5 Ways to Eradicate Behavior That’s Killing Your Spirit

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In this world of ups and downs and highs and lows, how often have you stopped feeling good about yourself?  Do you ever think everyone is doing better than you?

And some mornings you might even find yourself wondering why you should bother getting up!  Sigh!

You know doing something will make you feel better, but you just don’t know what that is.  And before too long you find yourself in a downward spiral; you don’t know how to get back on track and it’s killing your spirit.

It doesn’t matter if it’s your business success, financial success, or relationship success, once that spiral of negativity and despondency begins so does the negative, critical voice in your head that just won’t shut up.  

It makes it nigh impossible to step  into the mindset that keeps you UP when life is bringing you DOWN.

And  worse, any self-esteem you had begins to swirl its way down the drain of despair.

So what should you do?  You can’t simply sit there pondering the unfairness of life while your doubts and fears continue to wreak havoc.  Instead, let’s eradicate the behavior that’s responsible for killing your spirit.

1. The biggest hurdle

You want to live in such a way that you get whatever it is you truly need. Right?

Yet, a huge part of your life is spent imagining the worst that can happen and the consequences that lead to more misery and less success in the areas that are important to you.

It’s time you stepped back from your fears and worries, and realize that one of the biggest hurdles to overcome is not what you fear but the very fact that you are afraid. 

Being afraid leads you to take actions that you would never take were you occupying a mindset of confidence and the expectancy of something great happening.

Sometimes you just have to feel scared and take action anyway.  It’ll either work or it won’t.  That’s how you grow.

2. Forget justification

You are a force to be reckoned with and you don’t deserve to allow your setbacks, regrets or mistakes to punish you forever.

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Give yourself a break and remember that one of the challenges of pursuing the life that you want is that there is simply no competition.

Your life will never get better because somebody else failed. Nor will it get worse because somebody else succeeded.

It’s critical for your long term happiness that you see contentment and success only in personal terms. 

The choices you make today will guide you towards your future. Don’t fear judgement from others.  There’s no need to justify yourself…you will be living with the future you create.  It’s up to them to create their own.

3. Switch your manufacturing unit

Everyone has a fantastic manufacturing unit, chugging along merrily…well not always merrily…sometimes it’s chugging along miserably.  It’s this manufacturing unit that we use to create suffering in our life.

It’s called a mind!  

And the biggest problem is that when it has no direction from you, it changes directions every moment.

Imagine if you walked somewhere and kept changing your direction every couple of steps, the chances of you getting to where you wanted to go would be…well remote…unless it happened accidentally.  And living life accidentally with all that entails makes no sense when you can live it on purpose.

4. Keep these points in mind

You want to eradicate the behavior that kills your spirit, don’t you?

So:

1. Be conscious of what you’re thinking. Your future is being created with the thoughts you’re thinking right now.

2. Change your reactions to any current experiences that aren’t going your way.  If you’re struggling with money, or career or within a relationship; if you’re sick or looking for a job or a lasting love, don’t waste your time fighting against anything, or feeling sorry for yourself.

Instead:

3. Set up a daily ‘inner creating’ time, free from the usual demands and distractions of life.  This is where you begin to switch your manufacturing unit away from misery and towards gladness.  This is the place where you fan the inner sparks of possibility into the full blown fires of success.

4. Wait for it to happen.  You might doubt that anything is changing. You may feel discouraged and you can be sure your old mindset will try to fool you by insisting nothing will happen.

Don’t listen.

Reality is a process, a continuous happening, always changing. And your newly created thoughts and ideas, if persisted in, will become your new reality.

Your life will change naturally, you will change naturally, so relax and enjoy your creating time.

5. Beautify your inner world and you’ll stop killing your spirit

Do your best to beautify the words you speak to yourself, and fill your inner world with light, love and joyfulness. And as you elevate your inner game you are creating a firm connection of heart, mind and spirit in your world.

And don’t allow anyone or anything to rob you of your inner joy.  Be your own best friend, be true to yourself and your desires.

You’ll discover life will respond in kind.  It’s what it does!

The creation of something new in your world can’t be accomplished by the intellect alone, but by the peace and expectations you carry within.  A peaceful life stems from a peaceful heart. Practice compassion towards yourself and others, and you will soon see that glimmer of a new world ahead of you.

You’ve got this!

Encourage one another.

Love Elle

xox

ElleSommer
Elle Sommer is the author and founder of Live Purposefully Now, a website focused on sharing the insights and ancient wisdom that have collectively changed her life, in the desire to make a meaningful impact on yours. Trained at Coach U and having completed a year long training with Bob Proctor, her mission is to encourage and inspire others to build the business, relationships and life they want. Get your free instant access to Success Simplified ebook and get the tips, techniques and secrets of successfully living the life you want.

15 Comments

    • I knew you’d really ‘get it’ Sandra…it always comes down to the mind. It seems to me that once we are able to manage our mind properly, our whole world becomes beautiful. 🙂

  • Like Sandra, I enjoyed the tip on beautifying our inner world. If we kill our spirit on the inside, it will be challenging to see the beauty outside. It all boils down to self-love.

    • Hi Evelyn…thank you. You make a good point, the way we see ourselves and feel about ourselves makes a whole lot of difference to the way we experience the world. 🙂

  • I love the analogy of changing the direction your walking in every couple of minutes for the way we let an unguided mind lead us astray. That point is so important. When you control your mind, you control your life.

    • Hi Debbie…as we know it’s simple to say and not always easy to do…the controlling of the mind that is. But having techniques in place to do that really helps me a lot. Hopefully you too. 🙂

  • Hi Elle,

    It’s nice to see you again. And Thanks for writing this article. I read it coming from place of pain, (which can make it hard to take in information). That’s why I especially like point number 4, where you broke it down and simplified it even more. And then followed it with beautiful point number 5. This article will be very useful to me. Much Love to you.

  • You really pulled me up short with your wonderful words ” living life accidentally” instead of “living on purpose”. What a great and easily identifiable way to look at how our thoughts are affecting our spirit – it’s a little too easy to lose our way and trundle along blandly and then gently slide into feeling jaded or lost – they’re not our spirits’ happy place, for sure. Thank you for these great reminders.

  • Just found your website and I absolutely love it. I really needed to read this one, funny how people come into your life when you need them the most. Thank you!

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