5 Ways to Eradicate Behavior That’s Killing Your Spirit

Updated August 2022

It’s not easy to spot the behavior that’s killing our spirit.

But try checking this out. How often have you stopped feeling good about yourself in this world of ups and downs, highs and lows?  Does it sometimes feel that everyone is doing better than you?

And what about those mornings where you might even find yourself wondering why you should bother getting up?  Sigh!

You know doing something will make you feel better, but you just don’t know what that is.  And before too long, you find yourself in a downward spiral; you don’t know how to get back on track, and it’s killing your spirit.

It doesn’t matter if it’s your business, financial, or relationship success; once that spiral of negativity and despondency begins, so does the negative, critical voice in your head that won’t shut up.  

It makes it nigh impossible to step into the mindset that keeps you UP when life is bringing you DOWN.

And worse, any self-esteem you had begins to swirl its way down the drain of despair.

So what should you do?  You can’t simply sit there pondering the unfairness of life while your doubts and fears continue to wreak havoc.  Instead, let’s eradicate the behavior that’s responsible for killing your spirit.

5 Ways to Eradicate Behavior That’s Killing Your Spirit

1. The biggest hurdle

You want to live in such a way that you get whatever it is you truly need. Right?

Yet, a huge part of your life is spent imagining the worst that can happen and the consequences that lead to more misery and less success in the areas that are important to you.

It’s time you stepped back from your fears and worries and realized that one of the biggest hurdles to overcome is not what you fear but the very fact that you are afraid. 

Being afraid leads you to take actions that you would never take were you occupying a mindset of confidence and the expectancy of something great happening.

Consistently feeling scared isn’t just you experiencing anxiety; it’s permanently living in it. And I speak from experience when I say this is awful. It becomes a way of life, influencing everything you feel and do. And keeps you from living the fulfilling life you deserve. It’s a self-perpetuating cycle of misery. Although having said that, I also speak from experience when I say that fear has sometimes been so incredibly miserable that it’s driven me to find another way.

Sometimes you just have to feel scared and take action anyway.  It’ll either work or it won’t.  That’s how you grow.

2. Live the future you create

You are a force to be reckoned with, and you don’t deserve to allow your setbacks, regrets, or mistakes to punish you forever.

Give yourself a break and remember that one of the challenges of pursuing the life that you want isn’t that there is simply no competition.

Your life will never get better because somebody else failed. Nor will it get worse because somebody else succeeded.

It’s critical for your long-term happiness to see contentment and success only in personal terms and not relate it to how others are doing. The best competition for growth, success, and happiness is competing with who we were yesterday and the day before.

The choices you make today will guide you toward your future. Don’t fear judgment from others.  There’s no need to justify yourself…you will be living with the future you create.  It’s up to them to create their own.

3. Switch your manufacturing unit

Everyone has a fantastic manufacturing unit, chugging along merrily…well, not always merrily…sometimes it’s chugging along miserably.  We use this manufacturing unit to create suffering in our life.

It’s called a mind!  

And the biggest problem is that when it has no direction from you, it changes directions every moment.

Imagine if you walked somewhere and kept changing your direction every couple of steps, the chances of you getting to where you wanted to go would be…well, remote…unless it happened accidentally.  And living life accidentally with all that entails makes no sense when you can live it on purpose.

4. Keep these points in mind

You want to eradicate the behavior that kills your spirit, don’t you?

So:

1. Be conscious of what you’re thinking. Your future is being created with the thoughts you’re thinking right now.

2. Change your reactions to any current experiences that aren’t going your way.  If you’re struggling with money, or career, or within a relationship; if you’re sick or looking for a job or a lasting love, don’t waste your time fighting against anything or feeling sorry for yourself.

Instead:

3. Set up a daily ‘inner creating’ time, free from life’s usual demands and distractions.  This is where you begin to switch your manufacturing unit away from misery and towards gladness.  This is the place where you fan the inner sparks of possibility into the full-blown fires of success.

4. Wait for it to happen.  You might doubt that anything is changing. You may feel discouraged, and you can be sure your old mindset will try to fool you by insisting nothing will happen.

Don’t listen.

Reality is a process, a continuous happening, always changing. And your newly created thoughts and ideas, if persisted in, will become your new reality.

Your life will change naturally, and you will change naturally, so relax and enjoy your creating time.

5. Beautify your inner world, and you’ll stop killing your spirit

Do your best to beautify the words you speak to yourself, and fill your inner world with light, love, and joyfulness. And as you elevate your inner game, you are creating a firm connection of heart, mind, and spirit in your world.

And don’t allow anyone or anything to rob you of your inner joy.  Be your own best friend, be true to yourself and your desires.

You’ll discover life will respond in kind.  It’s what it does!

The creation of something new in your world can’t be accomplished by the intellect alone but by the peace and expectations you carry within.  A peaceful life stems from a peaceful heart. Practice compassion towards yourself and others, and you will soon see that glimmer of a new world ahead of you.

You’ve got this!

Encourage one another.

Love Elle

xox