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There have been pivotal moments throughout my life when I’ve had to stop and ask myself, what next.
Sometimes the life we had planned slips away, and all the dreams we dreamed vanish into thin air.
I’ve wanted to ask, why me…haven’t we all? But what next is a much better question.
Why me won’t help us in moving ahead, the answer doesn’t matter much anyway; we can’t face down adversity while we’re asking, why me. Just the opposite, chances are we stay put and I doubt that any of us want to sit mourning dead dreams when we could be planting the seeds of new ones.
So we find ourselves at a crossroads, truth be told it can be more like one of those incredibly complicated super interchanges, like spaghetti junction in Birmingham, with it’s massively intertwined roads. Oh yes, that would be Birmingham in England. And yes I’ve been there, and yes it can be complicated.
We want to negotiate these tricky and maybe complex new paths before us with as much ease and grace as we can muster, so here’s a few ways to know we’re on the right track during those major upheavals when everything seems to be falling apart.
You know you’re on track when you can:
1. Ignore the naysayers
There’s always someone who lives with blinkers on, someone who’s placed limitations on their life and their perspective and are perfectly happy for you to join their club. You don’t have to pay attention.
Instead of planting new seeds for new dreams, they’d rather be focused on everything that’s gone wrong, that’s going wrong, and still could go wrong. They’re simply not open to the idea that life expands, that spirit grows and they’re often experiencing lack of love, of joy, of fun and abundance. No need to let their limiting beliefs have any influence on your reality.
As Steve Maraboli says: Don’t think that just because you made it to the next level that the haters and naysayers disappear. Remember, new levels bring new devils.
We stay on track when we can still:
2. Appreciate life
You know that life is the most beautiful thing that ever happened, even when you’re in the doldrums, or awaiting an answer to the question, what next.
You don’t have to wait for the answer to appear before you appreciate what you have right now.
Feeling appreciation is a high vibrational frequency that elevates our spirit. There’s much to be thankful for.
Even in our darkest days, if we look for light we can be sure to find it. And I know what I’m talking about because I’ve been there. Deep in darkness, following a tiny glimmer of light that shimmered way ahead of me.
Being in an appreciative state means we’re giving more attention to what’s great in life. What keeps people stuck on tracks that lead nowhere, is being so busy looking at what’s missing, what they’ve lost, or what was taken away from them that they miss what’s right here, now.
Abundance is built on appreciation. If you want abundance in all things, first of all appreciate life.
We’re definitely on the right track when we:
3. Insist on having fun
If we knew that anything and everything was possible what would we choose to do? We’d probably live a monumental, magnetically brilliant, fun filled life. So why wait. How much fun are you having in your day, this day?
You have unlimited power available to you. Write this down and look at it each day, as a reminder.
What will you do with this unlimited power this very day? Don’t focus on what you can do, focus on what you intend to do. Focus on finding fun and joy in your daily tasks.
So you have a job you don’t like much, find something in it that can become fun. Lighten up your relationships with a little fun. Don’t work so hard, hard isn’t fun. Work smart instead.
Drink deeply from what lifts your heart and spirit and practice enjoying each day.
Create enjoyment in the things you do and the places you go; have a fun filled journey and you’re going to like your destination a whole lot more.
We stay on track when we can honestly say:
4. We’re not concerned with fitting in
We often find ourselves trying to live up to other people’s expectations. We know we’re on the right track when we spend more time cultivating our own way of being in the world than how other’s think we should live our lives.
After my late husband passed away I had to put a few thousand miles between me and those who knew what I should do with the rest of my life. You don’t have to go to such extremes, once you learn your life is exactly that, yours to build in the way you think is best.
Fish don’t fly and chickens don’t usually climb trees and there’s enough diversity and room in this world for us all to live in our own marvellous uniqueness. We’re all expressions of the divine and it doesn’t do for us to express in ways that don’t resonate with our own hearts and souls.
Trying to live up to what another expects of us can mean losing sight of who we truly are and, once that happens, life is no longer in harmony with us. And that never feels good.
Be compassionate and kind with others, but be good to you too.
You’re precious and don’t allow anyone to tell you otherwise.
Knowing you’re on the right track is living mindfully in the knowledge that you’re honouring yourself. And even in the midst of life’s storms you can still make it to your bright future.
And by keeping in our mind’s eye the ideas and beliefs that are genuine and heartfelt and paying as little attention as possible to those who would waylay us, or judge us, or determine who we should be, we’ll find ourselves walking a path to a full, rich and happy life.
Sounds like the right track to me.
Check in every now and then just to be sure you’re still on track for fulfilling your dreams, heck just to be sure you still have a dream, especially when the one that was so dear to you is dead and gone.
And we can’t ever, ever, allow the gap between where we are, and where we dream of being, to stop us. Ever.
Your insights and perspectives encourage us all and support us to lead the best life we can imagine so what would you add that speaks to you and lets you know you’re on the right track?
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Encourage one another.