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When my Darling One and I began our best and last romance we wanted to ensure that we always remembered this.
We wanted to make sure we never lost sight of the importance of love in our life and so we created relationship rituals, because something precious is lost if we rush unthinkingly into the daily details of life, without pausing for a moment to acknowledge the blessings of the gift of another day
Our relationship rituals were designed to nurture and nourish this, our best and last romance.
And this, I believe, is the most important one. At least for us.
Every night we take a minute to say thank you to each other for who we are, what we’re grateful for about each other and to remember the love we give and receive every single day.
We’ve never missed a night. No matter what. Ever, because love flourishes in love.
And one day I realized how often I’m not mindful of other precious things in my life.
I’ve never set an intention to be mindful…and yet it’s a big part of living a conscious life. So I’ve taken a few small steps on the path to more mindful living. Some more rituals for a more lovely life.
I love the idea of the Chinese and Japanese tea ceremonies, so I’ve decided to start there.
The first written account of tea ceremonies was over 1200 years ago, called “The way of Tea.”
Sounds lovely, doesn’t it?
Japanese monks traveling through China during this period began to learn about tea and tea culture.
In fact, the spirit of the Chinese Tea Ceremony translates to peace, quiet, enjoyment and truth and since I’m such a tea drinker, I’m going choose to be attentive to feeling the peace and quiet enjoyment of making and drinking my tea.
Maybe for you it could be a coffee ceremony.
Enjoying the aroma in peaceful contemplation. Of course you might have to get an early start to the day if you have little ones demanding your attention!
2. Starting right
When I get out of bed in the morning, instead of jumping onto my computer to get a head start on my day I’m going to sit…somewhere I don’t usually park my bum…and stare…just being.
I remember my grandfather used to do that and he was the most peaceful man I ever knew. He must have been on to something. Sorry I said bum.
3. Practicing awareness
We’re not big on watching television while we eat…but in the mornings I have been known to read stuff on my computer whilst I have breakfast. Hardly mindful I know.
I’m going to have a trial period where I focus simply on eating and enjoying my breakfast. No computer, no cell phone, no newspaper. Just me and my food and my gratitude.
I live in Florida, where for ninety percent of the time I can be outside. So that’s where I’m heading for breakfast and contemplation.
Why don’t you do this already, you might well be asking. I have no ready response.
And yet as I write these words, my mind is trying to trick me by saying, “What if I read something uplifting with breakfast?” No…not okay.
My mind needs to get with the programme.
4. Day’s end
Lastly I’m going to practice Thomas Jefferson’s idea of asking at the end of each day. “What good did I do today?” Setting up the intention that every tomorrow I’ll be mindful of every opportunity to do some good.
None of the above is earth shattering, but I’m told that in our busy culture and multi-tasking environment mindfulness is a calming oasis for the mind and spirit. And given the success of our love ritual every night…I’m definitely game to add more peace and joy to the equation. Especially if it leads to living a fuller, richer, more awake life.
How about you? Got any ideas for more mindfulness in your world that you’d like to share with the rest of us? Let us know in the comments below. We are all blessed with your insights.
Encourage one another.