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Have you ever felt that your fears seem to be controlling your life?
Maybe it’s time to remember what Roy T. Bennett had to say on the topic.
“Don’t be pushed around by the fears in your mind. Be led by the dreams in your heart.”
Sounds great doesn’t it? But he doesn’t tell us how we can do this.
And sometimes it’s hard not feel stressed when we’re emotionally incapable of rising to the oftentimes chaos and challenges life brings us.
Even the thought of failing over some small task we’re trying to accomplish can make us lose clarity over the goals and dreams we desire and stop us from ever experiencing our true potential.
Have you experienced this?
Then you’ll know that what usually happens next, if we don’t find ways to manage our fear, we find ourselves becoming emotionally drained and overwhelmed.
Ending up with procrastination, a pressure-filled life, and defeats.
So what’s the solution to stop allowing our fears, especially the fear of failure to end up with us feeling emotionally drained?
And more to the point, how can you refill your emotional tank and bring joy and happiness into every moment of your life?
Well, let’s get into that.
Take a pause
“Sometimes you just need to distance yourself to see things more clearly.”
One of the greatest things you can do during chaos and uncertainty is to take a pause and do something different from what you’re trying to accomplish. It could be meditation, a walk in the park or get some rest.
Doing this will give you an edge over the situation at hand, and give your mind the ability to reflect, and rebuild, so you can come up with the answers you’ve been searching for.
Most people don’t take rest, they’re always moving from one task to another, living a rushed, aggressive life. As a scribe once said, the aggressive person is rarely in control.
When you slow down, take a pause and reflect on why things are not working out the way you want them to, you’ll quickly discover solutions to make things better.
Great people know how to take it slow and still don’t waste time. Slow and steady always win.
Don’t compare yourself with anyone
“Accept yourself, love yourself, and keep moving forward. If you want to fly, you have to give up what weighs you down.” ― Roy T. Bennett
The thoughts that others are doing better than we are can sometimes weigh us down — making it hard to appreciate and reward ourselves when it’s needed.
Please, oh please, don’t do this!
All fingers are not equal, and most people experience life differently from your perspective.
Some are born rich; some are not. Some are born with natural and different talents from us while we may have to learn and develop those particular skills.
Learn how to stop comparing your struggle with anyone out there, and start rewarding yourself with the awareness of the good things in life, no matter what’s happening or what you are going through.
Look at the sky, every star shine whenever it wants to and only when it’s dark enough can you see some stars shining.
Focus on your priorities
The wrong thing at the right time is still the wrong thing. Pressure and stress tend to develop when we focus our might on things that add no value to whatever we’re trying to accomplish.
What are the three significant steps to accomplishing your goals in life right now?
Those are the area you need to invest 80% of your time and money. You can prioritize the less essential task to someone that can do it better.
Learn how to put the first thing first, wake up every morning solving one single challenge that can move you forward toward achieving your goals.
Self care is the key
“When admiring other people’s gardens, don’t forget to tend to your flowers.” ― Sanober Khani
It all boils down to this; the exact time most people need to take a break and care for themselves is the same time they spend reminding themselves of how they’re falling behind.
We always think we can accomplish so much when we do too much work. The truth is, doing too much only lead to overwhelm and feeling emotionally drained.
Spend more time caring for yourself.
Stop waiting for when you’ll be good enough, can I be frank with you for a moment?
You’re already good; you can only get better.
Stop letting any threat to your sense of progress feel like a threat to your hope and self-esteem.
Wherever you are now, be there entirely, Immerse yourself in the present moment and care for yourself when you need to. One act of care toward oneself can make a whole lot of difference.
Whatever you’re going through, focus on the big picture, seek understanding and self-compassion to help alleviate your discomfort.
Life is short, so take good care of yourself and you’ll discover you’re so much less likely to reach the stage of feeling emotionally drained.