There are lots of articles on how to live a happy, healthy successful life.

But here’s what makes this article different.

In this post my intention is to help you get clear on what truly is important and is meaningful to you.

I’m going to help you answer the question, “What are my true values?” 

And I’m going to give you a list to help you determine your true values, so you won’t ever be one of the sad souls who end up living a life of regret.

Why should these things be really, really important to you?  

Because dear heart there’s way too steep a price to pay for not living according to what is true for you, over and above the price of regret. 

It’s a life in which you never experience the brilliant destiny that has been yours since birth. And if you aren’t taking charge of your own destiny, believe me, someone else will. 

And we want something greater for you.  Don’t we?

Ghandi put it so well when he said: “Your beliefs become your thoughts. Your thoughts become your word. Your words become your actions. Your actions become your habits. 
Your habits become your values. Your values become your destiny.” 

So it’s time for a reset or a revaluation or whatever you want to call it.  Let’s switch gears and zero in on the list below. 

I promise it won’t hurt a bit, in fact you might even find it fun.  And at the end of the day, if you can think, speak and behave in a way that matches your values, your life will feel brilliant.  And you can be content, whole and connected to your inner power that can only lead to a wonderful life.

It’s a good thing, I promise.  

This isn’t an exhaustive list of true values by any means

It’s simply a few ideas to support you in honoring your greater self as you honor the things that truly mean the most to you. And maybe you can unearth not what you believe you should want, or what other people think you should want, but those values that are closest to your heart and soul, that determine what you truly want.

Don’t pick a value that you’re not ready for, or one that doesn’t resonate. 

And if none of them resonate, that’s okay too, maybe, just maybe, this article is more about opening a door for your higher self to take a look at what your deepest and true values really are, and then you can set goals that are in alignment with them.

That’s the way to live a truly happy, successful, fulfilling life.  One that you deserve.

So here goes nothing!

Being a leader

  1. Offer guidance
  2. Be an encourager
  3. Be an influencer
  4. Persuade

Being a winner

  1. Overcome
  2. Accomplish
  3. Triumph
  4. Attract

Being Sensitive

  1. Empathize
  2. Be present
  3. Support
  4. Have compassion

Being Spiritual

  1. Becoming awake
  2. Honoring life
  3. Be one with all that is
  4. Be in touch with energy flow

Being Creative

  1. Imagination
  2. Invent
  3. Plan
  4. Inspire


  1. Encourage
  2. Support
  3. Provide
  4. Improve


  1. Learn
  2. Realize
  3. Pay attention
  4. Awareness

Experiencing Beauty

  1. Radiance
  2. Attractiveness
  3. Grace
  4. Loving heart


  1. Sense
  2. Emote
  3. Know happiness
  4. Being in touch with

Having Mastery

  1. Adept
  2. Superiority
  3. Greatest
  4. Excellence

Knowing Pleasure

  1. Have fun
  2. Sports
  3. Sensual
  4. Be entertained


  1. Be connected
  2. Part of community
  3. Be nurturing
  4. Family


  1. Educate
  2. Enlighten
  3. Uplift
  4. Inform

Final thought

It’s much easier to make decisions as you go through life when you know what your values really are.

I’d love to hear from you in the comments below.  Do you relate to any of these, or none of them?  Do you have true values that you currently live by and use to guide you towards your goals and your future…we’d love to hear what you have to say!

Encourage one another

Love Elle



Elle Sommer is the author of 4 books and a workbook. Her latest publications are a series called The Power of Consciousness, and you will find all three books in this trilogy now available on Kindle. She shares quotes, inspiration and positive vibes on Facebook, Instagram and Pinterest. And her greatest desire is to encourage and inspire others to create not just a good life, but a phenomenal life.


  1. I do think it helps to have a sense of values. I’ve gone through a similar process a few times and it does help with making decisions because you know what is important to you. From your list, a few that I would pick would be to overcome, have compassion, honoring life, imagination, learn, family, enlighten. Thank you!

    • Those values seem to perfectly encompass who I see you to be Cathy. It doesn’t surprise me one little bit. 🙂

  2. Fun exercise, Elle. Like you said, none of them really resonated for me. I do think I’m in a transitional phase of my life where I haven’t really settled into what I’m about yet. Thanks for this enlightening practice.

    • I would have thought education would have been one of your values Debbie. You do such a wonderful job of sharing your knowledge of how to use our brain to the best advantage. It is a fun exercise though. 🙂

  3. I’m so glad you wrote about this, Ell. When we don’t know our values, it’s too easy to be influenced by others and we end up living according to someone else’s values. And that doesn’t feel good in the long run. I noticed this in one of my relationships, that I compromised my values to support my partner. I regretted that later. Two of my values are truth and beauty. I need to reflect more to identify the others.

    • Those are perfect values for you Sandra. I understand about being influenced by others…it’s happened to me often in my life. 🙂

  4. It’s much easier to make decisions as you go through life when you know what your values really are. Really looking for this kind of thing. Thanks for sharing.

  5. Dilip Chettri

    I did not understand anything about this article, but you must have met me as a guide. you will help me in coming, I hope.
    I am trying to learn something, and I want to know how a person should be able to think about what he should be.
    This article contains some of the things I don ‘t understand, so I am learning how to understand it and how I can adopt it in my life.

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