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What makes you thrive and live your most passionate life?
What does it take for you to lead the good life, the joyful life, the most successful life for you?
And what gets in the way?
Here are some ideas worth considering.
1. Free yourself
Life and people are always changing, and the more you try to control things the more they control you. If you want to have peace and harmony in your life you must set yourself free. Stop allowing the people and experiences in your life to control the way you feel.
2. Let go of regrets
What you’ve learned is more important than the mistakes or poor choices you’ve made. We all have another chance to do it better, to make sure we learn from the choices and experiences of today. We have tomorrow. Leave regrets behind, laugh at the things you got wrong, celebrate the life ahead.
3. Take ownership
The easy way through life is to look around to see who we can blame for our misfortune, or back luck. Take ownership of your life. It doesn’t belong to anyone else. Are you able to see your contribution in the experiences you have? Life continually reflects back to us our thoughts about our relationships, our jobs, our abilities. No blame, no shame, simply ownership of your part in your life.
4. Make way
Let go of the old to make way for the new. There have been times in my life when I’ve allowed my opinions and beliefs to get in the way of the dynamic journey that life is. That’s how we get stuck. That’s how we stop dreaming and doing. Let the past stay there. Get back into the flow of joyful thinking, knowing that everything that lies ahead of you is not in your old and outworn beliefs.
5. Release judgement
Allow others to respond to life in their own way. Give them the space to be themselves and be sure to give yourself the same gift. Appreciate that life is a privilege and when you come across others who respond to situations entirely differently than you, don’t make them wrong, don’t criticize. Empathise with their perspective on life, it might be a difficult path that they’re walking right now.
6. Do the right thing
Do what you know is right, even if no-one else does. Don’t fall into the trap of only doing what is convenient or most helpful for you and even if your actions won’t change the world, you haven’t allowed the world to change you. A rich, fulfilling life comes less from saying the right thing and more from doing it.
7. Become unstoppable
It’s easy to sit idly back and let time slip through our fingers. After all life isn’t that bad! Generally it’s pretty easy to waste our time, and before too long we’ve managed to convince ourselves that this is the very best that we can be, the very best we can do. Not true! Today, be fierce, be strong. Don’t let second-guesses or doubt dampen your enthusiasm or passion for life.
8. Step out of your regular lifestyle
Eventually that comfort zone, that complacency that we all experience, leads to unhappiness, boredom and frustration.
Deep down inside, you know you were put on this earth with amazing capabilities. It’s the times you are way outside your element that you discover parts of you that you never knew were there. An amazing life exists one step out of your comfort zone. Take it and you’ll find you’re not an ordinary person after all, but an extraordinary one, designed to be awesome.
9. Let kindness be your guiding light
The choices you make, make you. Enjoy life, travel, read great books, write even greater ones, seek fame, become your greatest self, make a fortune. And throughout it all encourage others, motivate those who are lost or feeling down. Be the one who is remembered for their many acts of kindness. And should you need an incentive, studies show that kindness boosts your health and immune system. But best of all you’ll feel really great about who you are.
10. Stop the pity parties
Never ask the question “Why did this happen to me?” It simply creates or reinforces a victim mentality and reduces your power to make changes. Any time you feel sorry for yourself, any time you find yourself constantly complaining do something different. What has being a victim done for you so far? Not much! Your complaints and sense of victimhood will never get you to where you want to go. And worst of all your personal power is being handed over to someone or something else. Don’t do this to yourself.
11. Listen and speak from the heart
The best people aren’t afraid to speak from their heart. Sometimes what we need isn’t someone to put things right, isn’t someone with a quick fix but someone who listens with patience and speaks with kindness. Real personal power comes from putting a voice to your heart and soul. Wherever you go, make sure you’re following your heart, it often knows the best route.
Our inner conversations have remarkable power over our lives, our happiness, our bodies and create our experiences for good or ill.
A great secret to living both joyfully and successfully lies in the power of our attention.
The words we speak, the thoughts we think and the feelings we feel all combine to create the world we live in. So to progress, to joyfully explode your life, don’t accept the world as it currently is. Recreate it through your imagination, through the words you speak to yourself that might not be ‘true’ yet in the world of reality, but will become your truth.
Encourage one another.
With love and appreciation,