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Let’s start with a simple question. How happy can you be? Because that’s the goal in life isn’t it?
Everything you do, everything I do, is ultimately for us to feel happy.
But what if you’re going about it all wrong? What if you’re totally missing the very thing that allows you to experience everything you desire in this lifetime?
That would be tragic and really not necessary, there’s a way to get you what you need in life; to become more, to have more…more love, joy, peace, success or money.
Spending time alone!
This might be a new idea for you but the richness of life doesn’t come from sticking with the old and familiar.
And spending time alone might be what you need, but…you could be like the millions of people on this planet who hate even the thought. The fear of being by ourselves, without our friends or family or partners to keep us distracted or feeling safe can be terrifying.
But spending time alone isn’t about being lonely.
When my husband passed away, many years ago now, I soon found how fearful I was about taking on life without a shoulder to lean on, or a hand held out when I stumbled and fell. It’s natural. And I felt truly alone.
Alone time, on the other hand, is about rejuvenation, about giving your body and your mind space and nourishment and it turns out it be amazingly rewarding.
So what do you stand to gain?
Here’s 9 reasons spending time alone is just what you need.
Space is needed for those ‘eureka’ or ‘aha’ moments. Have you noticed that you only get them when you stop being so busy? When you give yourself the gift of spending time by yourself?
They’re important because:
Your alone time creates a doorway for miracles to walk through and it’s something to be nurtured and cherished.
2. Energy increase
You’ve dealt with so much and done the best that you could. Sometimes life is amazing and sometimes it’s awful.
Spending time alone is an opportunity to notice who and what your energy increases and decreases around. The most challenging thing in life isn’t being aware of those who don’t understand you, it’s recognizing where you don’t understand yourself.
Your awareness of your energy increasing or decreasing is a huge universal hint that it’s time to shut some things and some people out.
3. Access to the magic
The magic that makes things better is in you; hidden behind all the noise and distractions of daily living.
Underneath the ongoing text or email messages, the incessant ringing of the phone or people needing your attention lies your inner magic. It’s in your thinking, in your creativity, in your peacefulness. Within it lies the key to your more wonderful future. I challenge you to take the necessary alone time and re-connect with your inner magic.
4. True listening
Within you is a voice that doesn’t use words.
Your body responds to food and drink, but your heart and soul need nourishment and when you truly lose yourself in the act of deep listening you will eventually find you no longer allow the reality of your current life to interfere with what your inner self tells you is possible.
As you become more skilled at listening you’ll find it easier to stop letting the opinions and noise from others drown out the real you. This is one of the paths to deep inner peace, well-being and success.
5. The quickest cure to overwhelm
It would be ridiculous if your body was to do it’s own thing without your consent: without your decision to move it and yet we allow our minds to do their own thing…sometimes seething with thoughts of anger, worrying about something that may never happen or even running through a laundry list of resentments.
No-one else can choose the thoughts you think, no-one else occupies a space in your head unless you allow it. Don’t allow it. You desire happiness – who doesn’t? So make sure your body and your mind take instructions from you naturally and you’ll create happiness for yourself.
Start now, so you’ll never have to live a life you didn’t want.
6. A fully fledged life
The true value of life is its beauty, its intensity, its vitality, and a basic requirement for being connected to a fully fledged life is feeling peaceful and knowing joy.
But far too often we don’t have the time. So busy are we with the expectations of others, or their opinions of who we are and what we’ve done that we simply aren’t able to take the steps we need to take to fulfill our destinies.
You deserve to be happy. Turn off the outside voices that distract you from your heartfelt desires and turn on your inner voice, the one that leads you to living life to the full and enjoying every moment.
7. Boost to your happiness
Sometimes I think truly happy people are often born that way. But I’ve also noticed that happy people allow themselves to be happy and unhappy people keep on doing the same things that upset them every time.
It’s far to easy to have your mind so full of what’s happening around you in this moment, that there’s no room for the things that really matter to you.
When you take a step back and free yourself from the dictates of life you give yourself an opportunity to think about the pleasant things in your life…because you choose too.
Then some day you’ll be able to say “I lived joyfully, with moments of self-discovery and turned work into play. I learned to live MY life.”
8. An awesome reality check
When you sit down and think about where you started you can then begin to appreciate what you’ve accomplished.
Most of us will never become satisfied with our life, even when we accomplish our goals, because we soon forget every success we’ve had.
Taking the time to be aware, truly aware, that the negative image you’ve created in your mind about who you are isn’t the reality is a boon to your future success and happiness.
9. Searchlight of contemplation
“What we plan in the soil of contemplation, we shall reap in the harvest of action.” So said Meister Eckhart a German philosopher.
Having the time to contemplate opens up a whole new world.
Your perspective on life grows stronger as you use contemplation like a searchlight to discover more of what is meaningful to you.
Contemplation can be as little as 5 minutes or up to 10. Discipline your mind to focus on anything that inspires you and you’ll discover a deep understanding of what’s working in your life and what isn’t, so that you can make the changes to discover more of life’s wonders in this lifetime.
As Master Oogway in Kung Fu Panda said: “Your mind is like the water. When it is agitated it becomes difficult to see, but when you let it settle, the answer becomes clear.”
This is a vital life lesson for us all! Spending time alone gives you this chance.
Encourage one another.