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There’s nothing quite like a little bit of encouragement. Your world might be falling apart in ways none of us can know, you might be struggling for a goal that’s just a fingertip away and all that’s needed are those gentle words of encouragement to fan the flame of courage within. It doesn’t take much to lift spirits and support another to fulfill a dream.
I love encouragers…I love being one, I love listening to them, I love hearing from them and this is why I have an encourager of the month to help us all to fly higher than ever before. This month it’s my dear friend, internet genius and designer extraordinaire Vanita Cyril.
Here’s Vanita’s gift from her heart to yours:
I’ve had that feeling of being “secure” in many things in my short life – relationships, finances, routines – and I’m always so surprised when I’m hit with the reality that nothing is certain.
One minute you swear you have it all figured out and the next minute you’re wondering how you’ll feed your family or if your spouse is ever coming back.
A left turn at an intersection, a tone misunderstood, a decision made half way across the nation, can lead to cracks in your beautiful world that you’ve worked so hard to create for you.
Nothing can last forever. And you know what?
That’s okay.[success]Sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together~ Marilyn Monroe[/success]
I’ve learned something better is coming. From experience and the help of loved ones, I’ve learned to have faith that my world will be better.
I know it’s hard to remember to have faith, when everything is falling apart and feels out of your control.
But I’ve survived and gone on to see my world crumble and rebuild many times, and so can you. So. Will. You.
Life is a journey and I hope my steps to surviving can help you in what feels like the darkest of moments.
14 Steps to surviving when your world falls apart
1. Feel the misery.
Yes, I want you to cry, shout, growl, throw a tantrum – whatever needs doing to get the first wave of pain out.
Deep breaths can help settle the mind, calm the soul.
3. Confide in a friend.
Don’t try to go it alone. A supportive friend will do wonders for you. They’ll listen to your woes, empathize and then empower you to get moving.
4. Slow down.
Reschedule appointments, unplug from the net, let the voicemail get it. Anything that can wait for tomorrow, should. Care for you first.
5. Say no.
If it’s non-essential to your well being, you do not have to do it. Don’t allow family, community or businesses ties make you feel pressured. You can say no.
6. Sleep in.
If this is what your body tells you to do, do it. Your body only asks for what it needs. Everything else can wait.
7. Ladies, give yourself a manicure, Guys, get with the shaving.
A little bit of personal care goes a long way in making you feel fresh and ready to face a new day.
8. Get Grateful.
Even when life gets tough, I remind myself that once upon a time, it was worse and I think of those who are not as fortunate as me. Take stock in the beautiful things you have going for you. Loved ones, food, a roof, all of your toes…
9. Make a plan.
When your world crumbles, you can be left not knowing what to do next. Now that you’ve cared for you, and you’re ready to face a new day, armed with knowing you have lots to be grateful for, a plan is in order. A plan to get what you need to put your world back together, starting from where you are now (don’t dwell on where you were).
10. Call friends to help with the plan.
These friends don’t need to know the down and dirty. What they need to know is that you need help. A sitter while you go on job interviews, a bar night to take your mind off the cheating fiancé, lookouts for a new apartment, etc. This is what you task these friends with. Don’t be shy. Remember, no one’s life is perfect and you may be called on to be a friend for someone who’s hurting later on.
11. Create your own mantra.
Belief and faith are powerful things. Creating a mantra that reminds you that yes, you will get what you’re seeking – a new job, a new home or true love – will give you the motivation you need to keep going.
12. Take the first step.
You’ve got your plan, you’ve got your allies, you know you can do this, time to get moving.
13. Take another step and another and another.
Keep going, your old world wasn’t built in a day, this new world won’t be built in a day, but every step is a building block.
14. And always remember, this too shall past.
In the comments below, we’d love to hear from you.
What’s helped you get through those dark nights of the soul?
Got any tips or techniques to add to Vanita’s?
As always, thank you so much for reading and sharing!
Feel encouraged? Great, now let’s encourage one another.