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There’s a strong possibility that there’s something in your life you would like to change and toxic distractions get in the way of that.
We all would like to have everything we want in life. Preferably this very minute. Right?
Sadly, life doesn’t work that way.
Life never offers us what we want, because it can’t. It can only offer us who we are.
Which means everything that’s happening within us is what requires our attention most. We have to be careful of the words we whisper to ourselves, the assumptions we make about us and others and the attitude we bring to every situation we encounter.
In other words we have to move away from the outer physical world which relentlessly streams information to us and spend more time consciously being aware of what’s going on within.
The first one is easily done. Turn everything off. Turn off your notifications, email, facebook, twitter, etc and stop checking your cell phone every 5 minutes. Easy.
It’s the more subtle inner distractions that grab our attention and play havoc with our ability to concentrate our energy on our best future.
If you’re ready to stop your toxic mental distractions from getting in the way of what you want in life, it doesn’t take much.
What is needed is the desire for change, the awareness of the toxic distractions that get in your way and the discipline to practice new ways of being until you get the results you want. If you already know what you want, apart from wanting to eliminate toxic distractions, then you’re off to a good start.
Instead, most of us don’t have a clue and have no idea what we truly want.
But we could begin with the thing that will motivate us to do what we need to do to have what we want to have.
Sometimes, we just need to take time to reflect on what it is that really matters most, and one way of identifying that is to think about what is missing from our life and what will motivate us to make the changes we need.
‘I think motivation is yearning combined with a belief in what’s possible for you,’ says US life coach Martha Beck.
In short, learning what really motivates you can be the catalyst for ridding yourself of toxic distractions that stop you getting what you want.
Distraction one – mental clutter
Mental clutter is as big a distraction as physical clutter. Both create disharmony in your life. When we have something on our minds that we decide is important, our mind does what it’s designed to do to keep things vital to us at the forefront of our thinking. It simply plays out the important ideas in an unending, often times, stressful loop.
One thing that helps me with mental clutter is to put everything I WANT to do on my calendar and it gets clear pretty soon that there isn’t enough time for all the wants, leaving me to have to choose the things I NEED to do.
Once you see your calendar has everything that needs to be done, your brain will relax knowing the important things are being handled, leaving you free to practice new ways of thinking to support you in the results that lead you to a happier, more fulling life, with fewer toxic distractions.
Distraction two – negativity and poison
Don’t allow those who spread negativity and misery to be front and center in your life. They’ll suck the spirit right out of you and distract you from focusing your thoughts on all the things you want to accomplish and to experience.
Those who would dump their criticism and resentment on to you don’t deserve a place in your world.
Gravitate towards those who offer you support and encouragement and turn the volume down on those who would rain on your parade. Only you can stop giving so much power to those who doubt you. Only you can rise above words that will poison and diminish your spirit.
And only you can choose to keep the negative voices at bay and let the supportive voices in.
Remember to leave enough room in your life for those who would help you reach the mountain top, those who believe in you and those who show you the greatness in you when it’s hard to see it for yourself.
Distraction three – grudges
Life is too short for a lifetime grudge and we, none of us, have the time to hold on to past experiences that continue to poison our hearts.
I’ve held on to grudges far too long and to moments in life that were long gone, yet they continued to be a distraction in my life. Which needless to say didn’t give me peace, or happiness. It wasn’t until I took an inventory of what could be considered a toxic distraction that I noticed these ‘could have’ or ‘should have’ elements that nurtured nothing and spoiled everything.
Sometimes we just need to accept that we’ll never get the apology we think we deserve.
Peace of mind can’t exist when a heart is filled with resentment or anger, so do yourself a favor and let it go and then you can escape the prison of the past and enjoy the present and that brilliant future that might just be waiting for you to let go of what cannot get you there.
This gives you time to take a breath and relax enough for something new to enter your consciousness and you can use that mental energy to move you forward.
Distraction four – seeking happiness outside of yourself
Your happiness lies in your hands only. If you’re not happy with how you see yourself, change it. Don’t look for others for your happiness.
Realize that somewhere within you is a huge supply of happiness, always there, patiently waiting for you to reach out and grab it. It’s yours for the asking. And you ask by giving it your attention.
Having a happy relationship with you is the only way you can share happiness with another.
Make yourself a priority and remember the longest relationship you’ll ever have is the one you have with yourself. Make it great.The most liberating and empowering time of your life might well be the day you free yourself from this self-destructive nonsense that your happiness is dependent on what others say or do.
Distraction five – the worry habit
Worry is using the incredible gift of your imagination to infuse life into something you never want to see in your world. It’s one of the biggest distractions of all.
Worry is like a false alarm that rings when there isn’t a fire in sight, other than the fire you’re creating in your mind.
Look back and you’ll often see that all the things you worried about have been handled and often they led you to being a stronger person, in a better place.
So smile and tell your worries you’ve had it with them, and don’t allow your mind to get you tangled up in the mental tricks it likes to play.
Over to you…
What’s your biggest toxic distraction? And what helps you switch your attitude from negative to positive when those distractions are stressful and painful? We would love to hear from you in the comments below with your thoughts and insights.
Encourage one another.