How do you feel when you meet someone who is super successful?
They’re doing what you’d love to do but haven’t dared try.
Because what if you failed? What if you discovered you couldn’t succeed. What if you did succeed and had to come out of hiding and let yourself be seen?
Whatever reason or excuse you give yourself. Know this. The greatest obstacles to your dreams are fear and doubt.
And they’ll crush every single dream you have. If you let them.
We’re all afraid. It doesn’t mean we can’t be bold, or daring. You can exceed everyone’s expectations, including your own, if you accept fear and doubt as part of the process of living, without letting them run the show.
1. What’s the worst that can happen
If you’re having a hard time sleeping at night, because fear keeps you awake, try focusing on your faith in yourself. Fear loses power from lack of attention.
Fear and doubt will always be there, especially when your desire is to do something bigger than you’ve ever done before. But you don’t have to use your mind to think about things you don’t want to attract.
Don’t be the one who crushes your dream. What would happen if it didn’t come true, but you’d done everything you possible could? You’d have grown. You’d have empowered yourself to seize every opportunity to live in alignment with your dreams and to express your greatest self.
The goal isn’t for life to be perfect, just to be the most epic life you can live.
2. The red riding hood syndrome
We all knew fear when we were kids. And not much has changed since the big bad wolf was crushed by a little girl in a red cloak.
When kids are afraid of the unseen in the dark, or conjure up monsters in every shadow we say they have vivid imaginations.
As adults, our fears are still about scary monsters, but now they’ve turned into perfectionism, rejection, failure, abandonment, judgement, being hurt. And on and on.
We’ve kept those vivid imaginations, only now we’re projecting them into possible future scary scenarios.
You might be swimming in a sea of fear and doubt, but you don’t have to drown in it. Fear isn’t going away anytime soon, for any of us.
It’s a recurring theme of life. It’s just a different animal that keeps showing up, one that can’t hurt you, if you don’t let it.
3. Fear can set you free
There will always be fear. Steve Jobs knew fear, Paul McCartney too and J.K. Rowling said “I was set free because my greatest fear had been realized.”
The successful among us are willing to act despite their fears. They’re willing to be set free because of their fears. Why not you?
Don’t let fear crush your dreams and stop you living the epic life that you, as much as anyone else deserve.
Don’t wait for fear to fade. It will be back with a different name and a new disguise.
Whenever you feel it, acknowledge it’s there and decide to see it as foreshadowing something amazing that’s about to be happen.
Say to yourself “Yes, I’m feeling afraid, and filled with doubts, but I’m ok. I can still see myself accomplishing my goal, enjoying my success and fulfilling my dreams.”
4. Remodeling is messy
Truth be told far too many of us see fears and doubts as big red warnings saying you’d better stop right now! But progress is made by being so absorbed in your dreams and desires that it crowds out most other thoughts.
If life isn’t happy and joyful right now, if you’re honestly not living the life you desire, you know something has to change.
And change is often messy, chaotic and sometimes frightening. Fear of the unknown can be enough to have you back away from even your greatest dream. But once you accept it as part of the process it, once you acknowledge that it’s there, the power it has over you is diminished.
When we remodelled our home it was noisy and dusty and chaotic. Not the best part of remodelling, but we knew it was part of the process of creating something wonderful.
Fear is part of the process of moving forward, of growing of becoming a greater you, of living an epic life. Welcome it as a sign of something wonderful being created.
5. No crushing allowed
Fear will shut you down, crush your dreams and condemn you to a second rate life. Don’t allow that to happen to you.
Or you can’t afford them.
Or you don’t have the skills.
And anyway, it could never happen for you.
There will always be fear. And those who go far in life know that every time you choose to stay where you are, accepting the security of your comfort zone, fear gets reinforced. That’s not good enough for them and it’s not good enough for you.
6. Spiritually speaking
You are limited only by your inability to control your imagination and the lack of attention you’ve given to feeling you have become the one whose dreams have come true.
Use your incredible ability to call up at will any image you choose, or any concept you wish. Why call up ‘worst case’ scenarios and allow those fears to crush your dreams?
It’s up to you to dust off your ability to focus and concentrate on the things you desire. Rearrange your thoughts to stay focused on the outcomes you want and pretty soon those so called ‘lucky breaks’ or the right people in the right place at the right time somehow present themselves.
If you’ve ever wrestled with not being able to bring your dreams to life, I’d love to hear your experiences in the comments below.
If you found this post helpful, please pass it along to your friends, family or closest colleagues…anyone you think could use some support to bring their dreams to life. We’re all experiencing fear but we don’t have to allow it to condemn us to an uninspired life.
Encourage one another.