One Thing You Should Never Do If You Want To Change Your Life.

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[success]I assume the feeling of the wish fulfilled and with my mind dominated by this single sensation I go to sleep. I need do nothing to make it so, because it is so. ~ Neville.[/success]

It’s probably been mentioned once or twice, okay, maybe more than that, all right I agree, a lot more than that…I’m something of a lazybones.

What I mean is I don’t want everything to be a lot of effort, I’m more of an ease and grace kind of gal.  Don’t get me wrong I’ve been through the ‘struggle means I’m growing phase’ but I gave it up.  It didn’t fit with the lazybones concept…something had to give and it obviously needed to be ‘gotta struggle to grow’.  And let me tell you, once I’d decided I could just as easily grow through joy, well it was a done deal.

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So when I’m asked “Elle, what do I need to do to have my life change?”  My response is always the same.  Nothing.  Do nothing.

Not that everything can accept this easily, especially if they’re still in the ‘gotta struggle to grow’ phase or even worse that other equally pointless ‘gotta do something to make changes happen’.  Not to be sexist or anything, but I used to think it was a man thing and that us ladies had more of a handle on this…so not true.

FOR THE LOVE OF ALL THAT IS GOOD AND WHOLESOME  I’ve got to take a stance on this one or is it a stand.  Whatever it is, I’m taking it.

You’ve never seen me when I take a stance…it’s not always pretty…ask my Darling One.  I can be pretty stubborn and well, stance-like. But taking a stance, I am, I am.

Your fortune or misfortune was brought into being by your state of consciousness. There is no other cause. Have the courage to accept this and you will understand you didn’t have to think to yourself hmm what shall I do to create this misfortune I keep thinking of.  In fact all you did was focus on it, give it some attention and before you knew it, there it was in all its shining glory.  Well maybe not exactly glory and maybe not shiny either. But there it was.

Point being our outer behaviour is mechanical.  It’s subject to the compulsion applied to it by our  inner self.  Any change in the beliefs of the inner self will result in corresponding outer changes of behaviour.

The ideas which impel you to action are those which dominate your consciousness, those which possess the attention.  For this is the state of consciousness you occupy.

I know this is a challenge for all the left brained thinkers among us and sometimes for us right brainers too.  We are so conditioned to believe and accept that we need to do something, but our assumptions, conscious or unconscious direct all action toward their fulfillment.  It is an automatic act.

And just suppose for a minute you could believe this to be true..then any action that we take BEFORE occupying a new state of consciousness must come from the current state and if that’s not working, why on earth would we want to perpetuate it?

If we are living in the end of our ideal experience, and happily imagining it’s happened…thinking from it, not of it, then surely any action we needed to take had to get taken.  We didn’t have to sit down and work out how to do it.  Whatever needed to be done, must have been done, because here we are with our fulfilled desire in our hot little hands, so to speak.

There we have it, all we need to do is occupy that wonderful state of having our wishes fulfilled and every action we take will automatically be from that place and let me tell you, in a way you could not devise, what you have assumed will come into your world.  That’s the only action worth taking, occupy that happier new state…and stay there…and you’ll automatically find yourself doing something, differently than before.

That’s the piece about this I love the most.  When I find myself thinking of something in a new way, or acting in a new way I get all excited…woohoo I’m occupying a new state.

Observe your inner speech because this is the cause of all future action.

Okay, I’m done, taken my stand…it wasn’t exactly like Custer’s, but then again it’s probably not my last one either!

Encourage one another.

Love Elle.

 

ElleSommer
Elle Sommer is the author and founder of Live Purposefully Now, a website focused on sharing the insights and ancient wisdom that have collectively changed her life, in the desire to make a meaningful impact on yours. Trained at Coach U and having completed a year long training with Bob Proctor, her mission is to encourage and inspire others to build the business, relationships and life they want. Get your free instant access to Success Simplified ebook and get the tips, techniques and secrets of successfully living the life you want.

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13 Comments

  • Wow, this one is hard for me, it goes against every impulse I have to “do something, do anything.” And yet, in my heart, I know you are right. So often, I find myself allowing the planning and doing and working and trying to take the place of actual change.

    • If it’s any consolation, even for a genuine lazybones, it’s a hard one. We’ve been conditioned to do the complete opposite Carol. Conditioned to see the outer world as the reality, not the reflection. I’ve found that each time I move into ‘how something will happen’, it takes less and less time to remember, ‘that’s the old way’. As I said to Joseph in an earlier comment, persist, persist. And thanks for joining in the conversation. We all love the encouragement we get from one another. 🙂

  • I really needed this today! I’ve been beating myself up for not “doing enough” toward my envisioned future (goals sounded like the wrong word). It’s like I’ve been trying to convince myself that doing is more effective than being – something I know to be so wrong.

    And then I slow down enough to realize that what I’m doing today and the way I’m being are, in fact, what I’ve been wanting for myself. It is enough and it’s all good – no, great!

    Thanks again Elle!!

    • Isn’t it amazing Paige how we can all (myself included) get distracted by the ‘doing’ instead of the ‘being’. It’s also wonderful that you caught yourself and slowed everything down enough to move into that state of greatness. As we like to say across the pond ‘good job you’. 🙂

  • Hi Elle,

    I like your point that “Any change in the beliefs of the inner self will result in corresponding outer changes of behaviour.” and not the other way around. Once we are in the “state,” the rest will fall into place. Good point!

    • I think we’ve all been conditioned to live the other way around Cathy…and then it’s about changing that thinking…she says, as if it’s the easiest thing in the world!

  • Elle,

    So many wonderful ideas are coming out of this piece for me. I love your quote, “The ideas which impel you to action are those which dominate your consciousness, those which possess the attention. For this is the state of consciousness you occupy.” Very powerful, and it really speaks to me. I will be sure to use this quote down the line. Thanks for the inspiration today! 🙂

    • Victor, I’m so happy to hear that there’s something here you can take and use to have an even more lovely life than than the one I know you currently lead. That makes me a happy camper. 🙂

  • Consciousness is just consciousness. None of it it is better or worse. It just is. However, there are most certainly different experiences to be had by dwelling in different states of it. If one finds one’s experiences to be unpleasant all one need do is choose to dwell in/live from a different state of consciousness.
    Thank you for your inspired/inspiring article.
    Write on, Elle !

  • Great article. I just found your blog via Treatment talk. I love your writing style.

    So, the one thing you “should never do” is try to “do something else”? That kinda makes sense. Getting into that vibration and going with the flow has been the quintessential thing that has propelled me where I am.

    Just added your to my Google Reader 🙂

    • Great to hear your point of view and welcome to the conversation. Staying with the vibration of your desire being fulfilled is the ‘doing’ and it sounds like it’s a piece of cake for you! For some, it can be a challenge not to go and ‘make’ something happen. 🙂

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