how to get back my powerYou know the feeling?

The one where you feel lost.



That feeling that you’re stuck somewhere and having a hard time believing you’ll ever get anywhere.

In fact, you don’t have a clue how to get anywhere.

Heck you don’t even know where you want to go.

You’re not alone. Truly hear this. YOU ARE NOT ALONE.

We all feel like that sometimes. We’ve all felt like that before. And we’re still standing.

Trying to work out who you are, what you want to do with life can be confusing and overwhelming and sometimes you just need to step outside of yourself. Step outside of the confusion and keep in mind…‘it’s not until we’re lost that we begin to understand ourselves’.

It might be time to remember:

1. Nobody knows what you want or need as well as you

Don’t wait for the time to be right, or someone to come along and point the way; begin where you are and work with what you’ve got and what you know. Better things will show up along the way.

No matter what you choose, no matter what life throws at you, you’re going to be just fine. Listen to your inner guidance, it will give you the courage to follow your dreams.

And don’t worry if you have no new ideas right now.

When you’re feeling lost, hold on to the truth that growth is often spontaneous. But you must wake up to the idea that if you spend your time simply reacting to everything that happens, you have no direction of your own.

2. Life is balanced

The bad news is that everyone meets obstacles, complications and disappointments.  The good news is that every setback has within it a comeback.

No matter that you’re late in coming to the party and don’t know quite what to do or where to go, you have an enormous creative power, you just need to learn how to use it.

Shake things up. Change your viewpoint. You might discover being lost didn’t disempower you after all. Often our biggest victories come from our biggest struggles.

Embrace your struggles. Be willing to enter new territories and accept new opportunities.  Make sure you take time for the ‘ being’ you instead of only your doing self. This is the way to nourishment and gives you the space to heal beliefs that hold you back.

3. Difficult paths often lead to ideal destinations

Don’t allow fear to run the show. Fear is only as strong as you allow it be and fear means you’re operating from a mind set of resistance. Acting out of jealousy, anger, shame or guilt mean you’re living in fear.

Choose to be peaceful and calm. Decide your ideal experience.

Remaining faithful to the idea that everything turns out well will determine your outcome.

Think about it, crying for the person you thought you were means you’re not smiling for the person you’re becoming. Out of every difficulty comes the foundation for new understandings that forge your new, beautiful life.

A change in attitude requires time.  Give yourself the gift of time to change your vibration so that what you desire can be moved from the invisible inner world into your visible reality.

4. Painful things often teach what we need to know

Painful experiences can enhance your life. When things are going great we tend to invest little or no time in making sure we know where we’re going. When things get tough we’re more inclined to ponder, to make new distinctions that enhance the quality of our life.

Let your feeling of being lost guide you to a new and greater future.

Commit to making peace with old wounds and hurts and you open the door to the wisdom and creativity of the universe and release yourself from the unwelcome thoughts that keep you chained to your history.

Life comes with pain and with joy, with wounds and healing and sometimes we grow from one or the other, but usually we need both. You’re always the winner as you gain the priceless gift of experience.

5. It doesn’t have to be perfect

So often people don’t change anything because they don’t know what to do or how to do it perfectly.

If you want to change your health, get moving…try something new. If you want to change your relationship, get started on making some inner changes to your beliefs and habits of being, don’t wait for that perfect moment, it doesn’t exist.

Whatever you want deep in your heart, begin it. Make some progress; it equals greater happiness. Get some momentum going,

Many people get scared when things don’t work out. Because they don’t want to feel that failure, that sense of being less than, so they give up. Don’t be one of them. Keep going, you are destined for victory.

Don’t worry about failure, keep looking for progress…you’re going to be okay, even if it isn’t today. The beautiful part of life is that you don’t have to get it right first time.

A river cuts through rock because of persistence and what will make your new self more successful than your old self is your willingness to persist.

 Taking action, any action, will shift your life and enable you to thrive in difficult situations. Begin today.

6. Timing is everything

Focus on the thing you want. If you need help staying focused in the busyness of the day, set an alarm. Stop messing around being distracted by all the things that give absolutely no meaning to your life.

Set a focus timer. Have a timer set for every ten minutes, every twenty minutes, every half hour. Whatever works best for your lifestyle. And focus on those ideas, those dreams of your heart that will make an enormous difference to you and to your life

With every ding of the timer, your job is to focus on your desire, feel that you have it, or have a simple affirmation. Life is good. Thank you. I’m just where I want to be. I’m who I want to be. I love my life. I am blessed.

It doesn’t even matter if it’s not currently true…what you focus on you become.

7. You get to decide when you’ve had enough

There comes a point when it’s up to you to decide if you’ve had enough heartache and pain. No one can do it for you. No one is coming to rescue you. Your life is in your hands.

Stop repeating your history; you may have been discouraged, beaten down, hurt, or wounded, but you don’t have to stay there. You can’t possibly be a victim, you’ve come through too many trials, too much pain and heartache and you’re still here. You’re a victor.

Success or failure stem from the same source, they’re the sum of habits repeated day in and day out.

You must find YOUR truth for yourself.

You own the minutes and hours in every day and if you want today to be different from yesterday start doing something different. Create some new thoughts or new actions and start repeating THEM day in and day out.

Find that place within where everything is possible. Decide to make every single day the best day of your life so far.

If you find your mind tends to want to do it’s own thing. Join the club. We all have minds that like to worry, to doubt, to fear. What if you fail?  Well, what if you don’t? What if you’re about to fly?

You’ll never know what you’re capable of if you carry on believing you’re lost or powerless and you don’t know what to do next, or you don’t know how to do things differently. These are just beliefs. Stop giving them power by repeating them on a daily basis.

Make today the day you decide life is a magical journey, and magical things will happen.

If you want to know the freedom of living fearlessly. If you want to pick the rose and never notice the thorns, or take pleasure in the rainbow without worrying about the rain then it’s time to get up, dust yourself off, and get going.

You’re here. You matter. Make your life count.

I bet you have your own stories and lessons to share. I’d love to hear what’s worked or what hasn’t so please leave a comment and let me know.

I hope you enjoyed the post enough to share on your favourite social networks, together let’s bring more encouragement into the world!.  

Encourage one another.

Love Elle


Elle Sommer is the author of 4 books and a workbook. Her latest publications are a series called The Power of Consciousness, and you will find all three books in this trilogy now available on Kindle. She shares quotes, inspiration and positive vibes on Facebook, Instagram and Pinterest. And her greatest desire is to encourage and inspire others to create not just a good life, but a phenomenal life.


  1. This is just what I needed today as I have just become aware of a slice of fear coming up and wanting to hold me back. I appreciate your encouragement, Elle. I was especially struck by this quote, “…‘it’s not until we’re lost that we begin to understand ourselves’. I think that’s so true!

    • ElleSommer

      Hello Sandra,I know what you mean about things popping up,seemingly out of the blue and it’s always good to know that something wonderful will be coming out of it. If only we could get to that point of belief a little sooner, right? 🙂

  2. Hi Elle,

    I remember when I used to think that things had to be perfect to move forward. Then one day it just hit me. If I keep waiting for the the right time I could be waiting forever.

    It that time I realized that sometimes you just have to make the right time. Whatever isn’t good about it, work it out.

    “You’re always the winner as you gain the priceless gift of experience. ” I couldn’t have said it better. Growing pains come with much needed wisdom.


    • ElleSommer

      Hi Lea, nice to see you again. As a recovering perfectionist, believe me when I say I know of what you speak!! Thanks for sharing your insights and experiences, we can all grow and learn from one another. And it’s always good to know we’re not in this by ourselves. 🙂

    • ElleSommer

      It’s such a relief Nikky, when we actually ‘get’ that perfection isn’t an option. Kudos to you for letting it go. I will confess I still have my moments when I almost go there but as soon as I feel that feeling, i’m out of there! 🙂

  3. What a great way to start the day and week! I often find myself slipping into the thoughts that if only I had done this or that differently, or blaming someone else’s influence on me in the past for my current situation. I like the perspective that the difficulties from the past can be used to our advantage in helping us move forward. Thank you!

    • ElleSommer

      Hi Annie, I appreciate you stopping by. Hope you stay in touch and share with our community your insights and experiences in using old difficulties and turning them into a great future. “-)

  4. Wow! Do I need this today! The weekend’s rolling tide brought the news that I was losing a second stream of income; together with the first that dried up 10 days ago, I now have no regular money coming in. And somehow, except for an occasional rant from my inner fear tyrant, I am okay. I know beyond any shadows of doubt that I’m okay because of blog posts like this one today, Elle. I’m serious.

    Your words are a lifeline: “You can’t possibly be a victim, you’ve come through too many trials, too much pain and heartache and you’re still here. You’re a victor.”

    Thank you for continuing to show up at just the right times for me!

    Peace and love–

    • ElleSommer

      I’m so, so sorry Beth. It’s bad enough when stuff like this shows up, but somehow seems to be magnified at this time of year. You, dear one, are a real trouper. Knowing you’re ok despite the appearances you’re not takes courage and faith and it seems you have them in spades. I’ve found that persistence in knowing I’m ok gets stuff I want showing up and being consistent in always knowing this is true, regardless, keeps it there.

      You know I’ve got my imagination working overtime for you right now, don’t you? So don’t be surprised when something wonderful turns up! 🙂

  5. This is such an inspiring post, Elle. I love this line, “The good news is that every setback has within it a comeback.” There are many who feel that they can never move forward out of the challenges that they are facing. What worked for me was to change my attitude. Look for the positive moments, set goals about how you want your life to change and before you know it, things will look for positive and a little brighter! Take care!

    • ElleSommer

      Hi Cathy I’m glad you enjoyed it. Funny how we can think we’re the only ways who get knocked over and find it hard to get up. I love your advice about looking for he positive moments and I know what you say will be encouraging to many. I’m so appreciative that you take the time to share your insights with us. Thank you Cathy. 🙂

  6. Thanks for the boost of motivation after reading this. Now time to unleash that inner power.

    • ElleSommer

      Hello Andy and thanks for joining the conversation. Hopefully your boost of inner power took you into the stratosphere of great things. 🙂

  7. Thanks Elle for another great post. I read your post and it is though you are talking to me. Isn’t it funny how pain, struggles, heartaches, losses and setbacks all have the same feel no matter who is going through it and at what time and place?
    You are such an encouraging source for me. I am rejuvenated, energized, motivated and inspired every time I read your post.
    Thanks for you encouraging words. I love the paragraph on “difficult path leads to great destination”. that gives me the hope I need to keep going.

    • ElleSommer

      What you say is so true Rose. Doesn’t really matter who we are or where we are in the world, we all feel the same things. None of us are unscathed it’s just a matter of how we choose to manage the pain and when we’re ready to pick ourselves up. I’ve said it before I know, but I strongly believe we’re all in this together and with one another’s support and encouragement we can make the journey easier and happier for us all. 🙂

  8. Hi, This post is just in time, I have a friend who needed a lot of this kind of encouragement, she feels hopeless due to some marital issues. I’ll be sharing your great pots with her. Thanks you so much!

    • ElleSommer

      I do hope your friend finds some comfort and solace in reading this Sherill. How great for her that she has a wonderful friend like you, who’s looking out for her. Blessings to you both. 🙂

  9. Hi Ellie

    This is an awesome post and you really hit my soul. A wonderful reminder of what we are capable of becoming when we are tough and don’t give up. You are right about perfection. There is beauty in imperfection and the reason is what you have mentioned. We can always keeping being better.

    Thanks again and have a wonderful weekend.

    • ElleSommer

      Hi Ikechi – I so appreciate you taking the time to share your views with our community – you are making a difference my friend. 🙂

  10. Hi ElleSommer.
    I also tell my opinion, my story.
    One way that I discover in myself is, find something that I love then do it, but it can serve to other people. This help me don’t waste time to know what is mean with me or what I am working for. Big key is we must give out more to receipt more. This is my direction that lead things I have lack or weakness will be improve by my efforts. I also want to share this massage to other people. Let people live enjoy, don’t waste time, and people deserve with good things.
    Thank for share great post

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