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I want to let you in on a little secret.
You can’t criticize yourself into a new, bigger, better version of who you currently are.
Sounds obvious doesn’t it?
Yet I bet you’ve done it to yourself. Allowed that loud, rude voice to tell you that you’re not good enough.
And sometimes the pressure from our family or society is enough for us to feel we don’t measure up. Enough for those feelings of worthlessness to become overwhelming. Enough to send those negative voices into high gear. As if telling ourselves we’re worthless will somehow grow us into someone more awesome and put together.
Even when we know it won’t. It Can’t.
So what can we do?
Here’s 4 genius ways to stop those feelings of worthlessness dead in their tracks.
1. Stop feeding the beast
When those feelings of worthlessness and the self-defeating mindset that goes along with them won’t go away, it’s time to stop feeding the beast.
You are the one in control. Your mind should be one hundred percent the way you want it, yet how many moments of anxiety, irritation, or fear do you experience in a twenty four hour period?
When you find yourself focused on negative thoughts, it’s not because there’s anything wrong with you, your work, or those around you. Essentially it’s because your mind isn’t taking instructions from you.
Truth be told you wouldn’t deliberately choose to feel miserable, would you?
So if feelings of worthlessness creep up on you, remind yourself, you can only think one thought at a time, and if you take out the negative and exchange it for a thought that is the exact opposite you’ve stopped feeding the beast.
Sometimes you just have to move on, stop worrying about it, stop focusing on it because otherwise, eventually you will manifest it.
2. Turn those feelings of worthlessness into something ridiculous
Turn every negative thought into something so ridiculous that it’s laughable.
Imagine that you’re a teacher…or a sales person…it doesn’t really matter.
But for now let’s focus on you being a teacher. And your classes aren’t going well. It’s tough. And you think to yourself, “I’m just not cut out for this.”
But you catch yourself and say, “That’s just a negative thought.”
And using the ridiculous technique you might say.
“It’s true, everyone was right about me, I should have chosen a different career, and I wouldn’t be surprised if the next class I take the kids pour buckets of water all over my head.
And they’ll probably throw things at me and I’m going to be wet and bruised, and then they’ll all jump up on their desks and unfurl a giant banner that says, “Worst teacher ever.”
And then a giant clown will walk through the door and bop me on the nose.”
It all becomes so ridiculous that you have to laugh. And laughing at any negative thoughts rob them of their power.
3. Make misery or magic
Your mind is either a misery manufacturing machine or a magical manufacturing machine, depending on how you look at life.
When others look at life through the prism of happiness it’s not because they’re doing anything differently from you, they simply have a different perspective on what they do.
And life will always seem more magic than misery when you’re not focused on what could go wrong.
The quality of their life is better because of how they look at it. They’re sense of worth is greater because of how they look at it.
When you do the right things, the right things will happen for you.
4. Cook up some soul soup
Don’t judge yourself by what’s happened in the past. It’s simply part of the growth process. And if those feelings of worthlessness strike, finding that prism of happiness is really more chemistry than magic.
We can never tell where we’ll be at the end of our journey, but we know where we are today and from this place we can stop poisoning ourselves from within. It’s that inner poisoning that fuels feelings of worthlessness.
If you’re poisoning yourself from within, how can you live a life of happiness and wellbeing?
The source of creation is housed in the chemical soup that is you. Everyone of us has been given the same ingredients, but each one of us mixes our soup in different ways.
Be someone who knows that cooking up a great soup for the soul means making sure the chemistry of happiness and joy are within. A chemistry that won’t be disturbed by what people say, and not determined by anything that happens to you.
Once your soul soup becomes emotionally and spiritually right for you, you’ll be able to find the happiness and peace you seek.
The real tragedy of life isn’t that you sometimes have felt worthless; it lies in not knowing how to change the only thing you have control over. You.
Live well. Smile about life. Follow your heart. Look for something good and happy every day. Tune out the negative thoughts. Work on it. Devote yourself to a dream so big you have no idea how you’ll make it come true.
Remember you are priceless. This is your one precious life and you have all the elements for happiness that you will ever need. Go and make a spectacular soul soup and ditch those feelings of worthlessness once and for all.
Encourage one another.