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Throughout my life I’ve had support and encouragement from the important people in my life, starting with my Mum and Grandma and my siblings and friends and significant others. I know I’ve been blessed.
The support I’ve received over the years has been such a wonderful source of growth and expansion for me and for them. For what we give to others, we always, always receive ourselves.
This is such an important piece of our personal development that I have to say it again, sorry, can’t help myself. So to repeat…whatever we are giving to another, be it support or attempting to put them down, we are the givers and the recipients as well. There’s no escaping our universal connectedness, for good or ill, we are all part of the consciousness of all.[success] YOUR INTERNAL CONVERSATIONS ARE SENT OUT INTO THE WORLD, AND THEY WILL NOT RETURN UNTO YOU VOID; RATHER, THE WORLD WILL RESPOND IN KEEPING WITH THE WORD YOU SENT OUT. ~ NEVILLE[/success]
Exploring and experiencing meaningful relationships are all part of our life’s journey. We’re sensitive souls, we human beings, and have all felt hurt, bewildered, confused, or offended in relationships. And sometimes because we’ve been wounded we end up hurting others. Not good karma.
My greatest cheerleader is my Darling One, who holds a mirror to me every single day, reflecting back to me the amazing person that he believes me to be. Trust me when I tell you, even if you have doubts about being wonderful, when someone tells you, shows you and reflects back to you wonderful things about the being you are, at least a part of you begins to accept it as true. Maybe not all of the time, but some of the time, and that’s a great start.
Every person is unique, every person is a star, a shining spirit, perhaps some are wrapped in muddy clothes but they are all special. Even for those who can’t see it for themselves, and those who act as if they know they are less than special, deep within lies their brilliance, the seeds of their greatness.
Sadly for some, the weeds have taken over and for others the necessary nurturing never took place that allowed them to grow and bloom in the first place.
If we choose to live as much as possible from the totally loving, giving and joyful place of our higher self, our ability to connect to our spiritual nature expands, making it easier for us to distinguish the state of consciousness that others might currently occupy from their true and eternal self.
And in each relationship, be it close or a passing one, learning to see beyond what people see in themselves is the greatest gift we can give. We don’t need to fix them, to rescue them, or enable them, if we would simply choose to see them as the beautiful spark of the divine that they are, we might be the catalyst that encourages them to reach for an unfulfilled dream or a higher level of living life, and as sure as eggs is eggs we’ll grow ourselves in the process.
Suzy was a member of a book club that I was invited to join, and she was one of the reasons that I almost didn’t last through two books. She must have been one of the most discouraging, complaining people I’d ever met. Being around her was literally physically draining. As my Dad would have said, she was a real misery-guts.
I began to notice when I thought of her I’d be having little arguments in my head, thinking negative thoughts about her …trust me it wasn’t hard for me to do…and thinking of really good excuses as to why I needed to back out of the group. I would catch myself having discouraging, dispiriting conversations with Suzy…all in my head of course. It had to stop. It wasn’t doing either of us any good.
Back to the drawing board, back to what my Mum and Grandma told me when I was a kid, look for the good in people and you’ll find it.
What to do? How to seek the good in miss misery guts? Aha, I had a secret weapon that could change everything, it’s called imagination. The question was, what should I imagine? Something powerful enough to stop all this negative nonsense. I began to call her Suzy sunshine in my mind, because I knew that within her there definitely was a more joyous being. Maybe not a party animal exactly, but within her was the same spark of the divine that’s in us all and that’s a pretty beautiful thing.
I began small. I’m a big believer in baby steps. Everyone tells us Rome wasn’t built in a blooming day, so the next time I saw her I said hello Suzy sunshine and told her how much I enjoyed her book choice…which was true, she picked books I might never otherwise have read and yes, they were good.
I began to see little rays of sunshine all around her when I thought of her and I would smile at the image. I fed us both positive energy and the result was truly was amazing. Everyone in the book club noticed that she was actually smiling and enjoying herself. She later told me that it had been a long time since she’d been praised for anything, and she’d never been accused of being a ray of sunshine before…she said it felt good.
I realized how easy it was to make a difference, and it took little or no effort on my part. I started to pay more attention to what I thought about others. Maybe they didn’t see themselves as great, or worthy, maybe they’d experienced much that led them to feel numb, maybe life had knocked them down so often that they were afraid to get back up, or were still a bit wobbly on their feet. But there was nothing stopping me from reflecting wonderful things to them. It felt pretty darn good.
We can empower others by seeing their greatness, their potential, and mirroring this to them by our words and actions. And who knows, this may just be the boost they need to create something wonderful. We all have a contribution to make and if we can make a difference in our world, by bringing out the best in everyone just by seeing their true value, their real worth and reflecting it back to them then we have contributed to a kinder, more loving place for us all to live.
And now let’s all paaartay.
Encourage one another.