Do you believe if you work hard you’ll be successful and once you’re successful you can relax and be happy?
It’s a life blueprint practiced by those who’ve come before us and probably those who come after. The big problem is that it’s not a winning formula.
Be honest. How often have we heard, or thought, once I get more money, once I have the right relationship, after I pass the next exam, or lose that last ten pounds THEN I’ll be happy?
Sometimes we get so caught up in what we’re waiting for that we miss the magic of life.
It’s not easy to stay positive when life is tough and if you’re struggling with life today, remember this, you weren’t created to live too long in negativity and despondency. You are built to win no matter how tough it might seem.
You’ve been blessed with the immeasurable power of change. You have the capability to change your perceptions, your thoughts, the way you feel, the things you do.
Be patient with yourself and the way life is right now. Beautiful, amazing people don’t just happen, they’ve found their way out of the depths of loss and struggle and defeat and honed their compassion and kindness for themselves and others. And yes, you ARE beautiful and amazing.
1. Practice non attachment
Everyone won’t be the way you think they should be. They won’t do what you think needs to be done. They won’t say what you’d like to hear. Let it go.
Keep some room in your heart for miracles, but always be willing to not be attached to how you think things should be.
If your happiness depends on your expectations of someone or something then you’re in trouble. Remind yourself – if this, or that, doesn’t happen it won’t be the end of the world as you know it.
Stop taking things so personally, and you’ll discover fears and emotions that used to paralyse you, no longer have any power.
2. Don’t wait to be happy
Later this week I’m flying to London to visit my brother.
It’s far too early in his life for it to be over. Yet it almost is.
Most of us act as though time isn’t passing, as though we’ll be here forever. We won’t. And time passes whether we live fully or not. We should make it count.
And I’m sharing this because I’m reminded how precious life is. And I want to remind you not to waste the gift of living; be grateful for every moment you get to spend with those you love. Think of what a precious thing it is to get up every day and breathe in the sweetness of the morning.
It’s heart wrenchingly sad for me and truth be told I’d rather stay right here and pretend it isn’t happening. But knowing myself, I know I won’t find peace by avoiding what’s happening in my life.
And I know that for me, facing the choices between what’s right and what’s easy can be the hardest thing, but I don’t want to look back and say, I wish I’d done that. I’d much rather say I’m glad, I did that, it was a good choice.
Do everything you can to expand yourself, and your heart, then go and do something wonderful with your precious life. Don’t wait.
3. Take a front row seat
You naturally want to live a life that’s great for you. To do this, you need to know who you are.
You’re totally and absolutely unique, there’s no one in the Universe quite like you and it’s time to make peace with who you are if you want to experience contentment.
You and you alone make the decision as to how you view the experiences in your life and it’s important to know who you are, not to judge, not to focus on your flaws and imperfections, but to discover who you want to be and decide if you’re living by choice or chance.
When you see imperfections, rejoice in them, they’re your best tools to help you find your inner gold and discover your passions.
Don’t wait for the un-lived life to cry out for your attention, dig out your buried treasure of talents and resources now, don’t let them die without ever being used.
Act as though you matter, because you do. Make sure you’re living the life you want to live and not one that others want for you. Get out there and make your dreams come true today.
4. Be compassionate
It’s great to stand up for yourself and it’s good for you to stand up for others. We can’t fix the world, but we can make a difference when we’re willing to look out for others. Not just those we’re close to but those who need a kind word, or a helping hand.
As we help others achieve their dreams amazing things happen. We achieve our own. When life is tough don’t sit around moping, make the most of your days.
Every day you’re making an impact on the world around you, and it’s up to you to decide what that impact is.
Make your success more than what you accomplish in your life, also make it about what you inspire and encourage others to do with theirs. You’ll be glad that you did.
5. Spiritually speaking
Don’t diminish your blessings by comparing them to the blessings of others. Be content with where you are while still allowing your desire for new things to flourish. Love without fear. Forgive easily. Be kind. Accept your shortcomings. Be generous with hugs. Respect differences. Laugh often. Chase your dreams. Stop waiting to be happy. Take the rough with the smooth. Look after your health. Keep learning and growing and live each day to the fullest.
I bet you have some interesting things to add to these thoughts. Please do share your wisdom and insights in the comments below…it’s always great to hear from you.
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Encourage one another.