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[success]Success is liking yourself, liking what you do, and liking how you do it. ~ Maya Angelou[/success]
Some days you’re just going to be stumbling around in the dark. Some days everything that could go wrong does. Some days life seems like an endless roller coaster ride, up one minute and down the next.
Let’s be honest. Even a Pollyanna like me has days that are pretty disheartening.
But I have a few tricks up my sleeve, so the next time a rotten day arrives just keep going…and to make it a little easier here’s a few things I like to remember, to help turn the page on those disheartening, down days.
1. Stop waiting…
for someone to arrive, something to show up, blue skies,a better day, for life to fall into place. Don’t wait for a reason to be happy, begin to make things happen today, begin to make the most of your moments and be okay with not being certain what the day will bring, decide that something wonderful is heading your way.
Don’t wait for those precious moments, create them.
2. Always expect the best…
Profound possibilities await; bear in mind ‘anything you dwell upon grows in your reality.’ Anything that you think about long enough and hard enough eventually becomes a part of your mental processes, exerting its influence and power on your attitude and your behavior.
Those who study expectancy say we’ve spent our whole lives becoming conditioned, and as life progresses our mind learns what to expect next and so we often achieve exactly what we anticipate. Better anticipate the best you can come up with!
3. Don’t try…
to change your life all at once. Don’t set yourself up for failure. Massive change can arrive one small step at a time, one small change at a time. But do begin. A year from now you’ll wonder why you didn’t start today. Stop fretting about yesterday and wasting your energy on what might have been or what was. Every day gives you an opportunity to use your creative powers to realize your dreams.
Today make the decision to keep your attention on creating a new ‘what is’.
4. Believe that all things are possible for you…
Not a few things, not some things…but just about everything. Dream big dreams and let all your limiting beliefs fall away until your vision in all it’s glorious detail is revealed. And then give yourself the love, energy and encouragement needed to have your dreams become your reality.
Your success lights the way for others.
5. Don’t be paralyzed…
by the fear of the unknown…change is a challenge for us all. But it’s only when we stop talking about wanting our life to improve and begin taking action to make it happen that it becomes less fearful. Making the decision you want something, more than you’re afraid of reaching for it, inspires the universe to help you attain it.
6. It’s the easiest thing in the world to judge…
and to fault find, with yourself and others, and the only reward for this is the likelihood you’ll end up feeling badly about it.
When you find yourself judging less and encouraging more you know you’re part of the solution and not part of the problem. You’ve become a light in the world. Now instead of pointing fingers you’re holding out a hand. Encourage everywhere: in families, at work, with friends.. And who knows, the day may come when you’ll be glad of a helping hand yourself.
7. You’ve heard it said…
that sticks and stones may break your bones but words will never hurt you. It isn’t true. Words can break your heart and damage your spirit. Keep away from those who constantly criticize and focus on all the wrongs in the world. Keep away from those who speak only of defeat and failure. Success and joy and fulfillment won’t be companions on their journey for long.
Instead, surround yourself with those who encourage, who lift your spirits, who help you get to your feet when you’ve fallen.
8. Understand happiness…
is a state of mind, not a change in circumstance. Happiness isn’t something that’s out there, something we find. Something we carry in our pockets and pull out when we need it.
If you wait for this or that to happen before you can be happy, you’ll be waiting a long time because once this or that arrives, there’s always the next this or that before you can be truly happy.
9. Learn the common habits…
of successful, happy people. One simple thing they do is turn anxiety and worry into a greater belief in themselves.
Forget the size of the problem. It doesn’t really matter how big or seemingly impossible something seems to be, there’s little point in worrying. One thing we can all be grateful for is that nothing lasts forever, not even the challenges of life.
As you begin to appreciate how incredible and remarkable you are, you’ll discover you too can reframe any situation and turn towards the light of solutions.
Learn to count your joys as frequently as you count your troubles and you’ll be well on your way.
10. If you’re not living the life…
you truly want maybe it’s time to stop clinging to what you already have.
It’s up to you to decide how your life needs to be.
Practice being more curious. Be willing to undertake a new adventure.
Step out from the shadow of your past and get some new ideas from which to think. Anything you think about often enough soon begins to influence your attitudes until eventually you’ll find yourself taking new action. You’ll find yourself saying yes to a new way of living.
11. Let your enthusiasm loose…
It’s a contagious quality that inspires everyone around you to support your ventures and become your greatest cheerleaders. And it inspires you to draw upon your inner creative power.
You were born an original, a never before seen person on planet earth. Born with dormant, unimaginable, abilities and talents, just waiting for brilliant ideas and enthusiasm to get them blooming.
Break free from the crowd and start moving. Make today your day.
Begin with how to make tomorrow better than today.
Begin at the beginning, start something.
Finish what needs to be finished.
Start down the path and stay with it, until you’ve gone as far as you can on that particular pathway.
Move your dreams into today and begin to live them and you’ll steadily begin to fulfill them. Instead of seeing things as difficult, focus your energy on what’s good and valuable and grow it.
You can do this. Difficult days don’t have to get in the way of a spectacularly successful life.
Connect with your humanity. Say I love you a lot. Say I’m sorry when you need to. Tell someone how proud you are of them and you’ll trigger a spark in you and everyone you meet that leaves the world a better place than you found it. Dark days won’t last long in the light of loving kindness.
I’d love to hear your take. With so many ways to live a successful life, I’m interested to hear how you continue to be happy regardless of any discouragement thrown your way.
Please share your experiences in the comments below. We’re all ready to learn from you…your ideas could spark a breakthrough for us all.
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Encourage one another.