When you understand, that what you’re telling is just a story. It isn’t happening anymore. When you realize the story you’re telling is just words, when you can just crumble up and throw your past in the trashcan, then we’ll figure out who you’re going to be. ~ Chuck Palahniuk
There are times when you just don’t feel like doing anything. Trust me, you’re not alone.
You know you should be doing something, but you just don’t feel like it. In fact the thought of taking action is overwhelming and stressful. Motivation is missing in action.
And this can be magnified during the holidays.
For many, the arrival of the holiday season fills them with dread. They allow past experiences to interfere with the present and it’s easy for us all to allow old expectations and demands of family and ourselves to put a damper on our happiness leaving us feeling more frazzled and out of sorts.
If you experience stress and lack of motivation, and who doesn’t, sometimes, then it’s time to bring your inner optimist to the fore. An optimistic heart is buried within everyone; optimism is a skill that even the pessimists among us can acquire.
Remember that you aren’t confined by history. You are in absolute control of your life’s experiences, starting right now, and here’s some tips to that will come easily to your optimistic heart if you would but allow it free reign.
Find kindness in your heart
To experience a positive difference requires that you must be different. Not always easy when those around you seem stuck in the same place and are confused and maybe a little annoyed that you’re responding in an entirely new way.
If you can extend love and kindness to everyone you meet, with no agenda on your part, life will never be quite the same.
Feeling loving kindness to others not only allows them to eventually relax into a place of feeling cared for, but also develops peace in you.
As Henry James said three things in human life are important: the first is to be kind, the second is to be kind; and the third is to be kind.
If you spend too much time emphasizing the negative in life there’s a good chance you won’t get too many things to be happy about.
Do yourself a favour and remember the times and places where people were wonderful and experiences magnificent and chances are great that your world will reverberate in harmony and you’ll send it spinning in an entirely new direction.
Your tomorrow is a never-ending succession of present moments and living them as you choose is a marvelous triumph.
Spend time thinking and doing things that make you smile.
Have great days
Every day is the best day. Keep this thought in your heart. You did the best you could do. You might not have been perfect, but you owned the day, you were in charge and if it could be better you can own that too.
Forget any mistakes, any missteps, any bungling, any failures or doubts as soon as possible.
Being optimistic is the way towards a better future, because if you don’t believe in having a better future, it’s likely that you’ll let your history interfere with your destiny.
Usually it isn’t what we have, or where we are, or what’s happened to us that makes us feel great or not, it’s how we think about it; how we feel about it.
A grand bargain
Make a bargain with yourself today to step out of the prison of yesterday. Learn from the past but stop living in it. Today’s wonderful journey towards our chosen destiny only truly begins when we’ve allowed ourselves to let go of yesterday.
Achieving greater optimism is a matter of deciding to look at the sunny side of everything; to think of and expect and work towards your best and greatest self.
Just because everyone continues to be the same doesn’t mean you have to follow them. On the contrary this is your opportunity to recognize the happiest moments of your life as you’re living them. Most of us don’t do this enough.
Begin living in joy for every golden moment, because the truth is that everything you desire now is in you; not in outer circumstances, not other people, not your past experiences.
How often have you convinced yourself that nothing changes, that you can’t conquer the circumstances of your life? Not true. You have limitless power to make whatever changes you desire. If you desire to.
You can’t just wish things would change, or hope things will change, you have to embrace it, live it, be it.
Because life shapes the outer world to reflect the inner arrangement of our thoughts and feelings, there is no way of bringing about changes in our experiences other than by transforming ourselves.
We’re always updating our ‘stuff’ our phones, our computers, tablets…whatever, and it’s vital that we keep updating our self. A daily infusion of new concepts and ideas allows you to expand your life into an even more extraordinary one.
You have a creative imagination and an eager spirit and inherent in you is the desire to envision and live your dreams.
Whilst dreaming comes naturally to us, it’s important to remember that if we’re to bring our dreams to fruition we need to be determined and disciplined and brave enough to step out onto a new and different path.
Go ahead and dream your dreams of a happier and stress free time this holiday season, change your story to be of a life of ease and grace, of deeply nurturing and nourishing relationships, or a deeper connection to your God…whatever it is you desire…just remember it needs to be high on your list of things to deliberately focus on, if you want this dream to come true.
I’d love to hear what you’d add to this. Leave your wise words in the comments below.
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Encourage one another.