How often have you wanted to change something in your life, but it didn’t work out as you planned? Something got in the way.
Don’t feel too badly about this. It’s happened to us all. And speaking for myself. More than a few times.
But what was it that really stopped you?
If others would just keep their promises, if business would just look up, if the dog or the kids didn’t need so much attention, that might help. If it wasn’t winter, if it wasn’t summer that might help.
We can come up with all the excuses on the planet, but truth be told everything outside of ourselves is in the minor leagues when it comes to getting the change we want.
What’s happening on the outside matters much less than what’s happening on the inside. You are the one and only key to getting the change you want. Write that down. Keep it handy. Remind yourself regularly – “I am the key to my future.” The magic is in you.
1. The magic of awareness
The gooey dessert doesn’t get onto your plate accidentally.
The game you chose to play instead of finishing your project didn’t ask you to you play.
You’ve got a habit!
And like all habits, it creates automatic actions.
The good news is that every habit, be it helpful or hurtful is totally dependent on you for it’s survival. But without some form of intervention from you, they’ll keep on running the show and happily come between you and the changes you’d like to see in life.
Remember that the reason some people are more successful at life than others is because they have formed successful habits. The trick is to replace your old harmful habits with new and better ones. Not all at once, just one at a time can make a difference.
If you’d like a hand with this, try the swish technique that I wrote about here.
2. The magic of enthusiasm
Jim Rohn said it so well
“To have more become more.”
It’s no good tackling the problem with the same self that created it in the first place.
What lights your fire? What gets you out of bed in the morning? What are you deeply, truly passionate and enthusiastic about? Get busy creating your passionate vision for the future and you’ll be creating the foundation for determining where you’re going. Enthusiasm will guide you to live your truth and conquer your fear.
When my granddaughter was 4 she was enthusiastic about the idea of holding a snake until the moment came. She did it anyway…gingerly taking hold of the snake whilst holding her breath. And then she smiled. And said “I’m not afraid anymore”. Enthusiasm triumphs over fear.
3. The magic of working on yourself
If you never take chances you’ll never know what you’re capable of.
Whatever you think you can do to make tomorrow better than today, you can never do more than improve yourself.
Behave as though you were the most amazing person in the world, deserving of only the very best. Use every day to grow and develop and change the way you view the world. Read books, take seminars, listen to podcasts and begin to create a new perspective on life.
How you think, how you see the world, how you react to challenges has far more potential to ruin a great future than any obstacles you might encounter.
Once you begin to change the way you view, judge and determine the important things in life, life completely changes.
4. The magic of confidence
We all lack confidence some times, in some areas of life. But what if you could convince yourself that regardless of what happened you would always feel good?
Doesn’t sound that easy, right?
But confidence is just another mind-set. And if we can change our minds we can change our lives. Don’t rely on outside factors to feel confident about who you are and what you do. The power is in you. Hang on to it.
If you’ve been neglecting to get things done, the way you see yourself will be diminished. If you keep taking the easy way out of situations, the message to yourself is loud and clear…you don’t believe in yourself.
There are times when we fall short in the self-belief arena and if that happens to you, make sure you surround yourselves with others who believe in you.
At 15 my daughter didn’t believe she was smart enough to go to University, and was talking about leaving school early. The family believed in her. Her school believed in her. And our belief culminated in an education she hadn’t believed was possible.
When people you trust and respect tell you how capable you are, you begin to believe it. Mind over matter is a powerful tool. Use it to your advantage.
In this super TED video, Matt Cutts of Google fame talks about boosting his confidence and creating new habits. He even makes it fun!
Anytime you find it a challenge to get what you want, or you’ve lost your way, remember that all the answers you need lie within you. You are a natural born creator with more gifts than you can possibly use in this lifetime. Don’t struggle, consult your inner wisdom, it knows what you need to do.
Encourage one another
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