[success]Remember that we get whatever we focus on. Rather than dwelling on what you don’t want, clearly articulate what you do want. ~ Tony Robbins[/success]
I bet you’ve done it. Fallen flat on your face. Probably more than once.
I’m no stranger to falling flat.
It happens to us all sometime.
And it hurts.
And I fell, more than once, over the past few weeks.
I’d had a bellyful
For two whole weeks almost everything that could go wrong, did.
Everything was difficult; nothing came easily; one obstacle, one problem, one challenge after another seemed to be the order of the day.
My path was too hard so I decided it must be the wrong path. But I was struggling to find the right action.
Not any old action would do; doing the same old thing was only going to bring the same old results. I was seeking inspired action.
Give voice to your inner senses
A common denominator of happy, successful people is their innate understanding that we ignore our inner senses at our peril.
Your intuition is guidance from the soul. If you expect to receive, if you quiet your mind long enough to get the message, it will appear.
I needed to do something.
I went to bed and told myself that I knew the answer, and it was easy, that everything I needed to know was within.
Nothing magical happened.
In fact I’d forgotten all about it…until I started writing my ‘morning pages’. Then without conscious thought or effort, or prodding from me, I found myself writing ‘resistance is silly’.
Light bulb moment; my world was suddenly a brighter place. I got it.
Is the source of most unhappiness and dissatisfaction.
Feeling annoyed or angry or frustrated with what’s happening is resistance. That was what caused all my challenges to drag on, day after day.
I wasn’t giving my time or energy to what I wanted, I was too busy focusing on being annoyed that I was getting what I didn’t want. I was feeding energy to my challenges. No wonder they wouldn’t leave.
I was blocking the very thing I wanted from coming to me.
Learn from my mistake. I’m keeping it real for you, so you don’t have to go through this yourself. 🙂
We are all part of the living, vibrant energy system that is our world. And, like it or not, we experience the reality created by the way we think and feel and react. Sad to say I was living proof that it works against us as easily as for us!
Don’t wait passively for something good to come your way. Begin now, today, to give your time and energy to that great life that’s waiting beyond today’s troubles. Or that happier outcome to your current problem.
When enough is enough
We live, we learn. We make mistakes, we forget our new and better habits.
Don’t let your hurts and imperfections be an endless drain on your days. Yes, you’ll have sad times, yes you’ll revert back to old ways that don’t serve you well.
But always remember how wonderful it is to be alive. You feel, you think, you move. Don’t simply endure life, enjoy it.
The world is beautiful, go out and take a look at it and be filled with beauty and loveliness.
It’s easy to get caught up in things that aren’t working. Try looking at life through the eyes of your soul and you’ll see everything you need to live a happy successful life.
Don’t be too hard on yourself
Accept right now that you’re not perfect. You’re going to get things wrong, forget what you know or stop using techniques that help life to work better. It’s okay. It’s not the end of the world. Honestly.
We’ve all messed up, even been jerks on occasion, or too ‘busy’ to lend an ear or a shoulder when it was needed.
And we’re usually harder on ourselves than anyone else would be. You know your behaviour wasn’t what you’d like and every time you think of it you feel bad all over again. Don’t do this to yourself.
And don’t ever, ever feel sorry for yourself.
Not because it’s a bad thing, but because it doesn’t work. It makes nothing better.
Believe in you. Have faith in all you can do. Be confident in your abilities. Success isn’t what someone else says it is, it’s how YOU feel, it’s living your truth in ways that make YOU happy.
Now is all that matters. Now is all important, because it’s only in this now moment that you can control your assumptions.
The key to greater freedom, success and happiness is your ability to assume anything you wish. It’s easy. Just start deciding where you’re going to focus your attention.
Forget about the past. Don’t limit yourself by allowing your imagination to run away with you. Take control. Make a conscious decision to focus on the outcome you want. This is the very thing that sets you free from your current problem. Focus on it until it crowds out any other possibilities.
It’s not as if we have forever, so don’t waste one precious second being caught up in all the things you don’t want, or all the things that are wrong. Basically, don’t do what I just did!
As always I appreciate you being here and would love your take on getting caught up in all the things you don’t want. Why not make a difference to someone in the Live Purposefully Now family and leave your ideas and wisdom in the comments below. It’s always great to hear from you.
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14 thoughts on “How to be Successful AND Feel Happier ”
Thanks for sharing so honestly, Elle! I’m glad you found your way through that dark spot. Even the dark times can help us grow. I’m a big fan of being gentle on one’s self and I also so agree: “…always remember how wonderful it is to be alive.”
Always lovely to hear from you Sandra. Funny how, no matter our level of development, we can all ‘forget’ and move back into old habits that don’t serve. But having the awareness and allowing it to be known means we can make it easier on ourselves. With that said…I’m glad I don’t fall flat on my face too often!!! 🙂
When I have that kind of experience other aspects of my behavior change, and I don’t even notice it until after.
I typically go through it for a bit, like you did, before having that aha moment. But I can say now that I’ve gotten better at it I catch it quicker.
I look at myself trying to take stock in what I’m doing differently, how this change came about. Once I pinpoint it, usually a negative habit, I turn it around and focus on a more positive action, like something I want to achieve.
I try to become very aware of my thoughts and actions until it becomes second nature again. It takes a bit of mental work but I see results.
Isn’t it great Lea…you get better and better and it’s easier and quicker all the time. Feelings are the telltale for me. When I don’t ‘feel like myself’ I know something is afoot. Gotta love this stuff. 🙂
I can relate to this Elle, I’ve been getting annoyed and frustrated with the idea of trying new things in my life even though they are what I’ve always wanted to try. It become a hindrance. Reading this really helps me see things in a different light. I can’t resist the very things I want out of life. Thanks for sharing your perspective. 🙂
Hi Erynn, glad that my experience helped you get some clarity. As I’ve said before we’re all in this life together and the more we can learn from one another, the more encouraging we are towards one another the more wonderful our world becomes. It’s easy to fall into old habits when we stop paying enough attention…as I know only too well! 🙁
I remind myself daily it is about progress not perfection. When I really let those words resonate I glide along. Accepting the “oops” in life is still not easy, but recovery is quicker and the bumps seldom become mountains.
Thanks for the reminder– resistance is an insidious foe we can face successfully.
Hi Mary…appreciate your words of wisdom…love that your bumps don’t become mountains.:-) Resistance definitely can creep up on us when we get caught up in the ‘facts’ of life, as though they’re set in stone. You and I both know ‘facts’ are always changing, especially when we’re in alignment with the truth of who we are. 🙂
Can’t really say anything other than yes! Another culprit along with resistance is the automatic judging everything around us and that happens to us as good or bad. This just leads to more dissatisfaction and unhappiness.
Hello Mark. Interesting you should talk about judging events, there’s an interesting programme I’ve been taking a serious look at about not giving meaning to events. Ultimately it’s all stories we tell ourselves isn’t it? 🙂
Hi Elle; another wonderful post. it reminded me of the star trek characters the borg. they were evil hive like collectives that totally destroyed worlds and they always appeared with a computer voice saying resistance is futile. glad i decided to come over. don’t know why i stopped getting your emails. maybe it is because of the brand new site. either way I clicked subscribe before reading the post. blessings my friend, max
Hi Max, how lovely to see you here again. I’ve missed your words of wisdom. Resistance is futile…so the borgs were useful for some things it would seem…reminding us all of the obstacles that make it hard to get to our wonderful futures. 🙂
Another great article, Elle !
Great self-work !
I remember when I used to 1) feel lousy and just keep augering in 2) flop about trying to find someone or something to blame 3) accept that being unhappy was just part of the cycle.
Now, in part thanks to your writings, I have the awareness and practice to 1) recognize I’m less than happy and that it’s not my true state 2) realize I need to look within for the solution 3) be open to hearing the path back to happy.
Write on, Elle !
Wow Joseph, this is a wonderful guide for us all. I so appreciate your outlook on life and thanks for sharing with us. 🙂