My Darling One feeds cows. At least that’s what he told me when we first met. That, and he’s in Agriculture. They were his two stories to describe how he was gainfully employed.
Not that they weren’t true, just not an entirely accurate portrayal. Who knew that this meant his day was dominated by the telephone…as in calls about cattle feed.
I never knew that feeding cows was seasonal, although after seeing McLeod’s Daughters (that Australian show, which, if you haven’t seen, it’s really cute…at least the first season) I could see why it would be.
As the years passed I noticed a pattern. My Darling One believed cows ate more in the winter and that business was slower in the summer month’s…and would you believe it, that’s just what he experienced.
Brrr. Makes me hungry just looking at this. Looks like good old, sweet and tasty bread pudding weather to me. Something to warm the cockles of your heart.
Next up was “The Big Report Day” the name I’ve given to the crop report that gets issued three, four sometimes six times a year. “Business is always slow just before Big Report Day.” said My Darling One.
One day I asked him why? Why does business have to be slow in the summer and before the crop report comes out? Why do you believe that? He knows how the laws of life work. And here he was accepting and believing things that weren’t positive and productive, at least for his business.
“It’s hot in the summer, cows don’t eat as much.”
“Nobody ever does business before a crop report, it’s always been that way…don’t see it changing any time soon.”
He was arguing for his limitations. Justifying the way things were, because…well they’d always been that way. Of course they had and would continue to be so in his world whilst he continued to hang on to those old beliefs.
How many of us do this? Not me of course…not much, well maybe more than sometimes. But I’m working on it!
We argue for what we don’t actually want because it’s what we’ve experienced. An event occurs and we interpret it and then we believe and accept that interpretation as a ‘fact’. We’re constantly feeding and reinforcing negative beliefs. My Darling One had those old beliefs for years.
Awareness is a process of waking up. Of recognizing we are the only one’s thinking our thoughts, having our beliefs following along the same tracks they’ve always done. It’s time to stop limiting ourselves to our outer reality. To remember that the outer world merely mirrors these thoughts and beliefs right back at us. As Confucius once said, change your mind, change your life…okay maybe it wasn’t him….but it could have been, it sounds like something he would say.
I don’t believe it was Confucius, but I get your meaning . . .
Just the other day an acquaintance advised me, “don’t let your past rule your future”, so for me there seems to be that message in the air. Thank you.
Write on, Elle !
That’s great advice Joseph. May I pinch it?