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[success]When you go through storms in your life, you can either be pitiful or powerful, but you can’t be both. Your attitude determines your victory. Nishan Panwar.[/success]
One of the most fascinating games in the world is that of making the most of ourselves.
Go on admit it. It’s fun. Most of the time.
But…there always seems to be a but…have you noticed that?
But there’s also the less fun game of our pity-parties. Self organized and self inflicted, we get caught up in that most miserable of games, that of self-pity. Wallowing, destructive thoughts that take us nowhere but down.
Don’t waste one single moment of your precious life on self-pity, anxiety, or worry. All of which are just habits of being that we can well do without and since we know that it’s our thoughts and feelings that are the makers of our reality, we can begin by giving ourselves new messages to focus on.
1. Remember When
Whatever’s troubling you right now use that magnificent imaginative power you have to see the situation as though it were a distant memory. Say to yourself, I remember when…I felt…I was…I did…I didn’t have, whatever the case may be.
From pity to power: Woohoo I’m not that person any more.
2. Unlimited Moments
Take a moment to move from the pity mentality and opt in to a mindset where the sky’s the limit. What does it feel like to have unlimited power? What did you do? What were you thinking? What images did you have in your mind?
From pity to power. Woohoo I’m powerful beyond measure. I can create anything.
3. Do Something Different
It’s hard to feel self-pity when we’re focused on doing something new every day. Or doing an old thing in a different way. Simple things will do. Take a new route to work, switch up your morning routine, anything. We tend to even put our shoes on the same feet first every day…do the opposite.
From pity to power. Woohoo I’m open to new experiences and out of the box thinking.
4. Pay Attention
To what brings you joy or lights you up with positive energy. What’s absolutely fabulous about your life right now? Give it your attention. Doesn’t matter how tiny it is, there’s something you can find that’s joyful to you.
If not, then decide to do more of what you love tomorrow than you did today and begin to build up your stream of joy.
From pity to power. Woohoo I’m grateful for what’s working in my life.
5. Say No
To people and experiences that leave you drained. And if it’s challenging, because some draining someone is a part of your life, maybe family or colleagues at work, make a decision to not allow yourself to be overwhelmed. Balance these folk out by talking to uplifting people, or reading something inspirational, or surrounding yourself with positive quotes and music that feeds your soul.
From pity to power. Woohoo I’m in control of my energy and my feelings.
6. A Michael Jordan Moment
Michael Jordan failed his way to success and we can do the same.
7. Self Trust
Learn to trust yourself. We do this by discovering for ourselves what we’re really capable of…and we can’t do that whilst sitting having our little pity-party. We have no clue what we can do until we try. And forget the naysayers who’ll tell you it can’t be done, or at least it can’t be done by you. How do they know? Heck you don’t even know because you haven’t tried it yet.
And if you try something new and it doesn’t appear to be working out. Simply remember all the people who failed their way to success.
From pity to power. Woohoo I ‘m thinking like Michael Jordan and it worked out pretty well for him.
8. Live Your Own Life
Give up people pleasing. (Write that down Elle). There are times when we struggle to simply be ourselves which often stems from our people pleasing habit.
Decide to be master of your life, of your own destiny and yes, perhaps someone might be upset with you, even angry. You no longer fit the image they’ve held of you.
It’s okay. Believing that no one will like you, or someone will leave you unless you say yes, when you want to say no, or because you have a different perspective on something, is a terrible prison we put ourselves in.
We all come across people with values and beliefs that are different from, and might even be in conflict with ours. And sometimes that feels scary for them, because it might feel like a threat to the foundation of who they are. They want us to be like them, it feels safer.
Respect their perspective and insist that they respect yours.
From pity to power. Woohoo I have faith in me.
9. Choose Happiness
We’ve all heard that happiness is a choice but I’m talking about making it a real priority in life. Cultivating the happiness habit is a great way to move from pity to power. What do really happy people do in life?
They’re kind to everyone.
They don’t hold grudges.
They give everyone the benefit of the doubt.
They don’t compare themselves with others.
They nurture their relationships.
Fear not, the world won’t come to an end if you make happiness a priority in your world. In fact probably those around you will breathe a sigh of relief, because you’ll be radiating happiness onto everyone who enters your sphere, including them.
Pity to power. Woohoo now I’m really making the most of myself.
As you know knowledge without application isn’t worth two hoots. I’d love to hear if there’s anything here that you could apply or anything that you’ve personally done to move out of your own private pity-party into a happier state. And as always, by sharing your experiences, you could be giving someone the inspiration they needed today.
Encourage one another.