No Really…It’s Me Not You

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Everything’s gone to hell in a hand-basket.

Your love life has gone up in a puff of smoke…what’s that about your latest flame?

Your financial affairs are in dire straights, your stress level’s at an all time high and your health and wellbeing…fuggetaboutit.

Time to say ~ enough is enough, is enough, I can’t go on...woops, my bad…that’s the lyrics to a song.  But it is time, time to stop hurting, stop wounding, stop blaming, stop crying, stop screaming at the world, I want to get off. And you turn to new ways.

Alice doesn’t leave here anymore

You stop.  And you breathe.  And you reach deep within.  And you find your salvation.  And it’s you.  It was always you, but you were so caught up in the distractions and noises of the world that you couldn’t see, you couldn’t hear. You were seduced by the sights and sounds and senses of your outer life.  You were Alice, living your life through the looking glass.

Living from the inside out

And you choose something different, something new.  You choose to practice living from the inside out, viewing your experiences, events and people you encounter as reflections of your inner self, with no judgement.  It’s simply consciousness, it’s not good or bad, it just is.  What a relief.

There’s no more finger pointing – they did that to me.  No, you understand it’s something in your consciousness and you can change it and have a new experience.  You’ve learned you’re the only one who can change it.  And you do, and in the process a greater sense of security and self-determination is created.

You as encourager-in-chief

Then you grow and expand in awareness as you practice your new way of being in the world, all the while redefining the old and outdated concept you had of yourself.  A new self image is being formed, and it’s all your own work.  Your confidence soars.  You become your greatest cheerleader and the encourager-in-chief for all who enter into your sphere.

You willingly give up martyrdom and victimhood, replacing these states of mind with ones of gratitude and love and a softening heart as you recognize life responds exactly and pretty precisely to every thought and feeling you have.

Giving up beliefs in secondary causes

You stop telling yourself,  everything happens for a reason as though there’s some outside force at work in your life, for good or ill…because now you get that the reason most stuff happens is because of you.  You have given up the belief in secondary causes, without resorting to blame. The power is back in your hands.  You’ve become aware – you get that everything is consciousness and you sense the creator within…just a little.

Your state of expanded love

You learned to see yourself without the old perspective of self-criticism and judgement, and came to the conclusion that you are good and valuable and worthwhile, just as you are now.  And this led you to greater compassion, not just for others, but for you too.  You discovered that as you learned to love and appreciate yourself, your ability to love and appreciate others expanded.

Thank you, thank you, thank you became your most frequent and simple prayer.

Practising kindness

Kindness is your watchword.  You practice kindness.  Kindness to others and to self and you begin to experience greater bouts of happiness and you discover it was never to be sought, but that it flows effortlessly to you from the practice of loving kindness.

Love of self

You learn to love your body.  You begin to take care of it, to value it. You care what you eat, you care how your body feels.  There’s no longer any need to eat because you ‘re trying to fill some hole inside you.  You make better choices.  You choose to take care of your body – hey it’s the only one you’ve got and you’re grateful for it, exactly the way it is right now.  You have fun.  You laugh.  You play.

No more need for control

You stop trying to control everything, you become more relaxed and can let go and breathe and smile.  Joy rushes in as you give up the need to ‘fix’ yourself or your world.

You find yourself asking the questions can I allow myself to have an easy effortless day and can I let go of self-sabotaging thoughts and behaviour and wonders of wonders you say yes.

Peace and contentment arrives

And along the way you’ve picked up the tools to let go of negative feelings.  They’re just feelings, they’re not you.  You’re able to feel them and let them go, so they no longer grab a hold and fill your mind with doom and gloom and sometimes make you sick.  You feel peace more often and contentment shows up to say hello.

You are love

You’ve discovered your essence is love and it dissolves feelings of fear.  You’ve given up the belief that there has to be conflict in your life and you now live in a more harmonious world. There’s no need to look outside of yourself for answers – you completely trust your own knowingness.

Embracing expansion

You learn to persist in living in the end of your desires.  You’ve come to see that our desires allow us to express our own uniqueness in greater and more wonderful ways.  It matters not a jot if your desire is of the spiritual or the physical…it’s all about expansion and greater expression. And you no longer judge the desires of another.  They have their own path to tread, their own uniqueness to express.

Your brilliance revealed

And now you can see more clearly the brilliance that was always you.   You are lighter, happier, more calm and relaxed.  Nothing is more consistently beautiful than the things that happen to you every day as a being awake enough to see the wonder.  It’s the beginning of a new life, created with love and courage…by you.

And you can say with absolute certainty…no really, it’s me not you.

Encourage one another.

Love Elle
xoxo

 

ElleSommer
Elle Sommer is the author and founder of Live Purposefully Now, a website focused on sharing the insights and ancient wisdom that have collectively changed her life, in the desire to make a meaningful impact on yours. Trained at Coach U and having completed a year long training with Bob Proctor, her mission is to encourage and inspire others to build the business, relationships and life they want. You can also find her on Healthy Natural Oils her new website for helping you get started with essential oils for more natural health, well-being happiness and success in your life!

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30 Comments

    • I’m glad you enjoyed it Dore`. It’s always good to get feedback ~ especially when it comes from such a kind soul. Thank you. 🙂

    • Lura, thanks for joining in the conversation…I feel so grateful that your takeaway from this post was your freedom. And it’s true…you are unlimited Lura. 🙂

  • “A being awake enough to see the beautiful wonder of everyday”, to paraphrase the last paragraph of your article, WOW! I agree with Monsieur Dore, it is a fine message . . . a very very fine message indeed. You have eloquently expressed the lesson of the ages – to turn one’s attention from the seemingly insurmountable problem and to focus on the one true answer, the power within.
    Thank you.
    Write on, Elle !

    • I’m reminded of another story Joseph…but I think I’ll keep it…another post coming up. I love how inspiration comes from so many sources, books I’ve read, topics I’ve studied and now from you. Thanks for being here and sharing your perspective Joseph…it’s so valuable for us all to hear from as many different and varying sources as possible. So encouraging. 🙂

    • Bless you Jonathan…as I said to Joseph…inspiration comes from everywhere. I remember doing a course with Bob Proctor who said he claimed no authorship for anything he did…he had studied so many inspirational people and I pretty much feel the same way, especially since I’ve read many of the authors who inspired him! We all just express the information uniquely through our beingness. 🙂

  • Hi Elle, You know, a few years ago I would have had absolutely no idea what you were talking about. Now it’s as if you were right here, riding along with me 🙂

    • I remember Julie many years back when I first began to study and understand these principles I would often look at something and think to myself I have no idea what they’re talking about…so I hear you. 🙂 And now I’m so happy that we’re riding together. It’s fun isn’t it, this adventure we call life?

  • Very inspirational Elle! Love this line – “And now you can see more clearly the brilliance that was always you.” You’ve captured the essence of someone who has found their inner peace and joy.

    • Thank you Cathy…I love your line “you’ve captured the essence of someone who has found their inner peace and joy.” The next step for us all is to hand on to it…not always an easy task in our loud, noisy and distracting world…but we persist.

      Hmmm maybe I’m just talking about me here. 🙂

  • Elle….It’s so easy to get caught up on what the world tells us is important thinking that it will lead us to happiness…until CRASH….that’s when a great opportunity opens up …to start the spiritual journey…of living from the ‘inside out’ as you said. Thanks for your wise words Elle. xxoo-Fran

    • You’re so right Fran…it seems as though we’ve always been on a search and then the ray of sun strikes us and we see really clearly, maybe for the first time, that what we were seeking has been with us all the time. We human beings are funny like that. 🙂

  • Elle,

    I soooo needed to read this today! I’ve been letting the outer world get to me without taking the quiet time to listen to my inner world. Crazy inside = crazy outside.

    Throughout this post you’ve used just the right words in the right way to hit me between the eyes with the message I needed to hear.

    All I can say is thank you, thank you, thank you!!!

    • Oh Paige, you are my sister in spirit kiddo, I’m most definitely not perfect at this stuff and there are days…well, I think it requires a post to hear the full story. 🙂

      Meanwhile I’m so happy that the words reached you. As I’ve said before, there’s nothing new under the sun, but we all tell the story differently and we all hear the story differently and someone will say something that just resonates because they express it just right, at that moment. Happens to me all the time.

      I love your thank you’s – my favourite prayer. 🙂

  • Thank you Elle
    for all your beautiful inspiring words its sooooooo up lifting to read your post it seems like everything you right about that you are personally mentoring me and that feels so good thank you thank you thank you ❤¸¸.•*¨*☆❤¸¸.•*¨*☆❤¸¸.•*¨*☆

    • Thank you Sheila for joining the conversation, for reading my ‘stuff’ and encouraging me to keep on keeping on. Love those hearts and stars. 🙂

  • Elle,

    Oh I needed this… I caught myself judging a duaghter or two or four! LOL You saved me!

    You are becoming one of my favorite bloggers;) seriously!

    no longer judge the desires of another. They have their own path to tread, their own uniqueness to express.

    • Thank you Tess for your oh so encouraging words. 🙂 I think I often write what I need too, since I had a couple of days of needing to have a bit of a shift my own self. This law of life stuff can get seriously in the way of judging and complaining and all the other stuff that we can get up to! 🙂

  • Elle this is beautiful and so powerful. I keep reading about being being enough and really being true to oneself and you have expressed it here so beautifully- yes Thank you Thank you Thank you is a beautiful prayer and when we step fully into gratitude and embrace it in our hearts we can truly be ME

    Thank you Love Suzie xx

    • Suzie you are so right, when we step fully into gratitude we can truly be who we truly are. Thank you for your kind words, they touch my heart. 🙂

  • Hi Elle — yes, I’ve definitely been thinking recently about the possibility that my desires and what I want may serve a larger purpose, and are not just “selfish” or “self-interested,” as I had long believed. Repressing or not revealing what I want doesn’t really serve anyone.

    • Funnily enough Chris I used to believe exactly that – self serving or selfish – I remember reading somewhere and probably don’t have the exact quote, but it’s something like as I’m successful I help many, as I fail, I help none. It resonated with me a lot. 🙂

  • The more I live by this lovely law, the more I realize how hard it is to explain and express what it truly means in words, for me at least, I feel so much, and the words can’t seem to cover that huge emotional field, but you, dear Elle, have a gift of putting it into words in a fantastic way, and I am so thankful to have found you, I am just reading, nodding and saying to myself: she has done it again! 🙂 thank you so much for managing to explain me to me 🙂 I am sending you a huge hug!

    • I know just what you mean Ana…and perhaps our mind wants to make it more complicated than it is. 🙂 I’m so happy that the words I use are encouraging and beneficial to you…that’s my secret plan. Encourage everyone. 🙂

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