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[success]Follow your bliss and the universe will open doors for you where there were only walls. ~ Joseph Campbell[/success]
We’re not always aware of our habits. Right? But we all have them and it’s a good thing to clean house every now and then. We need to stop bad habits before they become second nature, before they run away with us and we no longer notice them. We need to let go of the things that create obstacles to happiness. Here’s a few reminders I use to make my life way happier.
The list is short, and if you find it useful, print it and post it where you can see it, or share these ideas with friends who might find them useful as well.
We all benefit when we encourage one another.
1. Stop saying nothing good ever happens
Look at all the times good things have come your way. It doesn’t mean good things have come in a flash of light and a heavenly chorus. You might have been living under a dark cloud and someone quietly brought something good to you. Be awake. Be alert. Often wonderful things are hidden in seemingly insignificant moments.
Wallowing in the belief that nothing good ever happens traps you in a downward negative spiral making it less likely that good things have the space to come into your life. Don’t do that to yourself, you deserve to be way happier.
2. Stop allowing others to decide your dreams
It’s true that we can select our friends, but what about family? Oftentimes it’s a family member who can be less than supportive of your dreams. There’s a simple solution. Don’t share your dreams.
This doesn’t mean you have to keep everything away from your family…there might be some things they’d be happy to support. Use your instincts. If you’re pretty certain that a close family member would be envious or unsupportive of your dreams, keep them to yourself.
Negativity can be a big dream killer and your dreams deserve to thrive, but you need to be committed enough to your vision of life to stop allowing others to come between you and your dreams. They’re only leading you to a future that’s pretty much the same as your present.
3. Put an end to unhealthy attachments
Healthy relationships these days often begin with a healthy relationship with our various electronic devices. If you find yourself being owned by your cell phone, yet want to have better and more connected relationships put that phone away when spending time with loved ones. Same with that screen, turn away and look others in their eyes when they’re speaking to you.
You must tune your attention to what’s important in life. The worst days experienced by those who give their attention to their loved ones are better than the best days of those who do not.
If you truly want to develop and keep your relationships alive and well, nurture them with with some time and attention. Don’t sit idly by while they slip away leaving only memories and remorse and lots more cell phone and computer time…alone.
4. Stop seeking the approval of others
Don’t wait for approval or for the right time. Now is the time. Far too many are addicted to the approval of others. Believing you won’t be loved or accepted unless others approve of your behaviour; or valuing the opinions of others above your own is a sure fire way to be miserable.
Believe in yourself and stop trying to convince others. Take a chance on you and decide to no longer operate from fear. Ask yourself how would my life be different if I stopped worrying what everyone else thought and followed my heart. Remember you’re not responsible for the attitude or beliefs of others, they are. They can only see life through the lens of their own consciousness…and it’s not always a good match to your own. Sure it’s more pleasant if everyone likes you and agrees with you, but if not, let it be okay.
Life becomes far happier and easier when you no longer live your life in bottom gear in fear of not being popular.
Take this little test. Rate yourself on a scale of 1-10, 10 being the highest, how high is your need for approval from others. Then ask your significant other or best friend to rate you. Compare answers.
5. Stop buying into fears that keep you stuck
Kids are often afraid of all kinds of things that really don’t threaten their wellbeing. Like ‘monsters’ under the bed or shadows that look scary.
And many people grow up with fears that equally don’t threaten their wellbeing, yet are powerful enough to put a damper on a happier, life. The fear of rejection, or public speaking, or success, or failure all are grown up versions of ‘monster’ fears that will keep you stuck.
It’s time to stop checking out of life and check into your fears. Be willing to confront your fears head on and ask yourself whether the threat is real or imagined.
Being afraid of an oncoming bus that might run you over is a real threat. That’s the sort of fear that could save your life. Being afraid because you might get embarrassed or not have the right words to speak is a made up threat in your mind. One that prevents you from stepping out and taking a chance and discovering the incredibly powerful you underneath your ‘monster’ fears.
Keep your dominant thoughts on the vision for your future happier life and pursue it fearlessly.
Over to you. I’d love to hear in the comments below the things you need to stop doing to have a way happier life.
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Encourage one another.