stop feeling guilty and do what's best for you

It’s easy to sabotage yourself when taking steps or making decisions about what’s best for you, for your life and your growth.

Most of the time we tend to feel guilty about making a move, pursuing our dreams, or making decisions about our relationship, due to others point of view or the fear of an uncertain future.

The master key that unlocks life’s possibilities is being able to make any decision you want, at any moment, without yielding to criticism from others or fear from the inside.

The steps below explain clearly how to do that.

It’s up to you to decide what’s best for you

On your life journey, you’re the one in the driver’s seat; you’re the one who makes the decision on what direction to drive every day of your life.

No matter your position, circumstances, or opportunities in life, you always have the freedom of mind to choose how you experience, interpret, and, ultimately, shape your world. Brendon Burchard.

You might see people waving their hands on the road, asking you for a lift through your life journey, but you’re the one who makes the decision if you are going to help them or not.

Whenever there’s an occasion that might lead to an accident and you’re only left with two options to make, you’re the one who gets to make the decision whether to dodge to the left or to the right.

The people inside the car might pull at you, some might give a shout, saying that turning to the left side is the correct way, but ultimately, you’re the one who makes the decision and you will be the one to take responsibility for whatever happens to you.

Lil Wayne wrote: “you can play a role in my life, but not the lead.”

If you understand this, you will grow. If you don’t, you will end up becoming what people want you to become instead of becoming what you want to become! And that’s a path to misery.

So start right now, make a pledge to yourself to take responsibility for whatever has happened to you in the past and resolve that from now on for any decision or situation, you’ll always remember and accept that you’re the one in charge and you’ll also be the one to take responsibility if anything goes wrong.

Face your fears

There are two things that change your life: either something new comes into your life, or something new comes out of you. Brendon Burchard

There’s nothing so thrilling than being able to look your fears in the face and still take important action. Most of the time, we want to do something that’ll make us stand out and at the same time, we feel the fear of not being good enough to do it.

Can I be blunt with you for a moment? You’re never going to be able to achieve greater things until you look your fear in the face and say, ‘I’ll do it anyway even if I fail’.

Over the years of studying successful people, I’ve learned that they had to overcome many fears in order to get to where they are today. For example, the fear of not being good enough, the fear of not having a degree, the fear of quitting their job and pursuing their dreams and the fear of failure.

The fact that they were able to become successful despite all these traits means you can also do so. You just have to become aware of the fear you feel and take important actions anyway, regardless of whatever fear you feel.

“I only see my goals, I don’t believe in failure and I’m not going to listen to this small voice that sometimes tries to pull me down.” – Cephas Tope

The pursuit

If a man hasn’t discovered something that he will die for, he isn’t fit to live…said Martin Luther King.

And I want to say to you, that you’re not free until you’re able to overcome your inner critic and moving towards your supreme mission in life.

And your mission is that deep yearning inside that insists you grow, insists you be all you were destined to be, insists in your greatness.  This is what’s best for you, this is what success looks like for you.

Success is not about what you get in life, not even what you accomplish in life, but who you become in life.

Success always starts with dreams that seem impossible but when you’re able to pursue your dreams regardless of what people think or feel you’ll discover that happiness often turns out to come from the pursuit of your dreams, not in accomplishing them. 

This is how you become all you were destined to be.  And this usually turns out to be what’s best for you.

Now it’s time to remember other peoples’ thoughts and dreams don’t get to replace your own. And they definitely don’t need to get added to your to-do-list.

Welcome to the world of freedom.


Cephas Tope is the author of The Road Map to Your Extraordinary Life. He writes at, where he shares self improvement and business tips. you can join his free newsletter to learn how to make unshakeable progress and how to create extraordinary super life.

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