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Remember when you were a little kid and you went to the store to get a present for someone special? I’m talking waaay back, when your little nose barely came to the top of the counter.
Don’t know about you, but my eye was usually attracted to the thing that was the most gaudy in its brightness or the shiny box that glistened high above me, glimmeringly demanding my approval.
My mum graciously received disgusting smelling perfumes, often bright red or green because they came in panda shaped bottles that were so cute…well to me. Her jewelry box held hideous rings and necklaces because they were enclosed in a bright, shiny box.
The idea that objects in shiny wrappers are desirable lingers in my subconscious mind. And it’s had me hooked. Only today, I’m attracted not by shiny wrapping paper, but by every e-mail that arrives offering a not-to-be-missed e-course or seminar, or project. I can’t say no.
Have you been fighting the good fight to say no to something? It could be you’re attracted to the latest and greatest diet book to hit the bookstores, or the next best personal development cd sharing the smartest way to be rich, or spiritually developed.
How are you at managing a weight loss plan, stopping smoking, eating less sugar, improving your follow through?
If you experience an inability to say no or take on more than you can possibly handle, or struggle with managing your projects, then maybe the time has come to take a conscious look at life and ask yourself how do you really want to live?
I definitely needed to take a conscious look at my life, so I began here.
Curb your enthusiasm
What I was doing wasn’t working for me. In fact it was dispiriting.
Some of us are overly enthusiastic and yes, I’m raising my hands on this one. Enthusiasm is a wonderful thing, it releases those feel good endorphins, promotes optimism and is a great antidote for what ails you. Yet there’s a downside. Unbridled enthusiasm can often mean taking on more than we can chew and we end up deflated, annoyed with ourselves, and hardly vibrating with the energy of success.
We get so overwhelmed we can’t even start. And if we do get started, it can be even harder to keep going.
The Three questions
In a moment of utter disgust with myself for the not only unfinished, but unstarted, projects and e-courses that I’d signed up and paid good money for, I remembered the story of the three questions.
A woman inherited her husband’s engineering company when he passed away. Everyone expected her to sell, because she knew nothing about the business and most certainly wasn’t an engineer. A few weeks later she went into the company and asked to meet with the heads of every department.
She asked them three questions.
What are you doing?
What doesn’t work?
What does work?
And she had them regularly stop and ask themselves the three questions and then follow what was working, and the company went from success to success.
That works for me.
Choose the outcome
I talk about choosing the outcome incessantly, you’d think it’d be a given in my life. But it hasn’t yet become automatic in all areas. It sucks I know, but growth isn’t always linear.
Choosing outcomes is one of the most effective ways I know for making wishes fulfilled.
How do we get anywhere? We decide that’s where we’re going.
I know where I’m going when I stop writing for the day. And I know how to get there…I’ll get in my car and head out to that fabulous cupcake shop I’ve had a hankering to visit… or maybe I’ll just say no to sugar today.
Whatever I decide to do, wherever I decide to go, I already know what I need to do to get there. My subconscious has all the information it needs, nicely tucked away, and I don’t have to think about how to drive my car, or which direction will take me towards my goal.
My subconscious also has my lust for shiny wrapped objects deeply ensconced and I’ve been operating from there, with occasional little tweaks along the way, as to what constitutes a shiny object. Time to choose something different as my default mode, taking me in a direction more likely to lead me to fulfilling my underlying desire.
Instead of bouncing around and reacting to this, that or the other, I needed to slow down and calmly decide what I want. Choose who I’ve decided to be. My current results are a product of my level of awareness. To have different results I’ve got to change or raise my level of awareness.
To become different, to act differently, to be different, we need to start with the awareness of who we currently are. Our power to change lies in this awareness. My desire to achieve different results inspires me to reach for a higher level of awareness, and encourages me, not only to look at where I was going, but where I was coming from.
Create a habit and stick to it
There’s no point in fighting my old habit, it only lives as long as it’s in my awareness.
What did I actually want? Hmmm turned out what I was seeking really was an expansion of consciousness. Finding the essence of what I want will make it so much easier to stop pouncing on every apparent shiny object that crosses my path.
We created our old habits and we can let them go and choose to create something that serves us better.
I’m growing myself out of my limitations. I’m exchanging my old shiny wrapper syndrome for habits that will serve me better.
And starting today I’m:
Choosing the outcome before I begin, which includes how it feels. And I’m adding a twist. I’m writing it down.
Letting go of multi-tasking…it’s another shiny wrapper syndrome.
Taking time to contemplate, or meditate on the rich resources within, and claim them as my own.
Giving thanks for the wonderful things in my life and the wonderful things that are happening for me now.
Remembering one can be fun. Choosing one thing and finishing it before starting another.
Ignoring new shiny wrappings.
Letting go of unrealistic expectations. Looking at where I am and work from there.
Focusing on what’s in front of me right now, with no thoughts of anything else.
Clearing my desk of anything that doesn’t support or promote the one project I’m working on in that moment.
Investing time to imagine how great I feel at the end of the day, with no multitude of half started…if I’m lucky…projects.
Check every day what worked for me and junk anything else.
In the comments below we’d love to hear your experiences. What’s getting in your way, or making you feel dispirited? Do you have any techniques you can share with the rest of us. We’re all in this world together and you might be the very one who made a difference.