Oh would some power the gift to give us, to see ourselves as others see us. ~ Robert Burns
Yes I translated it from the actual Scottish which talks about gifties and gies because even I, a Scottish lassie, have to think about it and I didn’t want to impose the mysteries of the Scots language on you!
I’m nice like that.
How do I know if I have negative beliefs, when I’m not aware of them? I was asked this recently and thought it such a great question that I needed to write about it.
Whilst pondering the question the words of Robert Burns…that old Scottish poet got stuck in my head.
Rabbie Burns, as he’s known in the land of his birth, is a great reminder of how your world is exactly the way it is because it mirrors precisely the beliefs you hold. And it’s pretty easy to forget the connection between your belief and your reality.
This is because nothing happens in an instant…there’s the lag between seed time and harvest and it’s so easy to forget what was planted, until it blooms and then we get to say…what me? I chose that. Are you sure? Yep, the Universe, Consciousness, call it what you will doesn’t deliver to us anything we’re not asking for.
Begin to take a look at what’s happening in your life. You might not be able to pick up on the beliefs you have…but you can absolutely see the experiences you’re having. And if you don’t like them, it’s up to you to change them.
Believing yourself to be successful, you will be, because your success is supported on the inside by your belief. The day you stop believing, success just fades away. It’s the same for experiencing love and joy or health. To the degree we believe we have them ~ we do.
Nice and easy does it
Everything hinges on the fact that our life expresses only one thing. Our state of consciousness. And just as patience is needed to see the flowering of our seeds in soil, so we patiently await the blossoming of our life.
Well, some of us less patiently.
So I worked out…genius that I am…that everything appears in it’s perfect time. We’re not masters of the universe able to snap our fingers and change things in the blink of an eye.
Well, okay, I’m not. If you are, call me…seriously I need to talk to you. Right now.
Taking a close look at the beliefs we hold can be daunting, because every belief we have will always be validated by what we see in our world, so for us, it’s not just a belief, it’s a truth. Trouble is our belief system is a sort of self perpetuating cycle because our subconscious is busily reflecting all our beliefs back to us in the shape of experiences, and people and events.
That’s it’s job…to confirm our beliefs to us. And boy does it do it well, for good or ill.
Those unruly little negative beliefs will hang on like limpets if you let them, so this means that if we really do want to change our life and keep moving towards leading a life we love in every way, we need a new approach. We need to show them the door. Preferably by doing something simple.
Some of us like simple and easy. Oh yes, that would be me.
Time to stop thinking about whether our beliefs are real or not. Does it really matter? If they limit you, or hold you back then let’s get to it and change those suckers. Aaah the Americanization of Elle, who knew I’d actually have phrases like that at my fingertips? What can I say…I’m just a quick study.
Check it out
Choose a topic, money, success, career, relationships, health, spiritual growth…whatever you fancy and list ten beliefs you have about it.
Don’t think about whether they’re positive or negative or whether your friends or partners have the same beliefs. Name top ten beliefs you have about….whatever topic you choose. This is you we’re talking about. You don’t have to share it with anyone, but you need to be completely honest with yourself.
Once you have your list, take each one and view it from a new perspective.
Does it feel good, positive, productive?
Will this belief attract situations and people that bring joy and happiness or will it keep at arm’s length all the desires of my heart?
And remember, just because you believe something, which appears as real for you in your outer world, it doesn’t mean that it is true. And if it isn’t really true, that makes it easier to choose a different and more supportive belief.
Is my life real
Does everyone believe as I do?
Does everyone see the world in the same way as me?
What about the people who don’t believe as I do…how/what is their experience of life?
This doesn’t make other people right or wrong, it just allows you to see your beliefs from a new perspective. And you get to see that none of our beliefs is absolute…phew. That’s good news. That means it’s easier to jettison the ones that don’t feel good, that are pushing away the great things. Not that I’d know anything about that of course. 🙂
And yes, this takes courage and a bold heart and a willingness to ignore what your senses are currently telling you. But remember, your experiences can only be reflections of your beliefs. And the way to change the events of life is to have a new belief or two. Hey, we can start small.
Starting small doesn’t mean it’s something we do every now and then, we’re called upon to practice daily, because repetition is key. And yes, it is a challenge, and you have to ask yourself if you’re up for it. But as soon as you begin to manifest new experiences, the natural joy and delight you’ll feel makes the waiting and the practicing and the faith so worthwhile.
The life you love awaits you…and only you can bring it into being. No-one can do it for you. I say let’s go for it.
What say you?
Let us know in the comments below what you’ve discovered about your beliefs. Are they holding you back or moving you closer to your heart’s desire?
As always thanks for stopping by and we always appreciate your sharing. 🙂
Encourage one another.