cupcakesHave you ever had an imaginary argument with someone who was totally and absolutely not there?

You might not know it, but you were planting the seed for some future harvest.  Cabbages or cupcakes. All depends on the quality of thought.  You’ve set in motion an event to be experienced and if it’s lousy you’ll probably be saying, where the heck did that come from?  Nothing to do with me.

Years ago, I heard Bob Proctor say, let me talk to someone for five minutes and I can tell you exactly what’s happening in their world.  My response.  Right!  What a load of codswallop.

Ignorance, was my middle name!

Life as a mirror

Today I get that whenever you see me, you see the state of my mind.  You see the life I lead, the experiences I have…and you’re looking at the reflection of the arrangement of my mind.

Weird isn’t it, that our experiences are just reflections…they seem so…well, so set in stone.

Yourself being revealed

Recently I found myself having a reaction to someone, and even knowing it was an aspect of myself, even knowing that it was my very own consciousness being revealed, didn’t help.

Seeing it as a reflection of something in me didn’t help.  I needed to focus on something other than my reaction.  Truth be told,  I prefer a nice harvest and it wasn’t coming my way any time soon if I remained in my reactive state.

It was a real challenge, keeping my mind focused on what I wanted to think.  Pitiful ~ I know.  All these years of study and practice and what my Mum and Grandma tried to instill in me and yet, there I was.  Stuck.

Beliefs will win the day

It wasn’t easy preventing my thoughts from returning to the scene and evidence of  ‘the crime’.  I was a busy bee, pollenating my future, making my destiny NOT be the one I would wish for, caught in the trap of unhelpful thoughts.

I’d have a better thought, breathe a quick sigh of relief and BAM,  I was back, back in the muck and mire of miserable, rotten harvest producing, thoughts.

The beliefs that created my reaction, must have been deeply ingrained, habitual in fact…probably been swilling around and left to their own devices for many a year.  It took a little over a hour before I had a thought that stopped everything in their tracks.

Letting go

I remembered a lecture I’d read:

The author talked about having two beings within us, one ugly and menacing and the other beautiful and noble.  Every angry, vengeful thought meant that the menacing being expanded and the noble one was diminished.  Every thought of forgiveness and peace expanded the more beautiful inner being.  All that was required was to redeem the ugliness through love.  Loving the ugly menacing creature was the way to deflate it’s size and power.

I needed to try this, I had nothing to lose…I chose, ‘ I will redeem it‘ for my mantra.

Each unlovely thought was greeted with I will redeem it‘.

And before you could say Bob’s your uncle, I was saved from myself.  Well, maybe it took a little longer, I don’t have an uncle Bob…but my affirmation actually worked.  Woohoo.

Peace, love and understanding

That’s my tale of love, peace and understanding, with a little forgiveness thrown in for good measure.

“He who fights with monsters might take care lest he thereby become a monster. And if you gaze for long into an abyss, the abyss gazes also into you.” – Friedrich Nietzsche

Maybe you have a technique or a tip that helps you move from a state of mental anguish or annoyance and upset into a happier and more peaceful state of mind.  Want to share?  We can use all the help we can get.  Okay, speaking for myself here. I’m always open to new tips.

Encourage one another.

Love Elle





Elle Sommer is the author of 4 books and a workbook. Her latest publications are a series called The Power of Consciousness, and you will find all three books in this trilogy now available on Kindle. She shares quotes, inspiration and positive vibes on Facebook, Instagram and Pinterest. And her greatest desire is to encourage and inspire others to create not just a good life, but a phenomenal life.


  1. Elle: This was an interesting read. I find peace by counting my blessing. Every day I am blessed to even be alive and I just try to remind myself and be thankful. I want a peaceful life. I think the key to that is showing love and helping others and this world become a better place.

    Best Wishes,
    William Veasley

    • Elle

      Thanks for joining in the conversation William. I so agree with you, gratitude, love and kindness to all makes our life and world even more amazingly beautiful. 🙂 Thanks for sharing your tips.

      • Elle: I believe in loving my neighbor as my brother, but I have not always done so. I am trying to grow an be a more loving person. Even if someone treats me wrong I want to be the person that “turns the other cheek”.

        • Elle

          Now that’s a lovely sentiment William ‘be the person that turns the other cheek’. It truly is all about staying in our own happy state of mind and not falling into someone elses. Good job you!

  2. Enjoyed reading this, Elle and I know exactly what you mean. I’ve had those conversations and those re-visits to the scene of the crime several times. I think I’m learning to look for what lesson a hurtful experience is seeking to teach me. When I find the lesson, I’m grateful and it takes away the anger and the frustration.

    • Elle

      Nice to hear from you Corinne. Sounds like another vote for gratitude. I’m with you on this one…what a great perspective you have. 🙂

  3. Elle,
    Yes! When I start having “those” conversations I know it means that I have to make some changes. I try my hardest to use the mantra I wrote about a few months ago, “I’m sorry, forgive me, thank you, I love you.” After I repeat for a while I do feel calmer.

    • Elle

      Isn’t it interesting Angela, how we just need a little training, to get our minds to focus on what it is that we want to experience? Great mantra. 🙂

  4. I get out of my state of mental anguish by mentally removing myself from the situation and being that person no one sees who is eavesdropping on the scene. I know longer have to be engaged in the emotions of whatever is going on. I usually end up with a slight smile on my face and am able to pay attention to the situation instead of the person I particularly don’t like.

    • Elle

      I like that Glynis, mentally putting yourself totally outside the situation and you end up smiling. Nice one. 🙂

  5. Hi Elle,

    For me, stepping back mentally or physically and just being present, as well as taking a breath or two helps me. I find if I mentally detach, it helps me return to a state of calm. Thanks for sharing your interesting post!

    • Elle

      Another mental detachment technique Cathy. So many useful tips and techniques in these comments. Love them. Thank you. 🙂

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