My Darling One used to be a body builder.  Not a champion in the strict sense of the word, but he trained with Mr. Korea, if that counts?   He’s still a gym rat, dedicated to keeping fit. And all this discipline is difficult for a whiny, do I really have to walk today…its too windy, kind of girl, like me to grasp.  The dedication and discipline required just to build a regular old bod, let alone a Mr. or Mrs Korea is beyond my ken.  (ken…not a name, just a Scottish expression for that’s beyond my tiny mind to get around.)

SF Gay Parade 2006: COLT guys

What about this?  Muscular, much?  And dedicated?  Incredibly so.  Disciplined?  Most definitely.

To lead a bigger, grander, greater life, we all need this.  No, not the huge muscles…it’s the training, the dedication, the discipline I’m talking about. And it’s not our body that needs training.  Well speaking for myself, maybe just a little. Okay, maybe a lot, if I want to move those extra ten pounds that somehow showed up over the holidays, for no reason at all, and certainly not because I ate Christmas cake, and cookies and candy and did I mention Christmas cake?

Having extra layers around my rear end isn’t what I mean by a bigger life. It’s a life of greater possibilities, of happier outcomes and a grander future.  And in order to experience this, we must alter our mental musings.  We must train our mind to focus on the things we desire, the events we’d like to experience, the relationships we want to have.

Thoughts are the parent of our actions, the force behind our world.  And to have a beautiful world on the outside, we need to keep our attention on beautiful things within.

What Have I Done?

Isn’t it liberating, and powerful to understand that all in our world is a reflection of our own mental activity?  That all conditions are reflections of our state of mind?  And once this awareness sinks in, naturally, we instantly want to change the world into our ideal.  I know I did and yes, I’m still a work in progress. This is where the discipline and dedication come in.  If we’re to succeed we must change our habit of thinking.

A great place to start, is to stop consistently listening to and reading the news.  We’re all affected by everything our mind is regularly exposed to.  Instead fill your mind with what you want.  It’ll feel so much better, honest.

Stop reacting to the events of the day and begin creating new events…in your imagination.  Create a mini-play mentally…go on…you can do it.  You’re the star of this mini-play, everyone tells you what you want to hear, hey, it’s your play and your script, you get to write what you want.  Include speech and action…anything that feels real to you.  Just make it large and…lovely.

Are you ready?  Let’s go.  Oh, and don’t forget to breathe…keep to the effortless way.

And remember to encourage each other.

Love Elle.



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Elle Sommer is the author of 4 books and a workbook. Her latest publications are a series called The Power of Consciousness, and you will find all three books in this trilogy now available on Kindle. She shares quotes, inspiration and positive vibes on Facebook, Instagram and Pinterest. And her greatest desire is to encourage and inspire others to create not just a good life, but a phenomenal life.


  1. Great advice! I stopped reading and watching the news too when I realized how it was affecting my mood.

    • Elle

      Wow. Good for you Sage. I think it took me a little longer than you to get the connection. You’re impressive.

  2. Wow! A little beefcake with the spirituality, now why didn’t I think of that?
    Wonderful, Elle!

    • Elle

      Glad you liked it Dore. I thought it was a cute picture.

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