Wouldn’t you like to have a formula for stepping into your personal power and making the most of your life?

But first we have to get clear on what this personal power thing is.

So what is personal power and how do I get it? this is a good place to start.

It doesn’t come from what you have, though it helps you get what you want. It doesn’t come from status or education.  No matter who you are or what your life experience, personal power is already yours it lies at the heart of who you are.

Personal power is your inner strength, a faith in yourself, a willingness to be a co-creator of your life.

You are remarkable and can do remarkable things. You can do amazing and awesomely unbelievable things, despite seemingly impossible odds.

Why is this so? Because you have a remarkable inner personal power; an awesome force that can dramatically change your life. 

Truth be told you are a powerful creative force and should never underestimate the capacity of your inner self to bring about changes in your outer life.

As Jim Rohn says: “Humans are different than any other creation. When a dog starts with weeds, he winds up with weeds. And the reason is because he’s a dog. But that’s not true with human beings. Humans can turn weeds into gardens.”

You don’t have to search for your personal power. But you have to own it.  The trick is to step into and connect to it. 

For instance, wouldn’t it be nice if you could mold situations the way you want them? Experience more confidence. Influence and change things without causing harm to others? Realize your full potential and achieve greater financial security and more?

Here’s some sure signs you’re giving away your personal power:

  • You walk on eggshells around significant others, family members or co-workers.
  • Making decisions is hard because you don’t trust yourself.
  • Complaining about what’s wrong is easier for you than to make changes.
  • Because you care too much of what others think, you don’t always do what’s best for you.
  • The fear of rejection prevents you from stepping out of your comfort zone.
  • You give in to the influence of others far too easily,
  • It’s easier to blame others than accept responsibility for your actions.
  • You feel unworthy, or lacking in confidence far too often.
  • Discouragement and criticisms create greater self-doubt than necessary.
  • Avoiding conflict is a number one priority for you.
  • You allow others to define what’s possible in your life.

You know you’re operating from personal power when:

  • Whilst you give to others, you take care of yourself in the process.
  • You’re comfortable standing up for your own truth, without making others wrong.
  • Building a fulfilling life of meaning and purpose is important to you.
  • Toxic people are managed easily and effectively.
  • When something isn’t working out for you, you don’t complain, you change it.
  • You are confident in social situations and in your ability to negotiate and mediate in difficult circumstances.
  • You don’t make decisions based on fear.
  • Trusting your instincts is second nature and you have the courage to listen to your heart.
  • You understand you might not be able to change your destiny overnight, but you can definitely change your direction.

So here’s some keys to help you step into your personal power and own your life.

Understand your value

Understanding the value you bring to your life at home, the workplace or socially allows you to reach out and lift others up. It’s a great irony of life that we cannot give what we do not have and those who support others, benefit more than those who are supported.

Nurture a growth mindset

All of the universe’s great rewards of life are available to you when you continue to grow.  We cannot see other than the contents of our consciousness and we only expand our consciousness as we grow. 

As you grow personally you grow materially. And this leads to greater personal power.

Watch your attitudes

It’s your attitude that determines your life experiences in both quality and results. Pay attention when that voice of negativity develops negative influences, thoughts and results and turn to the voice of positivity and success that struggles to be heard.

Each day presents you with opportunities. And you can choose that today is exactly like yesterday and the day before, or choose to develop an attitude of mind which is determined to seize the day and turn it into a new beginning.

Imagine being the one who has found their inner strength. The one who has the life they’ve always wanted. The one with the health they want to experience. The one who lives live to the full.  

This is the attitude of mind that will reset your brain’s neural pathways. And this resetting is the moving of hills today that allows you to move mountains tomorrow. 


Be authentically YOU

Always, always be yourself. And never lose yourself in the desire to be what others think you should be.

One of the greatest challenges in life is to be your own person.  I’ve been called ‘weird’ more times than I’ve had hot dinners.  And yes, it used to bother me. But with a bit of time, well okay a lot of time and a bit of maturity, I’ve accepted that where others see being different as a curse, I see it as a blessing.

Have faith in you. Be brave and keep moving forward.  You don’t have to have everything worked out ahead of time.

Embrace the uniqueness of you. People value authenticity and it will stand you in good stead in all areas of your life. And should others not support you in walking your path towards your destiny, find a new tribe.

Twenty years from now the only one who will care how you’ve lived your life will be you. So keep growing and adapting. It’s never too late to become all you can be.

Final thoughts

Magic happens when you connect fully to your inner personal power, embrace it. This is the core of maximizing and owning your life. When you put the same amount of effort into working on you as you do on the rest of your life, life will reward you. Your personal power has an impact on all things YOU.

  • Your relationships
  • Your dreams and aspirations
  • Your work
  • Your happiness
  • Your health
  • Your spirituality
  • Your friendships
  • Your physicality
  • Your success
  • Your confidence
  • And much more….

Links You Might Find Useful

Using Consciousness to Awaken Your Inner Power

47 Quotes For Women For Remembering How Powerful You Are

Superpower Quiz: What Makes You Special?

How To Increase Mental Toughness: 4 Secrets Of Navy SEALs And Olympians

5 Powerful Exercises To Increase Your Mental Strength

Encourage one another.

Love Elle



Elle Sommer is the author of 4 books and a workbook. Her latest publications are a series called The Power of Consciousness, and you will find all three books in this trilogy now available on Kindle. She shares quotes, inspiration and positive vibes on Facebook, Instagram and Pinterest. And her greatest desire is to encourage and inspire others to create not just a good life, but a phenomenal life.


  1. This is a very helpful article, Elle. I have found that being clear about my personal power has helped me through the years. I like the lists that help you tell if you are accessing your personal power or not. When we feel confident about who we are, life is easier,

    • Hi Cathy – it’s wonderful when we reach a point in our life when we recognize where we’ve given away our personal power and reclaimed it. Or at the very least began reclaiming it.

  2. Life got a lot easier when I quit giving my power away. I would have answered yes to every one of your statements in the first set. Now, I operate from a place of power and can relate to the second list. It does not mean life is always great, but it alleviates a lot of suffering for me. Having a growth mindset is also key, as you point out.

    • I know I too would have answered yes to all the first questions too Debbie. And now, as you say operating from a greater point of personal power definitely alleviates a lot of suffering that was part of the past.

  3. Tim Fleming

    Thank you for this article.
    Your list of “sure signs that you are giving away your personal power” helped to guide a discussion with my 13 year old daughter.
    She had asked me if there were any rules to make decisions and out of the blue your post popped in.
    It’s not often (enough) that we have these type of talks and your post sure helped me to look wise and knowledgable.
    So a very HUGE thank you for that !

    • Hi Tim – that’s wonderful to hear that this article showed up so synchronistically for you and your daughter. It’s brilliant that you and she can have conversations at this point in her young life, helping to frame her perspective of personal power into one that she can carry with her into adulthood. 🙂

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