redefining your relationship to money

This isn’t easy to tell you, but…

The chances are high that your relationship with money is all wrong.

Not just a little bit wrong…but a whole lot wrong.

You probably grew up with ideas about money that your parents and other family members held.

And there’s no telling what mayhem this has created in your financial life…but if you’re anything like the rest of us, you’ve likely been on a giant rollercoaster.

Money’s here today and gone tomorrow.

So let’s see if we can find your happy place by redefining your relationship to money.

There’s no shortage of money

But what’s your attitude to it?

Are you happy to pay bills, understanding that you’ve just exchanged your money for services you received?

Or do you resent having to pay them, and avoid paying as long as you can?

Can you get into that happy place about money…or do you worry about how you’ll ever get more?

Do you find yourself saying: “I can’t afford to do that.” OR “There’s never enough in my account.”

If any of these ring true for you and you don’t know how you got to this point, it’s time to…

Begin redefining your relationship to money

Firstly understand this. Money is energy.  Nothing more. Nothing less. 

And secondly, as with most forms of energy it’s a tool. It has no power without you.  It can’t be used without you.

In fact, without you it’s totally useless.

Once you start to challenge the idea that money has the power, and see that it’s you who have the power to use money, things will start becoming right in your money world.

And you’ll open yourself up to the abundance that has always been available to you. 

The only reason you haven’t seen this before, or maybe even heard of this before is because you had no conscious awareness that this was so.

On the contrary, like me, you probably heard that you needed to be careful with money because it didn’t grow on trees…it was hard to come by…rich people are greedy…too much money is bad, blah, blah. In other words money was the power.

All of which lead to…

Money resistance

This is one of the biggest, unseen obstacles to having a great relationship with money.

Even if you grew up in the worst circumstance, you have the exact same potential inside of you to experience the ideal amount of money to live a rich happy life as those who seem to have had it all.

And the difficulty is that your relationship to money and even to life will never change until you release resistance to what it is that you desire.

And if you don’t yet have what you want, it’s best to assume it’s because you have resistance in one form or another.

So use the releasing technique found here… (Releasing Technique) to release any resistance to money flowing easily and effortlessly to you.

You’ll find redefining your relationship to money becomes even easier than you could have imagined.

The effortless way

One of the key concepts that will start you on the path to redefining your relationship to money is to understand it isn’t really about the money, the bank account or the amount in your wallet.

It’s about the things you can use your money for.  Like freedom of time, or freedom from worry.

Socking it away as a nest egg, or hanging on to as much of it as possible isn’t the way to have more.

The energy of money to maintain itself has to be free to circulate. Otherwise like all energies that aren’t circulating…it stagnates and the flow ceases.

And the effortless way to having that ideal amount of money consistently flowing to and from you is through the use of assumption.

The assumptions you’ve been making up until now haven’t worked for you, and believe me you’ve been making them because every event in our outer reality is the result of an assumption from within.

Assumptions work by calling into reality the very thing we assume. It’s an amazingly simple system, once you get the hang of it.

Through assumptions, my lovely, your world can be changed.

Assumptions guide your heart, mind and actions to inevitably bring about whatever you have assumed to be true for you.

Turn longing into being

So picture your ideal life and the money that will help you to live it, and assume you have it.  Right now. 

Turn longing into being, by mentally seeing yourself as the one who has what they desire, and don’t stop until you can attach an emotion to the image.

What would it feel like were it true, right now?  The present moment is all important, for it is only in the ‘now’ that your assumptions can be controlled.

So make the future the present and imagine how great it feels the have the very thing you want, how positive you feel, and then infuse your imagination with these positive emotions.

You will totally redefine your relationship with money by practicing these few principles, especially if you remember constant repetition of assumptions that are the complete opposite of your old energy money thoughts is the way.

Ultimately your ability to redefine your relationship with money to get more and keep more of it is in your hands. 

Choose wisely dear one.

Encourage one another.

Love Elle


P.S Stay tuned for our soon to be released ebook on Money.   Whatever your money challenges are, we want to help you overcome them.


Elle Sommer is the author of 4 books and a workbook. Her latest publications are a series called The Power of Consciousness, and you will find all three books in this trilogy now available on Kindle. She shares quotes, inspiration and positive vibes on Facebook, Instagram and Pinterest. And her greatest desire is to encourage and inspire others to create not just a good life, but a phenomenal life.


  1. Hi Elle,

    I like the idea that “It’s about the things you can use your money for. Like freedom of time, or freedom from worry.” Visualizing an abundant life (which I may have learned from you!) has helped to stay pointed in the right direction when it comes to money. Being organized and paying myself first allows peace of mind when it comes to finances.

    • Paying yourself first…so important Cathy…a great indicator of your feelings of worthiness. So very important. 🙂

  2. Dear Elle,

    Lots to think about in this piece! I’ll confess, my relationship with money is completely messed up. At the same time, I’ve always had all the money I’ve needed. I’ll take your suggestion into account!

    • It’s an interesting exercise Sandra, changing our relationship with money. 🙂

  3. Your suggestions and analysis when it comes to our relationship with money is bang on. I have to admit… I grew up with those ridiculous money notions.. Which ofcourse brought on resistance. I’ve only recently begun to work with this lack that I felt, and have started working on making money a means to greater growth rather than a means to just pay the bills. This has helped me redefine my relationship with it big time. Still working on it. Ongoing uphill climb ❤️

    • Hi Zeenat…I think it’s true for most of us and I will say I too am a work in progress. But boy what a difference my new attitude and relationship to money has made in my life experience. 🙂

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