Nobody ever wants to admit the fact that at one time or another loneliness will set in.

It’s hard to visualize a day when we will be by ourselves with no one to talk to or share our more profound burdens.

Can I be sincere with you for a moment? It will happen. The days of loneliness will surely arrive. But you can be lonely without feeling unhappy.

So when that time comes when the kids who have always kept us company will be out of the home to pursue their dreams, or a time when the partner who has always given us joy will no longer be available. Or when the work and the things that made us happy in the past just don’t cut it any more, here’s how you can get through being lonely without feeling unhappy about it.

Because truth be told every one of us will drink from the cup of loneliness. And it’s good to have some tools in place to help us manage these times.

Create your fun environment

If done well, you’ll become a master of your craft and quickly find a way out of loneliness no matter where you find yourself.

Let’s say you travel or moved to a new environment; things are unfamiliar; the atmosphere might not suit you and if that continues, it can lead to loneliness and dissatisfaction.

But this can be a short term experience, as anyone who has moved to a new town or school can tell you. It starts with building a new network.

The solution is learning how to make the environment and life work for you so you can have fun, attain flow and be happy.

Start some simple social interaction with a cashier at the supermarket or send a text to a friend could help and make a lot of difference to how you feel.

Taking a walk around the neighbourhood to explore things might feel super silly at first. But this small interaction with your environment can help you master it and feel less alone and Isolated.

Hangout with Influencers

What are the things you’re trying to achieve? Who are the people that can help you advance quickly toward achieving those goals?

Finding a club to join or attending seminars or a Bootcamp is an excellent way to meet and connect with like-minded people.

You can use an app like Meetup also to find these people. Or to explore your city and get out of your comfort zone.

Meeting more people every day will help you master your environment and get you busy with so much to do that you don’t even have time to be lonely.

Stay active

That means to schedule time for exercising, reading or just doing things that can keep you less stressed and trapped in your head.

If you’re overthinking or worrying about something, meditating 20 – 30 minutes every day can help you reduce stress and pressure. Even less time can help.  Just do it regularly.

You can also join a class, learn a skill or head to your local gym. You can also try doing this with a new friend.

The goal is to stay active and present no matter what.

It will reduce your isolation, you’ll feel happier, and you’ll discover that no environment or circumstance will be able to make you feel lonely and unhappy again.


Cephas Tope is the author of The Road Map to Your Extraordinary Life. He writes at, where he shares self improvement and business tips. you can join his free newsletter to learn how to make unshakeable progress and how to create extraordinary super life.

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