Who hasn’t wanted something to be different right now?
There were times I fell into the state of wishing and hoping that something in my life would be different than it currently was. Being brutally honest, I can still fall into that trap today…it just doesn’t happen as often and it doesn’t last as long. But I need to keep kicking that someday syndrome right out of my life.
Today I’m aware that being in the state of mind of ‘wanting’ something isn’t helpful and will always keep it ‘out there’. The place, the only place to dwell in, is the place where we can, through our imagination, see ourselves as having, or being the very thing we currently desire to have or to be.
I had a friend who wasn’t doing too well financially, his favourite phrase was ‘there’s plenty of money out there’. And that’s just where it stayed for him.
Same thing for you, whatever it is you wish and want to be different in your life right now , isn’t exactly a point of power or a place where you might attract your heart’s desire. Time to kick the someday syndrome in all it’s forms.
Grow yourself now, not someday
One major change I needed to make was to be comfortable in the ‘gap’.
The London ‘tube’ (underground to some) has an automated someone who speaks to you frequently as you get on and off trains.
‘Mind the gap’, basically means, watch your step, there might be quite a gap between where you are and where you’re about to be.
And for those nosey parkers, who want to know what I’m talking about. Here you go.
Pretty boring? I know. But I didn’t promise interesting. Just a curiosity satisfier.
Deepak Chopra says the ‘gap’ is the space between thoughts. For me, it always seemed to be the space between where I was and my then unfulfilled desire.
My middle name should have been impatient, I always wanted to be at the finish line…right now. It all took too long. I needed to up my game and get it done quicker.
Why? Good question. Doesn’t make much sense really since there’s always going to be a ‘gap’ whilst I’m alive and kicking.
It was ever thus, as we close one gap, another will always open up. It’s called expansion and growth.
So I chose to focus less on the ‘gap’ and more on being the person who could love, enjoy and then move through my ‘gaps’ with ease and grace. Still need just a little work on this one.
Recognize your power
Stop fighting against the evidence of your senses. The ones that get in your face, letting you know you’re not where you want to be, and worse you’re not even close.
Pushing against anything is a sure fire way to experience more of the same, we all know that. Right? But it’s still a challenge.
We might not be able to deny the evidence of the world around us that shows we’re poor, or unloved, or less than, but we can choose to ignore it and focus our attention on the power within.
Our limited intellectual thinking holds us apart from the infinite energy bursting with possibilities that’s available to us. Here we are, with an inner power that enables us to ride high above any obstacle, generate whatever income we desire, solve our current problems and improve every aspect of life in ways currently unimaginable to us and we walk around oblivious and dare I say, somewhat disconnected.
Yikes.
Time to feel the truth of who you are. Feel the higher power that you’re connected to in a very real, deep and profound way. This inner you is able to access information and knowledge far beyond your conscious limited perception.
We have an incredible support system we can connect with to share our burdens, a system that’s far removed from the someday syndrome.
Forget perfect
Used to be that I found myself saying, well someday I’ll_________fill in any desire you might have, I probably had that one too. Always followed by …maybe after I’ve got/done/become________fill in the excuse/reason/justification.
How is this going to work out for us? Not well. Each desire needs our attention, our love, our commitment. The someday syndrome is living in the mental space where we’re conditioning the ability of God, the Universe to create…anything…at any time.
Each desire is spirit seeking greater expression and expansion. Treat it as a sacred trust and know that when the seed is planted and nourished and nurtured it will bloom in it’s perfect time. Being impatient won’t help, and will only cause what we want to stay far, far away. The laws of life don’t pick and choose, they simply follow our orders. Someday means exactly that. Not this day.
Take care of today
The only moment we have is this one, right here and now. Our destiny is in our hands today, not tomorrow, not someday. As we take care of today…tomorrow and the next day and the next are taken care of too. Taking care of today means taking care of you. Take the time to have some fun each day; to have a quiet moment of peace each day; to do something that lifts your soul each day. Savour each precious moment.
We have become such slaves of time, that after we have claimed the new state of being that we want to occupy and it doesn’t appear immediately like magic, we drop it and return to our old state of mind.
Have daring thoughts
We tend to forget that everything in our life stems from the thoughts we habitually think. It’s our thoughts that lead to our feelings, that create the actions we take, that guide us to our future. Every single solitary thing in our world began as a thought. The more daring our thoughts, the more we’ll forget about waiting for someday. It’s a fool’s game.
Dare to think you can be a huge success at whatever you put your mind to. Dare to think you are the magnificent being that I know you are. Dare to think you have the power to change your life and the world. Dare to think the biggest, grandest, greatest thought you can. Dare to believe it can be easy. Dare to love yourself more.
Henry Miller put it so well when he said: Imagination is the voice of daring. If there is anything Godlike about God it is that. He dared to imagine everything.
I love that.
Now take a look at your life – what one thing has been a ‘someday syndrome’ for you. Are you ready to kick it? We all know that insight without action is worth absolutely nothing. I’ve told you what I’ve been doing and what I needed to do, so c’mon on, let’s hear from you. Are you ready to have a daring thought? Do tell.
Remember, your experience could be so helpful to someone in our community. We need you.
Encourage one another.
Elle,
I loved this post. Sometimes we put so much pressure on ourselves (myself included) because we have a picture of what we will “be” or “accomplish” someday. It’s a tough position to be in, for sure. On one hand, we need to continue to apply pressure in order to continue to grow. We need to press on. However, at the same time, we need to also (borrowing a concept from Jodi Chapman) ebb and flow. We can’t press all the time. We have to move into acceptance as well. Acceptance of our limitations; acceptance of where we are today and what we have accomplished. It’s kind of like pushing into some sort of medium, and then resting to allow it to mold around us, and then we start pushing again. Lots of great insights here. Thank you! 🙂
Your perspectives are simply wonderful Victor. And you’re right it’s all about give and take or ebb and flow and remembering how far we’ve come and being grateful for that. 🙂
Procrastination is the killer of dreams. You are right in saying that we need to stop putting things off. We need to go to work now and achieve things and realize that maybe everything won’t turn out as we expected or when we want, but the key is getting out there and going to work : D.
So true Sebastian…the key is to begin and to believe. 🙂
Since signing up for your blog, I cannot tell you how many times I have read a post and had it be so relevant to a particular time in my life. As I go through a growth period I find this post a great reminder.
Hi Miriam, nice to have you here and like you, I’m always astonished at wherever I am in the process of growth, I read or hear or find something totally relevant. Even tho’ I know it can’t be other than this because we always see what’s in our consciousness…it still turns out to be a nice and welcome surprise. Thanks for stopping by, it’s always good to hear that I’m writing something that’s relevant. And feel free to let me now if there’s any topic you’d like to see covered. I’m open. 🙂
Hi Elle,
Someday thinking holds us back from our goals and dreams. Time just continues to move along and we stay where we are. I find with myself as well, I probably need to the that bucket list and make sure everything that I want to do in my life happens. I love my work and find that it is my passion, yet it is important to keep our life balanced. I want to lean in to my work, but make plenty of time for fun. Thank you!
So true Cathy, time moves on with or without us. We can stay stuck or move right along with it, tweaking that bucket list as we go. I like what you say about balance…I need to pay a bit more attention my own self. 🙂
Someday never seems to come, because it doesn’t exist. Only the NOW exists and only it is subject to our control. You did a great job explaining “mind the gap”. Always wondered about that!
Thanks for your input Dore’ and always happy to explain those idiosyncrasies from across the pond. 🙂
Elle – This is a vintage ‘Elle’ post…rich, personal, and offering suggestions that can expand our repertoires and help transform our lives.
I like to think of the ‘in between’ space as the time when creativity is gestating – like a chrysalis before becoming a butterfly. When we’re in that state, it is easy to forget that it is important that we be there and not to be impatient or filled with self doubt.
I think the most difficult thing is to take ownership of our dreams and that what we imagine is reality. It sounds like magic to so many individuals who have lived in the concrete, logical world. But once you get a taste of the power of focusing and dreaming, it can change your life. xxoo-Fran
Awww, thank you Fran. What a lovely thought, the chrysalis state…and important piece in the mystery of creation. *Love* your perspective on this Fran and I know it’ll add another dimension to the topic of creating the life we desire. 🙂
Yes! Exactly this! The dreaded, despicable someday syndrome. My friends are always saying “I wish I could do ____” or “Man, I’ll ____ one day.” The goals they’re talking about aren’t even out of reach or anything nor are they something that require a huge buildup. No! Just get out there and do it today because you’ll be much happier when you do. Plus, it’s hard to keep the motivation up for a thought that’s been sitting in the back of your mind for an eternity!
Welcome Vince…I *love* your turn of phrase, dreaded, despicable someday. And so appreciate your perspective…thanks for sharing. 🙂
I agree with a previous comment – it seems as if each of your posts each day are directed toward how I was feeling that particular day. I have something I’ve been wanting to do and have definitely been putting it off. I think I have found the motivation to make it happen! Thank you, Elle!
More evidence that we’re all on the same wavelength, we all experience the same ‘stuff’ running through our days and as we grow in consciousness, we just get different ‘stuff’ that shows up. Don’t you just love the way life reflects who we are and where we are within Cher? I know I do. 🙂
Someday is a pretty great place, today is the place to begin. Beautiful piece Elle, you always get me thinking.
Hi Linda…glad you enjoyed the post and always appreciate you stopping by. 🙂
Oh, this post was written for me! I love this! I have been so guilty of the someday syndrome, guilty of putting off things for someday, usually, out of fear out of the work, the courage, that it would take to do those brave things. In committing to courage this year, I’ve already found that I’ve gotten so much better at this. It’s been amazing.
Hi Jessica, when we think about it we can see pretty clearly where the someday syndrome is in charge in our lives. Always happy to be a reminder and now that you’re in your year of courage, I bet you’ll be astonished at how far you’ve come at the end of the year. 😀