How to  Pick Up the Pieces When You Feel Helpless And Lost

[success]Recreate your life, always, always.  Remove the stones, plant rose bushes and make sweets.  Begin again. ~ Cora Coraline[/success]

No point in fooling ourselves.

Life can be hard.

Despair. Problems with no easy answers. Heartbreaking loss.

We never know what’s coming.

Whatever the challenge, business, personal or spiritual, unless we’re super conscious beings, tough times happen for everyone.  

I can’t speak for the super conscious among us, because I personally don’t know any!

But I do know what it’s like to feel helpless in the face of disastrous problems, devastating illness, unexpected goodbyes or excruciating loss.

It’s not always easy to pick yourself up when you feel shattered and lost or when it feels like you’re sinking under decisions you just don’t feel up to making.

And no matter how strong we normally are, unexpected challenges, and tough times can leave most of us feeling insecure, helpless, paralyzed.

1. Always remember…

The times you’ve been scared and anxious before. The times you were so overwhelmed it was hard to get out of bed, yet you made it through.

The show will go on. Life doesn’t stop regardless of what’s happening to you.

I remember driving through the streets of London only hours after my husband had passed away wondering how and why the world still kept on turning.

Yet it did.

And life went on.

And eventually I picked myself up and started over.

And so can you.

Trust that you’ll survive this too.

Keep this in mind…you will make it.    If you can’t believe this right now.    Believe in my belief.

2. Admit you’re suffering

You don’t have to tell anyone you’re suffering when you’re filled with grief over the loss of a loved one. It’s clear to all.

What is less clear to others is when you’re suffering because you put your heart and soul into something and it went south. Or maybe you’ve been feeling sick or depressed, or perhaps the effort of dealing with a difficult issue is tearing you apart.

That’s the time we need one another.

We all need a hand to hold, especially in the dark. We need to know we’re not alone and human nature being what it is, there’s truth in the old adage a trouble shared is a trouble halved.

Funny thing is when you reach out, people tend to reach back. If things are getting you down, try it, you might be amazed at the level of support that comes your way.

3. Pushing through

Isn’t always the answer. You’ve been pushing yourself. Pushing to get over something, pushing to get through, pushing yourself to the point of physical, emotional and spiritual exhaustion.

You’ve been using up your life-force energy without renewal or re-invigoration.

Every thought, every feeling you had in dealing with your challenges has an energy and after- effect, and if you keep on pushing you’re only creating more stress, and making the struggle worse.

You really don’t need that.

Give yourself a chance. Step back. Give yourself time to refresh and renew your life-force energy. 

4. Rituals and recovery

During my most trying times, I created rituals to follow which gave me room to breathe. And I continue to use them today whenever problems arise, or I’m stuck and can’t seem to pull myself out of a state. 

I listened to healing words, read uplifting texts and took walks in nature. Mostly at the same time every day.

Creating habits that managed my low emotional and physical energy meant I created comfort for myself.

It was my recovery phase.

Whatever troubles or problems you currently have, keep the faith. Your most difficult moments can lead to your greatest hours.

This might be a difficult time. Be patient and compassionate with yourself.

The time will come when you’re ready to pick up the pieces, when you’re ready to say ‘ no matter how difficult this is’ I’m going to move on.

And you will.

5. Key to momentum

One day at a time. One moment at a time you can build yourself back up. Do what needs to be done today, don’t focus on tomorrow or next week.

Your future won’t arrive all at once, but steadily one day at a time. And for now, just getting through the day is all we can ask.

The truth is nothing lasts for ever, including pain.

Even your darkest moments only last for so long. So it’s important that you don’t use all your energy to hang on to the past. Feel it, without getting lost in thoughts of why this happened to you, and then reach for that little whisper of hope that says you will be okay.

6. Spiritually speaking

It’s hard to believe in something better. It’s hard to believe that things will get easier because we can’t help but view our world through our current lack, or loss, or limitation and naturally from that perspective, it seems impossible.

But you are more than physical, you are a spiritual being too.

The secret is to remove your attention from your present reality

How?

Simple. Every day take your attention from the outer world of reality, and using the power of your imagination, see yourself experiencing the ideal you desire.

Breathe deeply. Inhale fresh life giving energy.

For a few moments in time you and your ideal are one. For a few moments, in your sacred space, believe you have something that’s infinitely more powerful than any problem or heartbreak.

Dare to believe and you’ll become a magnet for miracles, for that new state of mind that, right now, only exists in your imagination.

You’ll be picking yourself up and starting over one step and a time, and eventually, when you look back, you’ll see you climbed a mountain.

Question:

Do you struggle with picking yourself up and starting over? Have you reached out, or created rituals to help you?

As always, encourage one another

Love Elle