There is a natural law of abundance which pervades the entire universe, but it will not flow through a doorway of belief in lack and limitation. ~ Paul Zaiter

How happy are you? Are you living a life that’s just ok or are you one of the few who lead a fulfilling, meaningful and abundant life, brimming with opportunities, potential, fun, joy and laughter?

If you’re not one of the few, chances are it would be pretty good to become one, so here’s 4 daily rituals that can make you happier and become really awesome at life.

Empty your plate

Every moment of your life deserves your full attention, which is hard to do when your plate is full of self imposed deadlines, or when you let the expectations of others win the day or you accept and allow constant interruptions and distractions.

Is your time being used on projects or experiences that excite you and fill you with the energy of your own unique spirit?

If not, take a step back and do a check of your current ‘to do list’ and find out how much of your time is spent on doing things that feel great. Make sure most of your list falls into that category.

Remember, everything that’s on your plate is there because you said YES to it.

Stop doing things you feel you should do, when you really don’t have to and learn to recognize the difference. You’ll make incredible progress towards being totally awesome at life.

So what should you put and keep on your plate?

Make time for ‘not this time’

According to Warren Buffet the difference between successful people and the rest of us is that they say ‘no’ to almost everything.

You don’t have to believe that blood sweat and tears are necessary to be awesome at life but you do have to believe that when things get tough you can get through it and this means staying focused on what truly matters to you and not being distracted by outside influences. 

Turn down the voices of others, turn off the tv and any other distractions.

If you’re not sure you’re really focused on what will make you awesome at life ask yourself these questions.

Do I actually have to do this at all? (True confession…I’m guilty of getting caught up in things I really don’t need to do)!

Could someone else do it instead of me? (There are times when someone else could do something better than you could).

If I do it and it’s pretty good, can I accept that? (We all know about perfectionism…so enough said).

You might discover that it’s rare that you get a yes to all four questions in which case, decide what needs to be dumped, delegated, or just get started…maybe moving something onto tomorrow’s list.

By not diverting your energy you can put all your effort into making things happen that matter to you.

This is how the really successful accomplish so much, they invest their time in their priorities which means being able to say no to the demands of others or the distractions of daily life.

That’s what you need to do.

Make a list of five priorities for the day and follow through on them.  Then go and play! Fun matters.

Awesome beginningswoman-amazingly-rich-fulfilled-life

Have you ever woken up to the thought, I haven’t had enough sleep?  I know I have. And by the time you throw off your covers you’ve mentally started your day with the idea of scarcity.

From there it can get worse.  Throughout your day you follow up with the thoughts, of not enough. Not enough time, not enough money, not capable enough, not enough of everything.  Education, happiness, beauty, fitness or health…whatever it is we don’t have enough of it. (Read The Soul of Money).

Not enough becomes our justification for not being who we want to be, not accomplishing our heart’s desires and it’s the number one way we crush our dreams. This mind-set of scarcity robs you of realizing your magnificent potential and blinds you to the opportunities already in front of you.

Don’t do this to yourself.

If you listen to others, you’ll find most of them have an assumption that scarcity is a natural part of life. But it doesn’t have to be that way…don’t follow the crowd, don’t accept their assumptions…they generally don’t know where they’re going or what they’re doing.

Wake up tomorrow and say, today is going to be a great day,  I am strong and capable. And smile. 

Or try my all time favourite that I fall asleep in and wake up to:  ‘Something wonderful is happening for me now, thank you, thank you.’

I don’t know why this works, all I can tell you is it works wonders in my life.  When I use it regularly I find that after two weeks or so, great things begin to pop up that weren’t there before. If you try this one, let me know how it worked for you!

Train yourself to wake up to thoughts of plenty. Smile and repeat.

Spiritually speaking

Everything at it’s deepest essence is energy and with every thought, you’re working with this force in the quickest way possible.

Your thoughts are always trying to try to manifest themselves into the physical outer world. But because our regular thoughts are more like the sparks of a fire than the flame…they don’t last long enough to generate any power.

On the other hand, thoughts that are repeated become concentrated and the more the thought is repeated the more its force is magnified and the more easily it can manifest itself. Especially when that thought is connected to a feeling.

How would you feel if you received something you’d been hankering after for a long time?

Choose a thought that represents what you want to have happen, and as you repeat it to yourself add the feeling of having received it.

If you truly want to be awesome at life remember this:

“The possibilities of thought training are infinite, its consequences eternal, and yet few take the pains to direct their thinking into channels that will do them good, but instead leave all to chance.”

So take the time every day to fan the flames of your thoughts towards ideas that bring you the best, most awesome life you can imagine. You can do it. You deserve it.

And now, I’d love to hear from you. Do you ever doubt that you can have awesome life? Or if you’ve figured it out what helped? Let us know in the comments below.

As always thank you, for reading and sharing your experience and insights with us. Your kindness, generosity and encouragement are a true blessing in my life, and the world.

Encourage one another

Love Elle


Elle Sommer is the author of 4 books and a workbook. Her latest publications are a series called The Power of Consciousness, and you will find all three books in this trilogy now available on Kindle. She shares quotes, inspiration and positive vibes on Facebook, Instagram and Pinterest. And her greatest desire is to encourage and inspire others to create not just a good life, but a phenomenal life.


  1. Hey Elle,
    I can’t stuck with the second ritual “Not this time” because I can’t even say this to others then how can I do this for myself, this is my biggest weakness. How can I overcome with it?

    • ElleSommer

      Hello Emma and welcome. I think it’s awesome that you are aware of where you ‘feel stuck’. Awareness is vital to our growth. After all we’ll never be able to tweak our life unless we know what needs tweaking. So congratulations, you deserve a pat on the back. I’d suggest a little practice. Beginning with how to say no to others.

      Practice a way to say ‘no’ or ‘let me think about it’ or ‘not right now’ whatever phrase works for you. Having a response available before hand might make all the difference. That’s the way I did it, because I was such a ‘people pleaser’ that it was really hard to be able to say no. Let us know how you get on…we’d love to celebrate your first successful ‘no’. 🙂

  2. I love your idea of creating an awesome beginning every day even before I’ve pulled the covers off. Thanks Elle, for this wonderful strategy.

    • ElleSommer

      Hi Laura. This has worked really well for me for many years now. I can always tell when I start to slip…the day doesn’t turn out quite in the same way! 🙂

  3. Dear Elle,
    The universe is wired to be peaceful. There is nothing to do. When we realize that whether it is 10 steps…… 4 ways….. or 5 methods…… All these tricks to win at life will help but won’t take you to the pinnacle of bliss.
    The only way to be awesome at life is to relax and do nothing. Then the universal bliss will pervade us out and out.

    Stay Blessed and keep inspiring!

    • ElleSommer

      Hi Ankush, what a lovely philosophy you hold. I so agree that at heart we are all one with the divine and whatever path we use to become more aware is the most brilliant path for us in our unique individuality. Thank you for sharing your wisdom. 🙂

  4. Joseph Appaloosa

    Another great article, Elle
    I am a true believer in “awesome beginnings” .
    I trained myself years ago, that as I wake up, I begin to give thanks fro my amazing day and for the variety of abundance I am about to experience. IT grooves me right into a happy start to the day !
    Write on, Elle !

    • ElleSommer

      Hello Joseph – wow you are awesome. How wonderful that you’ve trained yourself to do this…your life must be pretty amazing! 🙂

  5. Hi Elle, I totally agree with you, our thoughts should be connected with our feelings, that way, it can easily manifest itself. Thanks for always sharing a great post. Let’s all have an awesome beginning. Great Read.

    • ElleSommer

      Hello Sherill, I’m with you. Let’s all do this awesome beginning together. We never succeed alone, we all have help and it’s wonderful to support and encourage one another. 🙂

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