Do I Have To Put Up With This? How to Let Go With Love.

Sometimes the hardest thing to do can be to let go. Never mind letting go with love.

Be it relationships, or anything else that bothers you, we’re all wired to put up with stuff because it can be hard to let go of people or anything else that bothers us because there are times when things stick like glue.

And that’s when we really need to let go, before they become anchors  dragging us into the muck and mire.  We don’t need to attach weights to ourselves for any reason.

We’re all guilty of hanging on.  

Hanging on to old hurts and wounds.  Hanging on to people that can only see us for the mistakes we’ve made or hanging onto things that no longer serve us. Hanging on doesn’t mean that we are strong because we stay the course, but that we’re afraid to move out of our comfort zone…because it’s well…comfortable. Even when it’s painful place to be.

Our strength comes when we not only see the need to let go, but when we have the courage to do it.

How To Let Go –

Of Being a Pushover

When you’re a truly kind and loving person who has always made excuses for the behaviour of others, you very likely prefer to say yes to no.  Yet there are times when you need to say no and stand in your own integrity.

Someone around you isn’t happy with what you said or what you did.  In the past you might have apologized profusely for offending someone and picked up their unhappy and hurt energy and made it your own. 

They walk away feeling so much lighter and better.  You, on the other hand have just tied another weight around your ankle.

Let that habit go…it isn’t serving either of you.  You can be sorry for the pain they’re feeling, but you don’t have to accept the bag of poop they want to pass over to you.

When anyone wants to ‘clear the air’ or ‘set things straight’, it’s usually, not always, but usually, code for…I have a bag of some nasty substance that I’m carrying around and it’ll make me feel so much better if you take it off my hands, because after all it’s your fault that I feel the way I do.

Not.

We all feel the way we feel because of the way we think about things.  Our perspective determines our attitudes and our feelings.

Great question to ask:  “What would you like me to do with this information?”

Don’t allow anyone to persuade you that their feelings are more important than yours.

How To Let Go –

Of Grudges

Now we’re in the situation where someone has hurt us, or we’re angry about something.

We hold on to all the perceived slings and arrows, running events over and over in our minds, sometimes newly minted events or those from the far distant past and in the process we’re punishing ourselves.

A mind saturated with wrong doings and images of wounds and hurts can no more create or manifest anything of value than something falling from a great height can violate the laws of gravity by turning upwards.

We’re all subject to the laws of nature.  And if we fail to see how our beliefs influence our thoughts and our choices it’s all too easy to miss the opportunity to move forward; to let go and create something much brighter and bigger.

The thing about life is it always brings us things that allow us to look really closely at who we are.

Look straight into the fire and remember that if we replay unhappy incidents in our mind, or feel that we are hard done by, or feel sorry for ourselves, we hand over our power to something outside of us.  

Yet we all have the ability to choose our responses.  Sometimes we simply need to give ourselves the time and chance to respond rather than react in the emotional moment.

Great question to ask:  What would my life be like if I responded instead of reacted?  Try and see what it would feel like if you chose your response and gave up focusing on unhappy experiences.

How To Let Go – And Let God

This is an oldie, but still a goodie.

In my own life, it wasn’t until I reached the point where I ‘knew’ that it wasn’t me, Elle personally, that was the manifestor in my life that it all made sense.  I’m most definitely the director and the actor, but it’s the Spirit, or the divine within that moves things into form.

I could never get my head around the idea that I, with all my flaws and imperfections and fears and doubts, was a creator.  Oh, I wanted to believe it.  But deep down, I wasn’t too sure.

Until faith entered the equation.  Once I reached the point where it was really clear that I truly have an inner power that does all the heavy lifting, manifesting suddenly became easier and the means of how to let go became clear.  A brilliant light went on in my mind, illuminating my life in ways that would never leave.

And whilst I say that this inner power we all have access to, might be the essence of our being, the actual creator in our life, we have to play our part in setting the creative process in motion.

Let go of:

Your thinking about the situation.  Whatever it is you think about your current experience. Whether you’re thinking is all over the place or pretty steadily focused on a single idea. Think it, feel it, and then let it go.

Separating ourselves from where the mind wants to take us is the simplest way to be able to let go of our experiences. It’s a reminder that we are not our mind. Our mind is simply a part of us, like our hands or arms or any other parts of our body.

The mind is not you, it does not have control over how you feel, unless you let it. And believe me, it will take control if it’s allowed to.

Emulate your car

I have a car where I simply push a button and the engine roars into life, doing all the things that engines need to do to power my car. And we’re required to push the button of creation and allow the creative substance to be formed from the thoughts and feelings we give attention to.  Great or not so great…our choice.

We are the instrument through which Spirit operates and the ideas and beliefs and images we hold in our mind are what limits the power that flows through us. Since it’s our destiny to rise higher and higher and to bring into manifestation more of the wonders of creation, it’s necessary to let go of all the nonsense that gets in the way.

Whatever it is that you need to let go of, once you know, truly know, that it’s not just you involved in this process, but that it’s a joint venture and you have the easy role, that of pushing the button of creation, it might not seem so difficult.

This very day you can approach every experience with a new state of mind by letting go of what doesn’t serve you…and letting it go with love.

Great question to ask:  Do I believe God could do this?

As always, I’d love to hear from you.

Is there anything you haven’t let go of yet?  Or maybe there’s something you released and found yourself feeling so very much lighter?

Leave a comment and let me know. The more specific you can be, might just give someone else in our community the encouragement they need.

Encourage one another.

Love Elle
xoxo