If you want to create a better tomorrow, you can start by unlocking your greater self.

Have you ever wished to bring about a change in your life but failed? 

I have more often than I can count.

And we can come up with all the excuses on the planet. Still, everything outside of ourselves is in the minor leagues when it comes to making changes.

The truth is we are the one and only key to getting the change we want. Write this down. And keep it handy to regularly remind yourself: “I am the key to my future.” 

You see, the magic is in you.

You were designed for accomplishment, engineered for success, and endowed with the seeds of greatness. – Zig Ziglar.

Unlocking your greater self is the key to your future

Gaining a greater understanding of yourself and achieving your desired life begins with you.

If you work harder on yourself than anything else, and you will open the door to your greater self. 

Don’t ever stop learning. This will bring more than increased knowledge. You’ll also experience increased purpose and more satisfaction in life, and it will also open you to a genuine understanding of the power within to create your best future.

Knowing this, you can check out if this next category is you in action.

“Without continual growth and progress, such words as improvement, achievement, and success have no meaning.” – Benjamin Franklin.

Focusing on what you can’t control

Maybe it would be awesome if we could control everyone and everything in our life. Maybe not. I don’t know.

But while the magic of our greater self is available to us all, it doesn’t run to being the one in control of all life.

As a retired control freak, I know it sounds scary to give it up, but it never worked anyway. It was just exhausting and utterly ineffective. 

Worrying about matters outside of our realm of influence or trying to force situations to play out a certain way is not only futile, but it also uses up much of our mental energy. At least, that’s what I learned over many a long year.

So stop wasting your energy trying to control every aspect of life.It’s an impossible task. 

Once you relinquish this compulsive attempt to micromanage life, you will have more time and energy to focus on managing the things in your life that matter to you. But just be certain they are only the things you can actually do something about.

There’s a big difference between managing circumstances, something we all have to do, and trying to control them.

Here are some of the benefits you’ll experience from giving up the need to control everything:

More happiness. Recognizing the only thing in your control is you will enable you to feel a lot happier than thinking you can control everything.

Less stress. When you stop behaving like the master of the universe with control over everything, stress, and anxiety diminish.

Increased confidence. Contrary as it sounds, the need to control everything leaves no room for change because it’s hard to control the outcome. 

“Incredible change happens in your life when you decide to take control of what you do have power over instead of craving control over what you don’t.” Steve Maraboli.

Living on autopilot

Once you gain a greater understanding of yourself, much of how you operate in the world becomes easier to see. For example, you can notice how often you merely go through your daily routine without being present.

This leads to mistakes, missed opportunities, and, worst of all, you miss life’s richness and the sheer beauty of existence. It’s no way to unlock your greater potential.

To prevent yourself from living each day mostly on autopilot, use the following tips:

Take regular breaks to scan your body and notice your thoughts and feelings. Please don’t allow them to sweep you away; merely become aware of what they are.

Practice self-awareness by reflecting on the actions you’ve taken throughout the day.

Take a moment to disconnect from technology to focus on being present.

You will have given yourself a greater chance of noticing and seizing opportunities that may have been in front of you all along but were tuned out.

To be more mindful and present, set daily reminders to snap you out of autopilot mode.

“Be where you are; otherwise, you will miss your life.”  Siddhartha Gautama

The Alice realization

Do you remember the story of Alice in Wonderland: the bit where the caterpillar asked, “Who are you?”

And Alice suddenly realized what is true for us all. While some parts of us are stable, others can change and evolve.

This means that many of our beliefs about our self-identity can be changed. It’s unnecessary to be stuck in old ways that don’t form part of our greatest selves. They can be changed.

So no matter what beliefs you have held about yourself in the past, many of them can be replaced through a mental reconditioning process.

This means continually priming your mind to focus on what you want and who you want to be. 

It’s that simple.

“I wonder if I’ve been changed in the night. Let me think. Was I the same when I got up this morning? I almost think I can remember feeling a little different. But if I’m not the same, the next question is ”Who in the world am I?” Lewis Carroll Alice in Wonderland

Within you lies a greater self. One with all the skills and talents and a perfect place in our universe. You can find it and align yourself with it.

Never forget that the universe is stacked in your favor, not against you. Even if it doesn’t always seem that way.

And ultimately it is you: that more profound and powerful you that awaits.

The truth of you is as Zig Ziglar said:

 “You were designed for accomplishment, engineered for success, and endowed with the seeds of greatness.”” 

It’s all there for you. Your job is to step up and start unlocking your greater self and use your untapped potential to create a better tomorrow.

Encourage one another.

Love Elle



Elle Sommer is the author of 4 books and a workbook. Her latest publications are a series called The Power of Consciousness, and you will find all three books in this trilogy now available on Kindle. She shares quotes, inspiration and positive vibes on Facebook, Instagram and Pinterest. And her greatest desire is to encourage and inspire others to create not just a good life, but a phenomenal life.


  1. Wow, that’s a really deep question from Alice! These three steps are powerful, Elle. I especially like the encouragement to surrender these false notion that we can control almost everything. That just creates a lot of suffering.

  2. I love the Alice in Wonderland analogy It’s so true. If we want to change, change is always possible. Thank you for the encouragement and wisdom.

  3. Brian A. Hill

    Dear Elle,

    Just quick note to offer my tons of respect and appreciation for the amazing person you are. If we were all a smidgeon of the blessing you are, the world we be nirvana. Thank you for being you. Abundant blessings to you.

  4. Elle, I love the wisdom in this piece, especially: “There’s a big difference between managing circumstances, something we all have to do, and trying to control them.” And I always think it’s valuable to contemplate the question, “Who am I.” We may get different answers in different phases of our life.

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