Updated January 2023
Do you know why you’re not living the life of your dreams?
Are you stuck in a life that doesn’t feel like your own? You may be surprised to learn that the obstacles keeping you from living out your dream life could be within yourself.
The truth of it is that getting to that dream life isn’t something you have to chase after it’s something that arrives because you become the person who lives it. I know it sounds backward, but bear with me.
Every desire, and every goal you have stemmed from the desire to be happy. No argument there. Right?
Life’s happiness and richness don’t always come from achieving a goal. In the process of fulfilling your goals or desires of having your dream life, you evolve your being, becoming the amazing, brilliant, wonderful person you were intended to be.
And that’s what I mean by a dream life arriving without you needing to chase after it.
Life can be magical with a little training
Part of life’s magic is the belief that your dreams can come true. And once you understand that it takes the same amount of energy to have a miserable day as to have one filled with joy and excitement, you can train yourself to use your energy to enjoy a daily dose of happiness.
In the end, it’s simply accepting which one is more likely to lead to fulfilling your dreams.
Our challenge is that we’re good at focusing on our shortcomings. We practice it almost daily. And too many of us live by chance, not by choice. Don’t do this to yourself.
You can choose the thoughts you think, the beliefs you hold, the assumptions you make, and the things you accept as true. These are the stuff dreams are made of.
The difference between those living more of their dreams than the rest of us is their ability to direct their thoughts to use the power of their focus.
Know that you, and only you, get to say how you’ll spend the rest of your life. And if you’re tired of watching your dreams slip away, remember that they only die because they are starved of the nourishment they need to flourish. And that nourishment is focus and attention.
You can live a rich, happy, fulfilling life when you commit to breathing life into those dreams of yours.
It’s time to put your foot down and check out some of the reasons holding you back. So let’s get started on exploring some of the common reasons people find themselves stuck and hopefully this will help you break free and get closer to achieving your dreams.
1. You don’t ask quality questions
When I was 15 I used to ask myself ‘is this all there is’? It’s a terrible question, and It took years and then more years to discover that there was much more to life than I’d been capable of seeing.
Learn to ask better questions if you’re ready to live the life of your dreams.
Am I living like I mean it?
What is the one thing I’d most like to change about my life?
How can I gain more control over life?
What one thing could I do today that would make a difference tomorrow?
Am I proud of the life I’m living?
What’s stopping me?
Do I fall asleep every night with a sense of satisfaction?
2. It’s essential to raise your standards
Decide what you’ll no longer tolerate in your life. And raise your standards. This is a great way to move toward the life of your dreams.
Write down what’s no longer acceptable for you to do, and then add all the things you want to do and the person you’re choosing to become. And then begin to change yourself, one belief at a time.
Pick a belief, any belief that you can see is probably holding you back and begin to affirm the complete opposite. We can’t live in two opposing states of mind simultaneously, so make your self-talk confirm who you’ve decided to be right now.
Don’t minimize yourself. You are one with the divine, which makes it a lot more possible for you than you have so far experienced.
Don’t be afraid to turn off the tv, read more, meditate or contemplate more. You’ll increase the quality of your life by holding yourself to higher standards and adopting and practicing new empowering beliefs.
You can’t turn back the clock, but you can begin anew. The journey to your dreams requires that you look back on the experiences of life and be willing to ditch everything that didn’t work well. Your past contains the wisdom for your future.
Don’t wait; life is here now; take a risk and live it at a higher level.
3. You never change your mind
To change your life, you have to change your mind. Remember, your mind is a powerful, magnetic thing. When you fill it with thoughts that feel good, your life will change.
It might be hard, but not nearly as dangerous as sticking with the attitudes of mind that got you in this fix in the first place. Be brave. Be willing to explore the darkness, and you’ll discover the incredible power of your inner light.
If you can imagine it, you can live it.
Remember, within you is a dream that you were meant to live, that only you can live because in this vast world, you are amazingly, awesomely unique.
4. Decide what’s really important in your life
If your life is cluttered. If you can’t distinguish between the important and urgent, your life becomes unmanageable and overwhelming.
Don’t get blinded by the needless distractions of today; keep your eye on the endgame. You’re more likely to give up on your dreams if you maintain a short-term focus. Believe in yourself. Believe anything is possible. Believe and trust your intuition and follow your dream.
Success or failure depends on those little choices you make every day. Commit to long-term results by knowing what you want, seeing the vision every day, and giving up the short-term quick fix.
Stand guard at the gate of your mind, and don’t let anything enter unless it’s helpful, supportive, encouraging, inspiring or uplifting.
5. Your attention isn’t on the best
If you knew and believed that your thoughts were creating your future, would you change any of them?
Your thoughts radiate outward like a beacon, attracting the events and experiences of tomorrow. Whatever you’re telling yourself today will energize or discourage you.
Instead of thinking of everything that could go wrong, put your attention on what could go right. Neither has happened yet; why use your precious energy to create something you’ll be sorry for down the road?
Find ways to open your heart to new and bigger ideas.
Challenge your current view of life. Don’t mistake the good for excellent. It takes courage, but you are endowed with everything you need to change your life, and your world…one thought, one belief at a time.
6. Excuses are easier than accepting your power
We make an error in judgment and then we go through life trying to excuse ourselves for it rather than accepting that we made a mistake.
We blame somebody else; we blame circumstances instead of saying:
“I am the only one that has any power in the processes of my mind, and what I have thought has brought me where I am this very minute. I am responsible for my thoughts, and I can change my life by changing my thinking.”
Great outcomes result from doing more than your excuses allow, risking more than you’ve dared to risk, and dreaming more than others think is good for you.
How can you get what you want when you’re focused on all the excuses for not having it? Eliminate your excuses, and you’ll have to live with being unbelievably awesome.
Ultimately life isn’t about what you can do; it’s what you WILL do. Before your dreams can come true, you have to dream them.
Final thoughts on living the life of your dreams
Take a step back and look at the big picture of what living your dream life looks like.
Are you in the job you always dreamed of?
Do you have financial freedom?
What kind of lifestyle have you created for yourself and those close to you?
Then once you can see the path forward, compare where you are now to where you ultimately want to be because identifying the gap between them can help shed light on why you haven’t achieved your goals yet.
Encourage one another.