how to start over

[success] Dreams pass into the reality of action. From the actions stems the dream again; and this interdependence produces the highest form of living. ~ Anais Nin[/success]

Every single morning we get a chance to begin again.  It’s a new day, it’s a new start we can begin to change the course we’ve been on, we can start over, should we choose to.

Some mornings you choose to stay the same as yesterday and other mornings not so much.  Some mornings you know deep in your heart it’s time to start anew and to trust in the magic of your intuition, to trust in your new beginning.

What makes the difference?

Sleep: a powerful way to help you start over

Okay, so you might be saying, but I sleep every night.

True, but how do you fall asleep.  What are you falling asleep in?

If I asked my Darling One that, I know exactly what he’d say…I fall asleep in my bed.

He’s such a comedian, and keeps me smiling throughout my day, reminding me that life doesn’t have to be so flipping serious.

But in this instance, I’m talking more about the mood you fall asleep in, the feeling, the thoughts you hold in mind just before falling asleep.

We spend one-third of our life asleep and in the waking two thirds we’re acting out the concepts and ideas and feelings we habitually fall asleep in, because sleep is a gateway to our subconscious mind, a time when our conscious and subconscious minds merge together and become one.

And this is the place where magic occurs. This is where we get the most help to allow us to start over.

The subconscious mind is the receiver of all the impressions we’ve experienced during our day, during our life, and once received, these impressions automatically become a part of our waking life and guide our future actions.

Not necessarily good news, but that’s the job of our subconscious.  It can’t choose what to put into our world, it simply takes our orders and says okay.

It’s never going to say, hey wait a minute do you think this is a good idea?  Is this going to be something you’ll be happy with, or proud of?

Nope.  Not it’s job.  It’s got a pretty major job anyway, it’s our creative power and finds the ways and means to bring our desires to fruition.

And yes, if you’re a persistent negative Nellie, it takes that as a request.  If you’re a happy Hazel, same thing…that’s your request for more things to be happy about.

And if we fall asleep in thoughts of doubts and obstacles and frustrations, we’re giving pretty direct orders to that subconscious powerhouse to keep giving us more of the same.  Better to fall asleep with a feeling of contentment.

Sleep isn’t the only gateway to the subconscious of course, but since as we head into dreamland we’re going to be spending one third of our life there, it might be wise for us to pay conscious attention to what we want to take with us, as we enter this place of power.

[success] When the Soul wants to experience something she throws out an image in front of her and then steps into it. ~ Meister Eckhart[/success]

And this is what we need to get into the habit of, putting out images of all that we want to experience in our waking life.  We then step into it as we take these images and the feelings they generate into our our nightly slumber.

Had a pretty lousy day?  Do yourself a favour and don’t fall asleep in that state of mind.

Your subconscious will only take it as your request and set in motion all that’s necessary for you to have another one.

Rather, take the time to feel relaxed and calm…that’s a great thing to affirm…I am calm, I am relaxed…until you feel you are.

Then imagine how you’d feel if your wish, your desire were already here and take that feeling into the deep of sleep.

Here’s a little story from a Neville lecture that explains this really well:

For two years, a woman had kept herself estranged from the three people she loved most.

She had had a quarrel with her daughter-in-law, who ordered her from her home. For those two years, she had not seen or heard from her son, her daughter-in-law or her grandson, though she had sent her grandson numerous gifts in the meantime.

Every time she thought of her family, which was daily, she carried on a mental conversation with her daughter-in-law, blaming her for the quarrel and accusing her of being selfish.

Upon hearing a lecture of mine one night โ€“ it was this very lecture on the game of life and how to play it โ€“ she suddenly realized she was the cause of the prolonged silence and that she, and she alone, must do something about it.

Recognizing that her goal was to have the former loving relationship, she set herself the task of completely changing her inner talking.

That very night, in her imagination, she constructed two loving, tender letters written to her, one from her daughter-in-law and the other from her grandson. In her imagination, she read them over and over again until she fell asleep in the joyful mood of having received the letters.

She repeated this imaginary act each night for eight nights.

On the morning of the ninth day, she received one envelope containing two letters, one from her daughter-in-law, one from her grandson. They were loving, tender letters inviting her to visit them, almost replicas of those she had constructed mentally.

By using her imagination consciously and lovingly, she had turned the tracks to which she was tied, in the direction she wanted to go, towards a happy family reunion. 

So there we have it, we need to consciously and purposefully determine what we’ll be falling asleep in tonight so that we don’t fall asleep in the reactions of the day, filling our subconscious with ideas that we most definitely don’t want to see tomorrow.

Give up those thoughts of all that’s wrong or every disappointment or unhappy experience.  Time to start over, after all tomorrow is a new day.

As Thomas Paine said: “We have it in our power to begin the world over again.” 

I’d love to hear from you in the comments what you’ve been falling asleep in lately.  Your perspective will benefit us all.

Encourage one another.



Elle Sommer is the author of 4 books and a workbook. Her latest publications are a series called The Power of Consciousness, and you will find all three books in this trilogy now available on Kindle. She shares quotes, inspiration and positive vibes on Facebook, Instagram and Pinterest. And her greatest desire is to encourage and inspire others to create not just a good life, but a phenomenal life.


    • Elle

      Carolyn, you are so right. I wrote a post long ago about a lady of I believe she was in her eighties who got a degree! She made a different choice about who she was and then became it. Pretty cool. ๐Ÿ™‚

  1. I go along with Carolyn. This is really great. I have found that at times when I am sleeping and have a very bad dream. I go back to sleep and it is like the dream starts all over again. But if when i wake i make myself thing of a great memory I can go back to sleep and sleep like a baby.

    What you are saying here is so true. You are who you think you are even in your sleep.
    Thanks for sharing a great post Elle.

    • Elle

      I love the way you put that Debbie, you are who you think you are even in your sleep! So true. ๐Ÿ™‚

  2. I believe that everyday gives us a chance to start over and I’m so grateful for that.

    • Elle

      I’m grateful for each new day as well Lovelyn, every one a blessing. ๐Ÿ™‚

  3. Thankyou Elle for the reminder to start every day anew. I’ve been frustrated for several days as my internet has been down which limits my ability to work on my business.

    So today i’m focusing on getting into it again, I need to just let go of the last few days and do it.


    • Elle

      Ben you hit the nail on the head I think when you said you need to just let go of the last few days…letting go is a powerful tool…which surprise, surprise allows us to start over. Nice when the jigsaw fits together so well. Yes? ๐Ÿ™‚

  4. I like how we can manifest what we want, if we are sincere about it. I had two things that came true from my mind yesterday. One was the fall I had. Another was something very positive that I prayed for, and came true in the afternoon.

    Hugs. I love the lady’s story. It is as though she were projecting positive energy at her desired outcome.

    Love, Vidya

    • Elle

      Isn’t that great Vidya…good for you. I love what you say, projecting positive energy at her desired outcome. That’s a great visual for me.

  5. I think I was really meant to read this post this morning. I felt really low last night, and cried myself to sleep. I got up at 5am feeling exactly the same as when I went to sleep, but managed to go downstairs and do an hour of yoga which really helped me to calm my mind. I think the idea of letting go is very hard sometimes, but I know i’ll get there. Thank you so much for this sharing this post. Kelly xx

    • Elle

      So sorry you were feeling so bad Kelly and I’m so glad you were able to let go and move into a better feeling space. I’m a great believer in whatever tools we have at our disposal to get into a happier feeling, we should use them and it sounds as though yoga is a great tool for you. I hope you’re giving yourself a pat on the back for shifting your state of mind. Even a little does the trick. ๐Ÿ™‚

  6. Hi Elle
    how true yes each day we have the choice to start over and that is what I will so tomorrow after a good night’s sleep. last night I slept short and I then allowed tiredness to come into play . I am so grateful we have a gift of the new day. I will vision my tomorrow to be full of joy and productivity

    • Elle

      Funny you should say that Suzie, the night before last I was a little low on sleep too…and I know that no-one, but no-one does starting each day anew quite like you. You’re my hero. ๐Ÿ™‚

  7. Joseph Appaloosa

    What a fascinating concept that we can optimize our time of slumber by programming our pathway of thought as we fall asleep.
    I’ll try it this week ! Thank you.
    Write on, Elle !

  8. Elle

    Let us know how it works for you Joseph. Our subconscious is the great creator within, get it working for you and not against you and amazing results occur. ๐Ÿ™‚

  9. Dear Elle,

    I love what your site has become … and how it has evolved in the past year.

    It is such beautiful work … and reaches out to so many people.



    • Elle

      Thank you Allan, your kind words are so appreciated. ๐Ÿ™‚

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