In life there’s one powerful thing you don’t want to leave too late to learn.

Not that I actually believe it’s ever too late to learn anything – though through my own life experiences I have discovered that the sooner you learn at least this one powerful thing, you can stop those dream-killer thoughts and beliefs that snatch away greater happiness and fulfillment.

And if you’ve ever made any attempts to transform or make lasting changes in your life, be they physical, emotional or spiritual and had them flounder, this one thing is likely to be a root cause.

Once you get a grip on the thing you really don’t want to leave too late to learn, you can stop those dream-killers from holding you back and begin to experience a level of richness and fulfillment that you might never have  accomplished.

So let’s get on with it. Here’s that one powerful thing you don’t want to leave too late to learn:

The Power of Awareness

Awareness. Including, but not limited to self-awareness.

And if you’re one of those who are shaking their head at me right now, because that seems too simple, or you’re the exception to this, or you’re definitely aware then maybe it’s time to learn more about awareness.

Awareness of assumptions

Think of all the decisions you are currently making, have made, or will be making in the future, many of which are based on your assumptions.

Your assumptions are the things you have concluded to be true, and whether they are true or not, assumptions that we persist in eventually become our reality.

And I don’t know about you, but I can truthfully say, hand on heart, that over the years I have assumed things that I’d rather not have that resulted in some of my life experiences.

For instance, in the past I had assumptions about relationships. A couple of rotten relationships had me assuming things about ALL relationships that simply weren’t true.

Yet I kept experiencing the very things I’d been assuming. Which seemingly inexplicably always turned out to be a big surprise? 

Until that one exciting day when I became aware that what I assumed, was just that, an assumption. Not a life truth.

It was the day that I decided that if I’d assumed one thing that didn’t serve me well, then I could assume something new that would lead to happier outcomes.

And it worked. Because here I am today in a relationship that is everything I could ever have desired.


But had that awareness not struck, I would probably still be stuck in that pattern of relationships that honestly stunk to high heaven.

Don’t leave it too late to become aware of what you assume about relationships and see if you can connect the dots to those assumptions and to any relationship you currently have, be they friends, lovers, or colleagues.

Changing assumptions to reflect the things you desire and not those things that will never bring you happiness is the way to total transformation of those events and conditions you may not want to continue experiencing in life.

Don’t leave it too late to learn how awareness affects even the smallest things in life.

But remember. It’s not about trying or chasing awareness, it’s simply stepping back and allowing awareness to flow effortlessly.

I’m simply talking about a few things where the power of awareness can make all the difference in our life.

Promises made, promises kept…or not

How often have you told someone you love or cared for or respected that you’ll do something and then not followed through?

Not very often, right?

How often have you told yourself that you’ll do something for you and then not followed through? 

Be honest here.

Once in a blue moon? Sometimes? Far too often?

This is one of the things we’ve all been guilty of.

Interesting how we value the promises we make to others more than those we make to ourselves.

The problem here is that we pay a huge price for this. We rarely, if ever, turn our dreams into our physical experience.

You can see the benefits of awareness here. Because I know that rarely turning dreams into a physical reality isn’t good enough for me, and not good enough for you.

The letting mode

I remember being in the ‘letting mode’ of life rather than the ‘choosing mode’. Which meant that I wasn’t choosing even in a minor way how life was happening, I was simply letting it happen all around me willy nilly.

It isn’t an effective way to lead the life we want to live.

And I don’t know about you, but no-one ever told me I actually had choices. That I could pave the way through conscious awareness so that more of my day would turn out more easily. More the way I’d like it to.

If you too have a desire to manifest or create a more brilliant life, paving the way for this to happen is a good place to start.

Paving the way

This meant for me no longer getting up and jumping headlong into my day.

I’d become aware that the being part of me needed to come before the doing part. 

I had discovered that before doing anything I needed to be something, someone. 

I needed to be the one who had the day she wanted to have. I needed to be the one who first saw in imagination how their day unfolded.

I’m not talking about every little nitty gritty detail here, they didn’t matter so much as the total outcome for my day. 

I saw myself doing things mentally that I would be doing had my day been pretty easy and rewarding, knowing that this would propel me to do the things in the physical world that would lead to the same feeling at day’s end.

It didn’t matter so much that the physical doing exactly matched the imaginal doing, just that the feeling at the end of the physical day pretty much aligned with the feeling of my imaginary day.

Try this and see.  Whatever is on your schedule for today first pave the way by imagining the outcome you would like to experience, because in my experience wherever you are mentally, life tends to follow.

The great thing about this is that the more you do it, the better it works.

Putting it all together

Awareness is one of the great gifts we have been given for living our best life. 

To become more aware is most definitely something you don’t want to leave too late to learn. 

And whilst I only share a few ways to become more aware perhaps you will be open to experiencing more ways that awareness can make a difference in your life.

Conscious awareness is a magic spark that lights up your life.

Breath awareness

The last thing I would like to add about awareness is the breath. 

Our breath is closely related to our physical, emotional and thinking experiences and being more aware of the breath also helps to deepen our focus and concentration and often gives a shift in perspective.

So as you go through your day today just notice how your breath relates to your emotions, is your breathing more shallow when you’re face with challenges and whether it’s slower or deeper when you’re feeling happy or more relaxed. Don’t judge, just notice.

I recently noticed when my mind had become very busy with things I needed to do…thoughts of I need to do this, and that, oh yes and there’s this, and then there’s that thing I haven’t got around to, that my out breath became much shorter, so I changed it to my usual breathing tempo and all those this’s and that’s didn’t bother me one little bit.


If you can start to do this a couple of times a day, you might discover that by changing your breathing you change your emotions and thus change your experiences.

And remember, it’s only about awareness, not about what’s right or wrong. There is no right or wrong.

Final thoughts

As you begin to integrate greater awareness into everyday life you will soon clearly see for yourself irrefutable evidence of how useful awareness is and how much power you actually can have over your life experiences.

Encourage one another.

Love Elle



Elle Sommer is the author of 4 books and a workbook. Her latest publications are a series called The Power of Consciousness, and you will find all three books in this trilogy now available on Kindle. She shares quotes, inspiration and positive vibes on Facebook, Instagram and Pinterest. And her greatest desire is to encourage and inspire others to create not just a good life, but a phenomenal life.


  1. I so agree, Elle! Awareness is the most powerful capacity we possess. Without awareness, we couldn’t change for the better. We could get stuck in some rotten spots. I try to be wary of assumptions because, as you’ve said, they have made several messes in my life. And I agree, we need to start with being for any doing to be effective.

    • Hi Sandra…I love your phrase, that awareness is the most powerful capacity we possess. And it sounds as though we both have found that being needs to come before doing. 🙂

  2. Awareness and its companion, emotional intelligence, make life SO much easier. Until I acquired them, much later than I would have liked to in life, I think I made life so much harder on myself. Now, it is like my superpower and I am so much happier and at peace and as you say “living my best life.” I consider my breathing a basic tool to get me there!

    • Hi Debbie – how wonderful that you are living your best life. I so agree with you about the breath. May your day be wonderful. 🙂

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