[success]Our doubts are traitors, and make us lose the good we oft might win, by fearing to attempt. ~ William Shakespeare[/success]
It happens to us all.
We’ve all had those doubting, self-critical thoughts:
I know I’m going to make a complete fool of myself.
How about I’m going to make an ass of myself…heavens to Betsy.
What if I invest my time and money not to mention energy and I still mess it up…in other words I fail.
They’re much younger, better, more intelligent, more capable and already more successful than me…I’m such a loser.
It’s okay. We’ve been trained to deal with fear and self-doubt in ways that aren’t helpful: by resisting it, or relying on over analysis to quell those dastardly thoughts and we can end up believing we’re pretty pathetic for experiencing them in the first place.
When I first started to study Neville Goddard some…ahem…years ago it was oddly disquieting. Here I was a relatively intelligent woman reading comments on an internet group of fellow Neville students and I didn’t even know what they heck they were talking about.
I told my Darling One. I have no clue about this. It’s over my head.
He said, if you love it, keep going.
I persisted, but it was hard. I’d study a book or a lecture and revisit the Group in the hope that the conversation was one I could now follow. Wasn’t happening. A wave of doubt and dismay washed over me. These people were so far beyond my limited spiritual awareness and I couldn’t see how I’d ever grasp even the basic concepts that seemed second nature to them.
My Darling One said, keep going.
Whilst I didn’t believe I was in their league, I kept reading and practicing the principles of what Neville calls The Law. Neville teaches about the power of imagination, and I was using it all right…just not in the way he intended…to create something new.
I stopped by the group a month or so later and I could comprehend some of the conversation…I began to make some sense out of the jargon that had seemed so far beyond my ability to understand.
And in the process I learned a lot. Not just about the practices of operating universal laws, but about perspective and how important it is. And how to handle moving out of my comfort zone with a little more ease and grace.
I discovered that when we aspire to make changes, to achieve something greater, to step up to the plate of life in a bigger way, we’re likely to have feelings of self-doubt, and maybe feel less than.
If we see ourselves as midgets in a land of giants you can bet your bottom dollar we’re going to be challenged.
So for all of us who’ve been discouraged by feeling we’re behind the curve or struggling with change here’s what I discovered through what I cheerily call my ‘Neville experience’ because what you do when self-doubt sets in can make all the difference in your world.
Stop critical thinking and have a defense plan
No, not the critical thinking we’re taught in school. I’m talking about that inner critic. Those thoughts we have that insist we can’t do something as well as someone else.
It isn’t that we have friends or family who tell us we’re blooming hopeless and could never accomplish our goals. Well hopefully not, unless they’re just meanies.
We do it to ourselves. Over and over we read or listen to how we can be so much more. You know the stuff…click here and you’ll be brilliant with a wave of the hand. You’ll be thinner, more beautiful, fitter…instantly.
Only we can’t.
And in paying attention to all this nonsense we’ve created a sense of inferiority in who we are.
The instant you hear that negative voice in your head…turn to something else. Get distracted. Focus on something else. Get active. Anything that breaks the chain reaction of negativity.
This is your defense plan to stop those critical thoughts dead in their tracks and move away from the preconditioned method you had of dealing with self-doubt.
Ask for help
It’s amazing how unwilling we are to reach out to others for help.
Can’t do something?
Someone else can.
Find them and ask them to help you. You’d be amazed at how many wonderful, helpful, supportive people there are in the world once you begin to reach out.
Maybe there’s a group of like minded people that you can join for encouragement and inspiration.
If I’d been willing to ask the people in the Neville group to explain what I couldn’t understand, I’d bet dollars to doughnuts most of them would have said yes. Heck, they were practicing principles such as what you do for another, you do for yourself.
As you develop your helpful relationships you’ll probably find that not only will they help you but they’ll promote whatever it is you’re up to. And just as great, you might even discover that you know a heck of a lot more than you give yourself credit for…and it could be that you turn out to be their greatest booster.
No stopping – just keep right on trucking
We’re all capable of so much more than we believe. We might have thoughts of self-doubt and of not being capable enough, but we don’t have to listen to them. They’re just thoughts and we can drop them any time we choose.
Don’t allow someone else’s success stop you from achieving your own.
Become your own greatest cheerleader.
It’s our belief in things that draws the evidence of them into our world. Belief in you might be the most difficult challenge in your lifetime, but once you get there, nothing can hold you back from creating your bright new future.
Remember, your future isn’t preordained and it isn’t happening out of the blue. Millions of possible futures exist within you, awaiting release. All of them being created or recreated by every belief, every thought and every feeling you have and self-doubt, unmanaged, won’t be bringing the best one possible.
I’d love to hear from you in the comments below. Has fear or self-doubt stopped you from following your passion? What did you do? Your answer might just give someone in our global community the tool to manage self-doubt.
Encourage one another.