgiveness comes into play and why we all need it.

Before falling asleep

Run through your day.  Before even getting into bed in fact, take 5 minutes to review  your day. don’t judge it, simply review it.

Look over the entire day, all the episodes, all the events, all the conversations, all the meetings. And pay particular attention to the things that happened that didn’t feel good.

See them clearly in your mind’s eye, and then remake them in your imagination.

I know it sounds weird, but this is the stuff of new beginnings and fresh starts; of magical things that patiently await you joining the dance.

Forgive the day

Forgiveness is generally considered to mean you make a decision to let go of resentment and maybe thoughts of revenge.

But the forgiveness we’re talking about is more of an edit, a revision of events that happened that have you feeling worried, scared, confused or unhappy.

Choose the ideal

Mentally create the ideal day you wish you’d experienced, rewriting in your mind those experiences that your mind insists you feel badly about.

Take scene after scene and rewrite it, edit it, revise it, and having rewritten, revised and edited your day, then, in imagination, re-live that day, the revised day, and do it over and over in your imagination until it feels as though you actually did experience it.

I have found from experience that these revised days, if really made alive in our minds, change our tomorrows.

A good rule of thumb: if you don’t want some of the things that happened today to become a permanent part of your future then this unusual form of forgiveness helps to make that so.

Test it

Want some changes in your life?  Try this form of forgiveness.  Test it for yourself.  Life is much too short to keep doing the same things and getting the same results.

If  something happens in your life today that you don’t like, try my forgiveness/editing/revising technique to prevent your mind from attaching to the negatives and carrying them forward into your tomorrow.

This unusual and often under-rated form of forgiveness is what will lead us to a better life.

Whilst we might have to accept the fact that there challenges present in our life, we can still find ways to focus on the good.

So instead of allowing that night time state of anxiety grab a hold of you, use this forgiveness technique as a solid foundation to build your future on.

And for all the skeptics reading this…no this doesn’t actually change the experiences you had, it does something much better, it prevents the energy of those experiences from going forward into your future and keeping the same things happening over and over again in your life.

So my lovelies your willingness to let go, to forgive, helps to heal the wounds of the day and gives you a totally fresh start for tomorrow.

Encourage one another.

Love Elle

xox