If you plan on being anything less than you are capable of being, you will probably be unhappy all the days of your life.  Abraham Maslow


You’ve just had an experience that got on your last nerve.

Your latest and greatest project was a huge bust.

Your car died, a sudden, unexpected, death.

You had a miserable day.  Everything that could go wrong did.

You were the dumpee or dumper.

Basically life sucks.  Nothing feels good.

And here you are sitting in your poopy pants, in your ‘woe is me’ state of mind.

Well sitting in poopy pants probably isn’t all that comfortable.  Think crying babies.

And worse, we’re planting seeds of discontent and you’d better believe we’ll be reaping the harvest some soon day.

As an added incentive…if you needed one, The HeartMath Institute conducted an experiment that our feelings and emotions have a direct effect on our DNA, which in turn affects the matter in our world.

How cool is that?

It showed that when the experimenter felt love, compassion, appreciation, forgiveness and understanding in his heart, his DNA relaxed and elongated itself. When the experimenter felt fear-based emotions like anger, hate, jealousy, or unhappiness his DNA tightened. Apparently when our DNA is relaxed or loose, our immune system functions better.


What’s to be done?  What can we do and what should we do?

My last post touched on putting judgement on one side, and the day I came up with the idea I found it exciting.  Even though, as we all know I didn’t come out of it smelling of roses.

This is such a juicy topic that I had to come back to it.

Imagine the idea

Think about building your relationships, your finances, your health, or your business without judgement.  Think about the different connection we’d have with everyone.  Think about a world of co-operation instead of competition.

Sounds good doesn’t it?

What’s the difference between sitting playing our tiny violin of self pity, awash in life suckiness versus living a life where we see that not only can we have as big a piece of pie as we want but the pie is unlimited?  And we don’t have to judge, good or bad.  It just is.  Hmmm.

And what if we actually lived our life in a spirit of co-operation instead of competition, we’d see that we didn’t have to literally pursue things, instead we might see that they actually manifested as an expression of our inner beliefs.  Another hmmm.

I believe this to be true

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Life would be sooo much easier if we would simply learn to live and operate the laws of life, the laws of nature. To live in co-operation and harmony with one another and the abundance that freely flows to us all.

If your heart is set on love, success, financial freedom, great health and vitality you must begin to see beneath all the seemingly wrong conditions in your life.  It’s time to pull the plug on any pity parties and begin to live and act in a new and greater way.

It’s time to move ourselves beyond the poor perspective that we have.  If we want another piece of the pie, we make a bigger one and share it, so there’s plenty for everyone.  

We don’t have to outperform, outwit or outsell anyone. We’re dealing with the infinite here..there’s plenty for us all when we come from the spirit of co-operation.

We have to change our perspective…have a shift in the way we view the world…get a new point of view.

Your new perspective

Begin to think from the perspective of having so much that it’s easy to give something away.  Begin to live in the assumption that we have plenty of new ideas that benefit us and others.

If we stopped judging our success, our bodies, our relationships our abundance not only will we have more, but everyone else at the table will as well.  And removing judgement makes room for something so much greater and so much more expansive.

We love win wins.  Think of what’s happening to our DNA.

Whilst there’s always a free flow of abundance in our Universe, we don’t get something for nothing.  First, we have to be the person we want to be.  

We have to live in gratitude for what we do have, choose to feel what we want to feel about any given situation.


We’ve been given the wonderful gift of freedom of choice.  Let’s use it.

Everything in our world works through law.

If we’re seeking to get something for nothing, it won’t work out well for us.

If we don’t honour our commitments, it won’t work out well for us.

If we seek to hold back because we’re afraid we don’t have enough, or we might get hurt, it won’t work out well for us.

We have to be a full participant in the free flow of abundance and growth that is always beckoning to us.

Then we’ll intuitively know when to say yes and when to say no to any given situation because our decisions come, not from limitation or fear or scarcity, but from our oneness with all that is.  

Our oneness with each other.

And we’ll be blessed and we’ll stop feeling that life sucks. And our DNA will be happy.

Love to hear YOUR ways of keeping happy DNA. Stop by and leave a comment. Oh yes, and please take a minute to share this article – you never know who might need to read it.

Encourage one another.

Love Elle


Elle Sommer is the author of 4 books and a workbook. Her latest publications are a series called The Power of Consciousness, and you will find all three books in this trilogy now available on Kindle. She shares quotes, inspiration and positive vibes on Facebook, Instagram and Pinterest. And her greatest desire is to encourage and inspire others to create not just a good life, but a phenomenal life.


  1. Nancy Leport

    😛 How incredible is this? THank you so much.

    • Elle

      Why thank you Nancy. So glad you enjoyed it. Now I want to know how you got that super happy face? 🙂

  2. Nancy Leport

    There is a long line of emoticons at the top of the comment section on your site…I thought you put them there ❗ 😆

  3. Very inspiring post! Stop judging ourselves is the most valuable lesson in this post to me. I have been incorporating meditation into my daily ritual lately and using this time to love and accept myself for the things I have done and the person that I am that day no matter what.

    • Elle

      😎 Totally agree with your thoughts that to stop judging ourselves is a priority. It’s great that you take the time to do that Shawn.

    • Elle

      😎 Totally agree that non-judgement of self is vital Shawn. Good for you that you do that on a daily basis.

  4. Elle – A beautifully crafted, focused message that is a great reminder for all of us – even those, including me, who work everyday on precisely what you’re talking about. It is so easy to slip back to the ‘old paradigm’ without even knowing it. Will check out the study on the change in your DNA based on emotions. For those who think that this ‘New Age’ stuff is ridiculous, the hard science may help to get them to re-think how they experience their world.

    • Elle

      Thanks Fran…isn’t that the truth…it’s easy to slip back into old patterns. I thought the DNA info was pretty cool too.:-)

  5. I love the idea of creating happy DNA! It’s such an unusual thought that I find myself smiling and feeling good just at the idea of it!

    • Elle

      Me too Sandi…happy DNA is a novel concept and I really liked it. 😀

  6. Elle, Poopy pants!! You are so funny!

    Agreed, spirit of cooperation not competition. There is so much abundance that we may freely give things away. The more we think like that the more the opportunities to do so and see it in action seem to multiply.

    • Elle

      😀 Thanks Julie…it just seemed to fit the bill. And isn’t that the truth our awareness allows us to see so much more.

  7. Joseph Appaloosa

    I’ll commit to be a “full participant in the free flow of abundance and growth” .
    It sounds wonderful !
    Thank you for another wonderful article.
    Write on, Elle !

    • Elle

      Nice to hear from you again Joseph 😀 great to have you join in the free flow of abundance and growth.

  8. Elle, I needed this post today more than you can imagine. Thank you for your beautiful words and for giving me a bit of a kick in the butt to get out of my woe is me state. I also loved the point of there always being enough and just creating a bigger pie will ensure that we all get a piece. Again, I needed to hear this today. So grateful that you’re sharing your wise words and thoughts with us.

    • Elle

      Isn’t it great when that happens Anne-Sophie…we ask, sometimes without knowing and then we receive. And I’m grateful for your kind words my friend. Thank you. 😛

  9. Hi Elle,
    There’s always a degree of ‘suckiness’ however … there’s always a bigger degree of good stuff … if you are prepared to seek it and keep it. Thankyou.
    be good to yourself
    Life Coach. Listener. Life Lover.

  10. Elle,
    We’re still on the same wave lengths I can see! I am working on a judgment post so I love what you wrote about going about your business with non judgment. Would you mind if I quoted you? And I love the idea of being an active participant in the abundance of the universe.
    Very well put, as usual!!

    • Elle

      No surprises there Betsy…please feel free and quote away…can’t wait to read your post. 😆

  11. So true and so inspirational. Thank you and I shared the link to it on my page to help spread the inspiration. All the best, Kasia xx

    • Elle

      Thank you Kasia and welcome to the conversation. All contributions gratefully received.

      And I appreciate the link. 😆

  12. Great post! I forwarded it to a few friends.

    I realized lately that life does not really suck! Major epiphany after years! I can’t blieve I was merely a product reacting to memes created, not by me, but by those around me. OMG! Major mindf__k. If we only ignored those, we would be much happier, healthier, fulfilled. I think this is the basis of all sorrow. It is great that spirituality teaches otherwise and that is law.

    • Elle

      Hi there and welcome to the conversation. Isn’t that awesome that you became aware that life doesn’t suck. Good job you, as we like to say across the pond. Love your insights and appreciate you sharing. 🙂

  13. Life would be sooo much easier if we would simply learn to live and operate the laws of life, the laws of nature. To live in co-operation and harmony with one another and the abundance that freely flows to us all.

    • Elle

      So true Darwin…thanks for sharing your insight. I like a life filled with ease and grace my own self. 🙂

  14. These are some great thoughts, Elle! Personally when life is in a rut I like to do 2 things: Vouch for a wiser person to help me out, directly or indirectly, oftentimes it’s an audio programs by somebody like Jim Rohn or Tony Robbins. Then the second thing is to take my journal and a pen, then write this: “What am I grateful for?”. It takes me several steps back and gives me perspective on things which I wouldn’t be able to reach otherwise…

    • Elle

      Great perspective Nick…I most definitely like your techniques and am sure they’ll be of great help and encouragement to someone who reads your comments. Do appreciate your participation in the conversation. 🙂

  15. Absolutely! I especially love where you say, “If we’re seeking to get something for nothing, it won’t work out well for us.” That is absolutely the truth! I do not like to “take” without being able to give back! Love your words of wisdom, Elle!

    • Elle

      Hi Cher, I so appreciate your words of encouragement. It’s amazing how uplifting a word here and there can be. 🙂

  16. Hey Elle, I have a degree in Biology and I knew DNA was incredible, I even read recently that it can mutate over generations rather than millennia, I had no idea that emotions could trigger its physical state. Wow!! Well, we knew emotions affects our brain, this makes total sense! Very interesting and informative post!!

    • Elle

      Hi Rae, who knew, right? Certainly not me…at least not always. But as you say once you hear it, it seems so obvious. 😀

    • Elle

      Thanks Tammy, it’s interesting to read all this and how it works together. 🙂

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