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Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage. ~ Lao Tzu
No matter what’s happened in past relationships you deserve love and affection.
Maybe past relationships haven’t always turned out the way you wanted but that doesn’t mean that they won’t today.
It isn’t love that hurt you and left you bruised and full of sorrow. It’s loss or rejection or fear that caused you pain, and today you can let it go. Many never know how, or when to let go and it can hold them back forever.
Don’t let this be you.
Today is a new day, make a new choice and give up your old relationship habits and beliefs. Start to believe that real love and understanding is yours and your belief will help create that reality.
Giving and receiving love is at the core of our well being. Love in our life supports our growth, our happiness and our spirit. It’s love that enriches our life and brings it deep meaning.
In fact you are designed for love and you have been given the power to create it. Love, peace and happiness is within your reach, it’s simply one new choice away.
Remember you are precious and deserve the peace and joy that true love brings. And it begins with you.
Do the hardest thing
You are designed for love in its highest form. But past history, old programming and the unhappy stories we tell ourselves about relationships, will block it.
Only by loving does come love to us and the more you love, the more it comes. Far too many go through life wanting to be loved and never feeling that they are, even when they’re in a truly loving relationship.
Remember the feeling has to be in you first. You have to feel love within to know love. When you love, you feel wonderful. When someone else loves you, they feel wonderful.
The biggest danger is forgetting self-love, it doesn’t have to, and shouldn’t, take a back seat to love of others.
Truthfully, it’s the best way to draw genuine, deep love into your world. Yet sometimes it’s the hardest and last thing many pay attention to. Don’t be one of them.
You don’t need a fortune teller
You need a vision.
Your future isn’t somewhere out there. It’s in you. You’re the creator and shaper of your days, of your life, of your relationships.
You need a vivid description of the outcome you want, one that inspires and gives you the energy to keep moving forward.
Imagine your future, its ideal in all respects; this is you asking for what you want. This is the message you’re radiating from within.
If you’re single, then think of your vision as a sort of recruiting tool. People who have the same vision for their life are drawn to you.
If you’re involved, you’re planting seeds of happiness, love, and hope, and you’ll reap an abundant harvest.
Oh yes…really important. Write it down.
Unity of purpose
To begin moving with purpose in the direction of the change you seek in your life you need to be really clear on what it is you want.
It may have taken courage to step back into a relationship, to trust again, to open up again, but it won’t be enough to keep you there.
Many couples never reach a unity of purpose.
You need a shared awareness of love, of your future in order to be walking the path towards it together.
Talk and listen to each other. Share your values, your fears, what you need today to be happy, regardless of what happened yesterday.
We all we carry things from our past; hurts and upsets, ager and pain but you don’t have to let those negative thoughts from the past destroy your happy future. Today, they only live in your mind as memories. Let them go.
And use your imagination to envision a future that fulfills in every way. You need to see your bright future in your mind’s eye if you’re to create it.
Remember, your thoughts are filled with creative power, deliberately choose to fill your mind with thoughts of an ideal and happy future.
A true love story
I remember hearing of someone who was single and travelled a lot. She found it difficult to meet anyone, never staying anywhere longer than a few weeks. Eventually, fed up with this state of affairs, she decided to write down a vision of her happily imagined future:
My love picks me up from the airport and we drive to our lovely home for a dinner that he prepared. Before dinner we sit in front of the fire drinking a glass of wine and sharing stories about our day.
Sooner than she imagined possible, she met and married a chef. It turned out they both were great story tellers and they take time each evening to regale each other with the experiences of their day!
If this works for one of us, it works for us all.
Write your own vision.
Keep it simple, keep it in the present tense and filled with words that conjure up descriptive pictures for you.
I used it in my world and drew the perfect partner into my life. Here we are some sixteen years later with a relationship that just gets better and more beautiful every day. He’s one of the reasons I’m the happiest woman on the planet.
Nothing is ever final in the jigsaw of our life, pieces get revised and even replaced, let the same be true for your relationship, be willing to fine tune it as you both grow and expand but let love always be the biggest piece, bigger than any differences, bigger than any tweaking you choose to do.
The vision we create is going to support us in seeing and encouraging the very best in one another. And should you decide not to have a vision that’s okay. Just make sure you’re not focusing on the things that aren’t supportive and aren’t the best.
Appreciate where you are, appreciate what you have, appreciate the love in your life. For appreciation of what we have always, always, always, brings more things to appreciate.
Over to you. What ways can you share that have helped you create the right relationship for you and keeps it thriving? The comments below await your unique and special insights and perspective.
Thank you for reading, sharing and contributing. I’m looking forward to hearing what you have to say on this one. Love is important to us all.
Encourage one another