We’ve all struggled.
And somehow the struggles felt by teenagers seem to be so intense and overwhelming and oh so hard to handle. Regardless of how trivial they end up being.
That’s how it was for me.
And it helps to have wise counsel in life, be you a teenager or a fully grown adult.
Mums’ can help
It’s been said before and I’m happy to say it again…my Mum was a very wise woman. I was supported and loved even when, looking back I’m not certain I deserved it.
Somehow, my Mum always managed to say what you needed to hear… often before you knew you needed to hear it and…sometimes when you thought you didn’t ever need to hear it!
She even understood about quantum leaps, before quantum leaps had been discussed and written about. And I found myself quoting her today as my friend and I had a nice cup of tea…well tea for me, coffee for her. She was no longer a teenager, but still in the midst of a struggle.
“You don’t have to know how you’re going to get there, you just need to know where you want to go.”
That was usually a phrase she used apropos me whining when I was a kid, because I didn’t know how I was going to get something done, something that felt as though the world would come to an end if I didn’t do it…you know the sort of thing.
Or was I the only teenager who had an overwhelming sense of how desperately important it was that I did X or Y, when today looking back today I can see it was pretty trivial?
My Mum didn’t trivialize it though. She would simply say:
“Don’t get bogged down in the details kiddo, just keep your attention on where you’re going and what it feels like when you get there.”
I hope my Mum’s wisdom helps my friend to make her quantum leap. After all who worries about what’s happening in the middle of a jump? All we really need to know is where we’re going to land.
Encourage one another