Do you ever get caught up in that negative loop of focusing on all the things that you can’t do, that are going wrong, that you don’t want?
And you end up stressed out with a brain that’s on overload and a feeling you just don’t have what it takes, or if you do, you’re so far behind the 8 ball you can’t see how you can catch up?
Fear not dear ones…this article shines a light on the most vital building blocks to positively impact the rest of your life. Lessons that far too many of us don’t learn until it’s a bit late in the day. But not you. Not today.
Today’s journey is about learning some simple, yet specific ideas to make life easier, to help you get to where you want to go quicker and make your life happier and more fulfilling. In other words to positively impact the rest of your life.
Ready to make your life absolutely wonderful and perfect for you? Begin right here.
1. Your most precious currency isn’t money
Money matters. We want to live comfortably with a roof over our head, to be able to pay the bills and have a little fun.
Time matters. How often have we heard once you’ve spent it, you can’t earn it back?
But I would say that the thing that matters most of all, is whether you spend or invest your thoughts. This will impact the rest of your life.
Your thoughts are your most precious currency. Spend your thoughts on things you don’t want, things you’re afraid of, things you would hate to show up in your life and you’ll pay the price with an unhappy future.
Invest your thoughts. Devote them to positive, constructive thinking and you’ll be creating a future that you’re more than happy to live in.
2. Steer clear of the blame game
This is a decision that will definitely, positively impact the rest of your life. The day I accepted that I was responsible for how I looked at life, how I managed problems, whether I reacted or responded to others was the day I took charge of my life.
Don’t suddenly start ‘blaming’ yourself either…responsibility isn’t about blame…it’s about acknowledging that things will become better or worse because of our attitudes.
This is a place of power and the power lies with you, not with anyone else. It’s actually a real cool place to be because it gives you a chance to build and maintain a life that really matters to you. A chance to be happier.
3. Nothing is as impossible as it seems
Follow your dreams. Don’t listen to the mustn’ts, the can’ts, or the don’ts. Think of the bumblebee, if it could hear the scientists it would know that it’s aerodynamically incapable of flying. But it doesn’t hear the words incapable or impossible, so it flies despite the beliefs of those who say it can’t!
What we believe is who we are. Believe that everything is difficult and you shouldn’t be surprised to find that your path is strewn with obstacles to make it so.
Believe with all your heart that the obstacles are temporary and there’s a way around them, even if you can’t see it yet, and the entire universe will come to your aid. Notice I said, come to your aid, not do everything for you!
You’ve been given the power of imagination. Use it. Challenge yourself with seemingly impossible things…you will grow and develop huge confidence and abilities as you do. You can do this…I know you can.
As an ancient quote says, “It’s better to aim the spear at the moon and strike the eagle, than to aim at the eagle and strike only a rock.” Go for it dear ones.
4. If you truly want to positively impact the rest of your life practice non-acceptance
Start today to devote your time to positive constructive thinking. Anything you hear that doesn’t contribute to your happiness or wellbeing, do not accept it. Another awesome idea that when put into action, will absolutely positively impact the rest of your life.
I know this for sure, because I’ve done it.
Eight years ago I was told I had pre-cancerous cells in my body and that the best I could do was to manage the situation because it would never change. After the first shock I decided that the idea that things would remain the same, or get worse, didn’t contribute to my overall happiness so I wouldn’t accept it.
I used the power of my imagination, which led me to actions that contributed to my experience last year, when my doctor told me that the cells had been eradicated…something he had never seen in 40 years of practicing medicine!
So it took me 8 years…to accomplish this…and I’m okay with that…some people were never that fortunate.
Remember this:
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Rise above it. You are much more than your thoughts…you are one with the abundance of the universe. One with health, with love, with joy, with success, with financial well-being.
5. Learn to respond v react
We get lots of opportunities in life to react. To events, to others even to situations over which we have no control.
This quote, attributed to Viktor Frankl, although apparently he didn’t write it, says it all:
“Between stimulus and response lies a space. In that space lies our freedom and power to choose a response. In our response lies our growth and our happiness.”
It’s easy to react to stuff we don’t like, but it puts us on the defensive…it doesn’t come from a place of power and simply allows emotions to rule our experience. If you begin to practice responding now, today, you’ll grow yourself into an incredible, powerful, functioning human being.
Ready? Practice these 2 steps and you’ll be well on your way to be dwelling in a state of mind that can only make a positive impact on the rest of your life. And an added bonus is you’ll be creating a foundation for inner peace and harmony, regardless of the situation you find yourself in.
1. Pause
Give yourself a moment. You don’t have to spit out the first thoughts that come into your mind. Instead take time to pause and view how the situation will play out if your emotions are in control. And then CHOOSE the response that won’t leave you with feelings of regret later, because you’ll be stepping into a vibration of energy that is inclusive and positive and is more likely to bring the outcome that will feel better to you.
2. Breathe
When we take time for a breath, the deeper the better by the way, it changes our physical reactions whilst giving our mind the time it needs to produce something more thoughtful than the defensive, disempowering words that first came to mind. This is how we influence the situation in a positive way.
As you practice these simple but powerful ideas, remember to:
Encourage one another.
Love Elle
xox
14 Comments
Dear Elle, I really love the idea of “non-acceptance!” You’ve established an entirely different way to use the phrase, and it completely makes sense. What an amazing story from your life. Thank you for sharing it so honestly and openly. Our thoughts can make such a significant difference in every aspect of our life.
You are always so encouraging Sandra…it’s a wonderful quality that shines from your writing on your website and your comments on mine. And I thank you for your kind words. I’m glad you enjoyed the post. 🙂
Thank you for another delightful post Elle, in your own kind words. I especially like the reminder about the space between thinking and acting. We are our deeds not our words <3
Hi Ellen…I had to learn about that space the hard way…and it was a wonderful lesson that truly has had an enormously positive impact on the rest of my life. I’m glad you enjoyed it. 🙂
I love the reminder to respond rather than to react. When we step back from what we have always done, we have the chance to do things differently and therefore experience a different outcome.
Great point Allanah…if we keep doing what we’ve always done…how can we get that different result? 🙂
Love this inspiring article, Elle. I feel more empowered after reading it. 🙂
I’ve always thought my most valuable thing was my time, but I think you may be right about it being my thoughts – because they directly impact how you spend your time.
I had to reread the header about “nonacceptance.” I was like “Whaat?” It makes perfect sense. So glad you eradicated the cancerous cells – by making your body not a favorable environment for them. I did something similar with a virus that supposedly does not go away.
The power of our minds is AMAZING!
Wow, congratulations on eradicating that virus Debbie…the ways of our world are interesting and mysterious and I love it. I’m so happy that you’re well now. 🙂
Another winner, Elle !
“You don’t have to spit out the first thoughts that come into your mind” , including myself I instantly thought of at least 6 people who would benefit from this practice (but I kept it to myself).
And congratulations you , on besting that situation of pre-cancerous cells the doctor tried to box you in. What a great example of non-acceptance, belief and the power of investing in imagination !
Write on, Elle !
Hi Joseph..thanks for your kind words and I love the way you managed not to ‘spit out’ the thoughts that came into your mind about others! lol
This post is overflowing with wisdom, Elle – I would so love to see this expanded into a book :). Each point has the potential to be life-changing if we take them on board fully. I particularly love your advice to practice ‘non-acceptance’ – that’s incredibly empowering.
Hi Laura and thank you so much for your kind words. That practice of non-acceptance certainly continues to work well in my life…so I’m a big advocate for it! 🙂
Such an empowering read Elle! Acceptance is far more productive that reacting…thats for sure 🙂 I used to be the hyper reactive types….now I’m the calm, thinking, accepting types 😉
xoxo, Z~
Awesome Zeenat. I love the idea of you being a ‘calm, thinking, accepting type.’ 🙂