[success]Ever tried. Ever failed. No matter. Try Again. Fail again. Fail better. ~ Samuel Beckett[/success]

How many times have you let what you couldn’t do, interfere with what you could do?  We’ve all been in the same boat, with a choice to either accept things as they are or decide we have the power to change them.  And we have, and we can.

It’s time to stop worrying about yesterday’s failures; time to pick yourself up and start over.  So things didn’t work out as planned…we’ve all been there…and we’ll probably all be there again.  All being guided by our own private steering committee, charting a new course here and adjusting the old course there.

Life is a true voyage of discovery.  And every now and then we need to slow down, take a breath, look around and decide if it’s time to alter course, or even start all over again.

Lately I’ve been asked more than once, fine, but where do I begin?

As the King said to Alice “Begin at the beginning, and go on till you come to the end.”

What do I want…is always the beginning.  If we don’t know where we’re going it’s pretty hard to get there. We have to wake up to what we want if we’re going to have our dreams come true.

First pillar to starting over – choice

Something happens we don’t like.  We failed to accomplish what we wanted.  Or maybe we’re just ready to chart a new course.  Whatever it is, it triggers a desire for something better.

Great, now we know what we want. And since creation is a done deal…our only job is to keep ourselves in the state of consciousness that allows us to receive our desire. 

No discouragement allowed…we’re all starting from where we are.

Begin by choosing the outcome.

Use as many senses as you can and create a fabulous scene in your imagination.

The desire is fulfilled. You feel excited. What does it look like, feel like, maybe even taste like? What are you doing, what are you saying, what are your friends saying to you, or about you?

It’s not about hoping for great things, it’s about creating the images in your mind and feeling how you would feel if it were true.


 Second Pillar to starting over – moods

As we live in these images in our mind we’re making an impression on our subconscious mind, within which lies our invisible power. We’re creating a vibration of success instead of a vibration of need, which is the vibration we occupy when we don’t have something.

Whilst the whole vast universe works with us, it isn’t through our thoughts, but through our feelings, because our feelings create the vibration of energy we live in.

As we focus on greater things, the lesser thoughts, feelings and experiences are given the boot, because we’re no longer giving them life.  We are the life givers for every event, experience and encounter we have in our world.

Think about that.  Every experience we had and have, were given life and birth by me and thee…and if you’ve read a few of my posts you’ll know I’ve had some lulus.

Which means it’s time to manage our moods.

Try feeling and holding a state of expectancy.

A state of expectancy is an amazing and bountiful thing, but the state of uncertainty that occupies too much of our thinking simply can’t bring our desired results.  It’s the polar opposite vibration of the energy we need to occupy.

We weren’t born to live in fear, but to live in joy, in love, in the beauty all around.

Don’t wait for your great moods to arrive, set them up yourself by focusing on the great and the lovely and brighten the corner of the world in which you live.

Third pillar to starting over – action

Taking action.  This one is a biggie because we’re so conditioned to working out ‘how’ something will occur.  Some of us write lists, some of us use our intellect to figure out a way to make it happen, but that’s not the way.

Think of it like this.  All our actions are brought about through our subconscious mind.  The state of mind, or vibration we currently occupy contains within it every action it needs to manifest itself in our outer world.

That means every idea we currently have, or every time we try to figure out how to get our desire fulfilled, and any action we might take, stem from our current level of consciousness, and, you guessed it, will draw to us the exact same experiences we’ve decided to change.

Hmmm, hang on a minute, we’re set on entering a new state of mind because we want to experience new events and experiences and people.  We’ve just decided to start over and we can’t do that whilst we’re still operating from our old state of mind.

Now it’s time to set our subconscious to work to bring our new state of mind into being.

Before doing anything and yes that includes writing a list of how-to’s, we need to invest plenty of time in steps one and two. That’s the action we need to take.  Active inaction.

Don’t try to force manifestation, don’t meddle in the middle, it’s going to work against you.  What we’re seeking is inspired action.   There’s never any need to force. If we would just allow it, the power within us can put everything together…it’s perfectly capable of connecting the dots.

In fact it does a much, much better job than we, from our limited perspective ever could.

We all have an inner guidance system. Be prepared to listen, and pay attention to signals, however subtle.  Maybe you have a new thought, a new idea, an action that you’ve never taken before, yet feel compelled to now. That’s the right time to take action.

Rest safe in the knowledge that you might not know how your desire will be fulfilled, but you know it’s a done deal.

I like to say, okay show me if there’s something I need to do, right now, that helps manifest my desire.  If I get a prompt I act.  If not… I persist in steps one and two and tune in every now and then to see if I’ve missed one of those subtle prompts.

You might get an intuitive ‘hit’ or read something that strikes a chord, or someone says something in conversation.  Trust that you’re being guided to the people and situations that move you ever closer to your happy outcome.

Allow for something even better than you’ve imagined to show up.  Most often I receive things in ways I couldn’t have foreseen as even being possible.

So you missed a sign and an opportunity passed you by.  So what…there’s plenty more available.  The stream of opportunities is never going to run dry. Remember, the universal laws of life are unlimited and there’s no shortage of anything.

Lastly, I wish you a whole lot of love on your journey.

Now take a close look at your own life.  What’s one area that you’d like to tweak a little, or even start over?

Can you proactively use these pillars to make your journey easier and more joyful?

Leave a comment and let me know. If you have any stories, tips or thoughts to share on this topic we all want to hear them.  You might just write the very thing someone needed to hear in their corner of the world.

And as always, encourage one another.  We all need a little encouragement.


Elle Sommer is the author of 4 books and a workbook. Her latest publications are a series called The Power of Consciousness, and you will find all three books in this trilogy now available on Kindle. She shares quotes, inspiration and positive vibes on Facebook, Instagram and Pinterest. And her greatest desire is to encourage and inspire others to create not just a good life, but a phenomenal life.


  1. Elle,
    I think you described something very well which we all either can directly relate to, or that we understand is part of the process, even though we struggle. Any time we start anew, sometimes we believe that we are powerless to fate, and the choice to start over was put upon us. Not so — we can always move to conscious choice and take control. We have the power of choice.

    When we move to the second pillar, moods, if we are choosing to entertain the negative energy and thoughts, we will be resisting more than encouraging the change. I think what you said about focusing on “greater things” really helps ths. We sometimes get to believe that we can’t choose what we focus on — the thoughts choose us!

    Moving into action is the hardest — I know it is for me! All the fears, doubts, resistances, and the like can creep in. I think, however, if we are sound within the first two pillars and take care of those, the action pillar is much more a pleasure than a drudgery.

    Nicely done. 🙂

    • Elle

      Thanks for sharing your insights and perspectives Victor. You’ve hit the nail on the head Victor…building a strong foundation is key in everything we do. I hear you about the fears and doubts…sometimes I’m not certain if I’m excited or afraid…so I just focus on the first two pillars, safe in the knowledge I obviously did what I needed to do, because in my mind I’m experiencing it. It all begins within. 🙂

  2. Just call me A.

    Elle, what a brilliant post! It is as if it were written for me and spoke directly to me! I have been grappling with this topic for a while now. Though I feel better about it and understand it intellectually, my heart strings still get tugged, making me sad, but I know what you speak of is true!

    Society still does not think so well about those who start all over again. but the great news is that this happens all the time and it is happening more and more and we do not have to care about anything outside of us. That is how things go smoothly.

    Faith is the most important thing. I like to give the example of the faith required by Indiana Jones to get to the other side of the cave to get to the holy water to save his father who got shot by the bad guys. That is the type of faith that carries me through.

    • Elle

      Intellectual understanding is what allows us to begin our practice of conscious living and I so appreciate you sharing your perspective with us. It’s often a good thing that we don’t follow society in every respect, most people don’t know where they’re going, so better we forge our own path. *Love* the Indiana Jones analogy. 🙂

  3. Joseph Appaloosa

    I am so grateful that you fielded those inquiries as to “where to begin” and that it sparked this lovely article to be written. Elle. you lay it all out so wonderfully, I feel like we just discussed it over a nice cup of tea. I’ve taken to heart, ” expectancy vs uncertainty”, ” we were born to live in joy”, “allow for something even better” . . .
    Thank you !
    Write on, Elle !

    • Elle

      I like that Joseph…a little chat over a nice cup of tea would be just up my alley. Always appreciate you stopping by dear heart. 🙂

  4. It is important I think to take action and not worry too much about the results. I have found that just focusing on the action usually leads to results I like, not necessarily results I expected, but results that in the end were for the best.

    I think many people get stuck in feeling hopeless because they think it is too late to make a change when in reality it is never to late. As your first pillar illustrates. You always have a choice!

    • Elle

      Thanks for your perspective Sebastian…always appreciate your comments. 🙂

  5. Elle,
    Every post just gets better and better over here. I get this stuff at a deeper level each time I visit!

    As we focus on greater things, the lesser thoughts, feelings and experiences are given the boot, because we’re no longer giving them life. We are the life givers for every event, experience and encounter we have in our world.

    If we really got this another negative thought, word or deed would never occur again in our lives.

    Thanks for the regular wake up calls! xoxo

    • Elle

      Thanks Tess…you are so right…and your point about getting it deeper is absolutely the truth. As we become more and more aware, it makes it so much easier to practice focusing on greater things…and I say a big thanks for that every day. 🙂

  6. Hmmm… I don’t think I’ve ever really practiced holding a state of expectancy that didn’t feel like need/desperation. I’m going to have to try that out!

    • Elle

      Welcome Britt. It’s always wonderful to see the world through another perspective. I’ve never thought of expectancy as a feeling of desperation. Isn’t it interesting the connotations we place on words…which is why it’s a blooming good job there’s a lot of people saying encouraging things using a lot of different words. Appreciate your insight. 🙂

  7. Dear Elle-
    Each time I read your posts- I say ‘yes, yes, yes’….
    These 3 pillars are a work in progress. For me, the living/feeling my dreams in my imagination is the place where I’m living right now. it is a real discipline but people like the Hicks, Neville Goddard, Byron Katie, and a few others – including you dear Elle – help me to get back on track if I fall off the wagon and to keep me steady -xxoo-Fran

    • Elle

      You and I are working from the same page I think Fran. And whilst it’s true that discipline is needed, not forgetting persistance, it’s amazing how if we stick to it, it comes together amazingly well I must say I love being grouped together with the likes of Neville Goddard et al! That’s hugely complimentary since he’s one of my heroes. 🙂

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