During the past year I’ve shared my many faults…okay, okay you need a reminder. Bossy boots, nosey parker, blabbermouth (woops maybe you didn’t know about that one yet), not forgetting procrastinator (recovering).
But I would be remiss if I left out the ‘big one’. I’m a serial interrupter. My listening skills need improving, badly…and yes I’m working on it.
I’m more inclined to interrupt when the conversation is exciting and interesting…a ‘yes, yes and blah blah blah’ kind of interruption. But I knew I was in trouble when I dreamed about it. One of my friends was telling me how annoying it is when I interrupt. It was one of those dreams when, later, you’re not too sure if it really happened or you dreamed it. That didn’t bode well either.
When you know you’re in trouble
I knew I was in trouble. If your sub-conscious mind is telling you there’s a problem then you know that it accepts this belief as a fact. And we all know what that means, it’s going to keep showing up in my experiences. Action needed to be taken.
Just as I can’t change others through my efforts or arguments, nor is it possible to change myself through these means. It always takes the same plan to change what you experience, be it for you or others, and we all know what it is…change yourself. I am what I am because of what I believe and accept about myself. And that includes all my annoying little habits.
The only question worth asking
So I’m a pain in the proverbial patout with my interruptions because of something I believe, or consent to as true and funnily enough it might have absolutely nothing to do with interrupting per se. Who knows what it is? Who cares?
Did I learn it as a child, a teenager, from my siblings? It honestly doesn’t matter. The only question I need to answer is ‘what do I want?’ I think the answer is to be more on receive and less on transmit. And if this means I tone my excitement with the conversation down a notch or two so be it.
The only place to turn
So it’s to consciousness I have to turn, because our consciousness really is the only maker of our reality. I’m not going to get a helper, which always strikes me as a real bummer, because as you all know I’m pretty much a lazy bones and I’ll take whatever help I can get, but equally I’m not going to have anyone prevent me from becoming the girl less interruptus. For which all my friends, no doubt, will be giving thanks!
It’s the same for us all. We’ve got to rule our world. Got to make consciousness work for us, otherwise we get led by the nose by that constantly-in-motion mechanism we call our mind as it runs away with our old habits and patterns of belief and thought.
Believing that it takes something on the outside, or maybe someone, to assist you in experiencing your desire, however large or small it might be, is a belief that will hold you back and prevent you from ever truly claiming the power that is yours – to create the world of your choosing, to experience every desire you have and then move on to more. And that includes, in my case, being the girl interruptus.
Encourage one another.
Love Elle.
xoxo
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I spent all too many years looking for people and things outside of me that would “help” me to change. Then one day it hit me that all the changes I want are inside of me. I simply have to choose to make them.
Best of luck with your change Elle!
Paige that was a great aha for you. I’m imagining how great I am at not interrupting so let’s see how long it takes before my new mind set crystallizes into a ‘fact’. 🙂
Elle….Humorous and insightful post.
It is one of the great truths that has been passed done by the great sages….happiness is within. We create our own world. When something difficult, even excruciating, boomerangs into our lives, it’s what we do with it that matters. I am in awe of friends who have dealt with tragedy with resilience and a life affirming attitude. Looking forward to reading more of what you have to say. Fran P.S. Love your about page
Welcome to the conversation Fran and thanks for your great perspective and your very kind words. 🙂
I absolutely adore this post…and you. It’s not easy to be so transparent in a world where we’re made to think we should hide, deny and be ashamed of anything about us that isn’t pleasing to the masses. Fooey!!! How wonderful that you’ll do more receiving and less transmitting…but on your own terms and for reasons that involve no amount of beating up on yourself. I absolutely, positively love it!
Awww thanks Nea. 🙂