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[success]Habits of thinking need not be forever. One of the most significant findings in psychology in the last twenty years is that individuals can choose the way they think. ~ Martin Seligman[/success]
How different would your life be if you had a clear path to your goals and desires?
Imagine walking a path that’s filled with brambles and bushes and weeds as high as a house that stop you from seeing the path clearly. That stop you from walking the path easily. That slow your progress because you have to fight your way through.
This is the inner path most of us are walking.
You have an amazing mind. It imagines, it creates, it conserves and it transforms. It’s a huge and mostly untapped source of power, but one thing will prevent you from getting the best out of it, if you let it.
One thing will always, always hold us back. It’s that very same powerful mind filled to overflowing with all our past experiences, past interpretations of events, past judgements, past labels, past beliefs and most especially past conditioning.
These are the brambles and bushes and weeds that make your journey more challenging than it need be. They block your inner pathway, leaving no room for fresh ideas and opportunities and beliefs.
1.Let go of looking for happiness outside of yourself
Happiness isn’t out there. It isn’t in the next big deal you make, it isn’t waiting for you in your next relationship, you can’t borrow it from someone, or buy it, or keep it in your handbag or wallet. Happiness is where it’s always been, within you.
If your happiness depends on outer circumstances you’ll find it doesn’t last long and worse, some person or event has control over it. Not cool.
Feeling happy is always only one thought away. Choose to think it. Speak words of happiness over your life and allow them to well up in your heart…you’ll never again seek happiness in outer ephemeral things. Why would you? Your life will become amazing.
Don’t let your happiness be limited because of yesterday. It exists right now, in you, in this moment. Start each day by telling yourself today I choose happiness.
Let go of the idea that the power to be happy lies in some outside source.
2.Eliminate the habit of backward thinking
This is part of our conditioning and needs to be cleared out. Stop letting your current results control you.
You can’t look at the results you’re getting and think from them and expect to see something different show up.
This is a great formula for not living an amazing life.
We look at our present relationship, we look at our bills, we look at a doctor’s report or an x-ray and then we let those results control our thinking.
Shift this, let your present results simply show you where you were. Start your thought process with a clear idea of what you really want and let that thought determine how you think and feel.
Begin to think about it as though you were experiencing it right here and now. What’s that called? Oh yes, using the power of your imagination.
The way you think controls how you feel, which controls what you do and how you act, and this in turn produces your results.
As you think differently new results occur, check them out, are they still what you want? If so, great, begin again with another new idea to think from. If not, great, begin again with another new idea.
3.Victimhood be gone
We’ve all been here. Why is this happening to me…again. Woe is me. I’ve been dealt a terrible hand. A rotten story keeps playing out in my life.
Falling into a victim mentality will always deny you a view of life from an empowered perspective. You’re pretty much stuck in a place where you can never make changes. How can you? You’re at the mercy of everyone and everything else. Powerless. And that makes for a gigantic thorny bush on your path.
You can’t play the role of victim and be empowered at the same time. Sitting in victimhood lessens your ability to make changes.
Don’t get me wrong, I’ve done my fair share of wingeing and whining and there are some who might say I was pretty blooming good at it too. But you know what I noticed? It never got me one step closer to the fulfillment of any of my dreams and desires.
Clear victimhood out of the way.
4.Banish unlovely reactions
What’s important about the way you react to the conditions and events and people in your world?
Your reactions to life reveal the state of mind you live in and your state of mind…all the thoughts and feelings and beliefs that you hold…are the creators of your life experiences.
As you react to your experiences you’re tying yourself to them, in your conscious awareness.
Generally our reactions are that of resisting, or pushing against those things we don’t like. And the more you resist, the more fuel is given to the things you don’t want. And where does that get you? Wrapped in another thorny bush of stuckness.
The person you desire to be can’t be brought about without a change in your reactions to life. And the person you desire to be is the one with their current dreams and goals fulfilled. Right?
5.Make room for dreams
We’re so busy being experts, or making judgements that we get in our own way. I’ve had to regroup more times than I’ve had hot dinners. I’ve had to let go of old habits of thought, drop old beliefs and labels in order to entertain new ones. And then I’ve had to do it again and yet again.
Making the choice to clear out all old thought habits that imply you’re powerless to alter your current life experience can turn your so-so life into one that’s amazing.
Be willing to empty out memories of things gone by and create some space for a new life dynamic, new relationships, new beliefs. Old thought habits and beliefs block your path and keep you stuck in your present life.
Make the choice to no longer passively wait for your dreams to come true because you’re now willing to make room for them. They’ve been knocking at the door for how long now? Days? Weeks? Months? Years?
6.Stop seeking agreement
I read once taking offense is as bad as giving it. I’ve no idea if this is true or not, but I do know that not everyone will agree with what you do, or what you say, or what you believe. Don’t let that stop you.
When my late husband passed away and I decided to travel to the States to visit my sister and spend some months in Florida it would be an understatement to say that my friends and family thought that this was a terrible idea.
At first I found myself confused as to what I should do.
Maybe they did know better.
Maybe I wasn’t yet myself.
Perhaps it was too soon to be making decisions like this. I did it anyway.
It turned out to be one of my better choices. It was a journey of discovery, opportunity and clarity, leading me into an entirely new and brilliant life adventure.
Don’t get hung up on how others see you, you’re not meant to live their life. You should be too busy living your own.
Start now, start today…make that one choice to make the rest of your life amazing; choose to clear the way of every label and judgement and doubt that blocks the pathway to your dreams.
In the end life is far too short to wait and see what other people think of your chosen path. The only approval necessary is your own.
What else would you like to add that could help us clear old habits of thinking? Share your thoughts in the comments below, we all value your wisdom and brilliance.
Thank you for reading and commenting and sharing. Have I told you that you rock?
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