Have you ever found yourself asking, how the heck did that happen? Wondering what the source of something was?
Ever had a fear that evaporated, almost overnight leaving you stepping out into the world in a brand new way?
I know that feeling.
On the off chance you’ve noticed something a teeny bit different about the site. I thought I might have some ‘splainin to do.
She who always said she liked to fly under the radar, and has done so perfectly happily for the past year or so, has suddenly come out of the dark. No longer an iconic gravatar of some English miss drinking tea…I’ve become a real life person. And here I am gazing out at the world from my blog.
What the heck did happen?
I’m blaming Emile Coue…and Vanita Cyril and Tess Marshall and Mary Jaksch.
But mostly it’s Emile’s fault. He started the ball rolling.
Finding the source foundation.
Emile Coue and his writings are the base source for many ideas we read about today. He’s influenced hundred’s of writers.
There’s the plank story, that so many talk about, including me, here, and then there’s autosuggestion, think Silva and affirmations; the conscious and the unconscious self and so much more.
Red flag warning: If you plan on following my lead, and implementing his ideas, all I have to say is look out. You might find yourself moving into an entirely new state of mind, bringing unexpected results. Just saying.
How a little focus can bring big results.
So there we are Emile and me together again after all these years and I was reading one of his most popular affirmations. The one he created for his patients back in the 1930’s.
“Every day in every respect I am getting better and better.”
Which of course has been altered to the modern version:
“Every day in every way I’m getting better and better.”
I liked it. I decided to modify it further, because as everyone knows I’m a big believer in going to the finished article not what might be, but what is. So my version became:
“Every day in every way I AM better and better.”
See. Done deal. Plus I love I AM statements they’re so powerful.
Another thing everyone forgot to mention was that Emile recommended that we affirm this twenty times in the morning and twenty times and night.
Okay, I was on it. You know I experiment with these things so you don’t have to. You’re welcome. I love you right back.
And he added something else that no one talks or writes about, but that I already knew because that’s how it works for me.
In his own words:
“Thus, every morning before rising and every night on getting into bed, he must repeat twenty times this little phrase: Every day in every respect, I am getting better and better. And these are the missing words…”In his mind he should emphasize the words in every respect, which applies to every need, mental or physical.”
To me, this meant I needed to imagine and feel that all areas of my life were as I wanted them to be, health, abundance, love, service, spiritual. Remember it’s the feeling we evoke that counts.
Now for you, should you brave enough to follow this path, it might be easier or it might resonate with you more to use the words getting better and better, or getting thinner and thinner, or whatever your specifics are, especially if you have the kind of analytic mind that screams, but it’s not true.
Me and analysis, not so much. Plus I rather liked an all encompassing phrase which included all aspects of my life. It’s horses for courses.
And my course is always for greater expression and expansion…in everything.
Hey we work with what we’ve got.
So I began…never realizing that it would have such a profound and far reaching effect on who I was and what I did. In short, it enlarged my brain neurons and began forming new pathways along which my thoughts travelled, for those of a scientific bent amongst us.
Should have known better, right?
A couple of weeks passed and ‘every day in every way’ and I become firm friends. Getting together every morning before I hopped out of bed and every night, my final thought…well next to final…but that’s another tale…before I fell asleep.
And seemingly out of the blue Vanita of VanitaCyril.com fame started to suggest I should really have a photo of myself on my site.
Errr, no thank you was my immediate response.
I like flying under the radar. Hah.
Would you believe that was just a rationalisation for my behavior?
I know, who’d have thunk it. I genuinely believed that it was simply a part of my personality.
And in a way it was.
But not in a good way. It was some concept I had of myself, of the world, whatever…stemming from the desperate shyness I’d experienced as a kid.
And I never realized it.
Stop Fighting The Facts.
But there we were, Emile and me ‘every day in every way’…and then Tess Marshall of TheBoldLife showed up with an e-course on being bold.
I was possessed I tell you, possessed. I signed up for it, with the assumption I was to be of service to Tess. Not a bit of it, she was going to be of service to me in a huge way.
Tess’s course created another shift in my consciousness to the degree that I was becoming more receptive to Vanita insisting a photo was the way to go.
Hmmm. This might not seem like a big deal to you. But believe me when I tell you, it was the biggest boldest move I could currently make. I knew that because it felt so flipping scary. Imagine the thing that scares you, a lot, in your world, and you suddenly find yourself, virtually overnight, doing it.
Enter Mary Jaksch of A-list blogging fame. Seemingly out of the blue I received an e-mail regarding her mentoring programme. Of course there is no ‘out of the blue’ there’s only ‘out of our consciousness. ‘
One of the first thing’s Mary said to me was…
You got it.
“Elle, you need your photo on your site.”
By this time, I was getting used to the idea…it was becoming a natural part of my feeling process. I’d heard it often enough that I was becoming more comfortable with the idea.
Plus of course Emile and I and his affirmation were getting along like a house on fire.
And this site is the first of what I suspect are many changes that are going to be showing up in my world.
My self concept, is changing. Beliefs I’ve held without even realizing I had them are dissolving almost before my very eyes.
If you’re ready or even if you think you’re not, now might be a good time to see what breakthroughs an affirmation can lead to for you.
In the comments below I’d love to hear from you.
Have you ever had an affirmation bring unexpected results?
And even if you haven’t experienced this yet, I’d love to hear of some unexpected results you’ve had lately.
Your share could make a huge difference to someone in our communities.
Thanks for jumping into the discussion and meanwhile:
Encourage one another.
Love Elle
xoxo
59 Comments
I love to use affirmations as a starting point. It is believed that we average 60,000 thoughts a day and many of them are not so pleasant remarks from our subconscious, lizard brain. To me the first step has always been positive affirmations and subliminals to get into a positive state and make change. I take it a step further after I’m in a positive state and use meditation and self exploration to understand or locate the sources of negativity. At this point a little NLP goes a long way.
Dan @ ZenPresence
Love your thoughts Dan…don’t really know much about NLP…but it sounds as if you have great techniques that support your growth and expansion. 🙂
Is that you Elle? Fresh is best and you have done that …well done.
Be good to yourself
David
Life Coach. Listener. Life Lover.
Yes, David, it’s really me. I like your description, fresh. Thank you. 🙂
how wonderful to see your beautiful face here !!
it completes your blog
many thanks for all your encouragement and insight
always a positive help for me
thank you
much love to you
L
Thanks LSM…lovely to hear from you again too. Isn’t it wonderful that we get to encourage one another. I love it. 🙂
Hi Elle,
Love the new site and the new you!! It’s great to see you and wonderful that you worked through your fear. Take care! xoxo
Love the picture Elle. You look beautiful and full of life. As for affirmations, I love them. My favorite is, “All thing a possible”. I have many more I have used in the past, but after going through Tess class in living bold I see my future as bright. She passed on many that are being very useful.
You go girl and keep it going. I am very proud of you.
Thank you Debbie. I use that affirmation too…we got a lot out of Tess’s class didn’t we? So happy to have you as a classmate and I could say the same to you…You go girl. 🙂
YAY!! I am so excited to see your face and more excited that you made this breakthrough 🙂
Thank you so much Julie…I can ‘feel’ you’re excited on my behalf and it’s wonderful. Amazing how much we can truly ‘feel’ the energy that someone sends us, even from miles away. I think I feel a post coming on. 🙂
Elle,
Your entire site rocks! It’s funny how the teacher learns as much or even more than the students! Love everything here and especially your smiling face. I can’t get over how much your avatar looked like you. Jodi and I were talking today about how awesome your blog is and now this. We’ll all be saying, “I knew her when…” xoxo
Awww thanks Tess. You already know the part you played in this for me and what you’e been saying all along is so true…just keep taking those penguin steps and you never know where you’ll end up, just that it’ll be somewhere fabulous. I’m grateful Tess for all your encouragement. It’s great to see how encouragement supports and aids us all moving forward. Maybe encouragement can change the world…it certainly changed mine. 🙂
Hi Elle,
There are many positive affirmations however this one is much powerful and I am using this too. “Every day in every way I AM better and better.” I AM is a great tool to start a great day.
Thanks for sharing this post!
It’s true Patricia there are TONS of affirmations to choose from…this one seemed to have an affinity with me…and I think you’re right I AM statements are a wonderful way to start the day. 🙂
Excellent decision! Hugs, Elle. So nice to “see” you! I love how things come together, seemingly at the “right” moment.
(And I especially love the larger font size.)
Hugs. May you always prosper!
Thanks Vidya…of course the site design is all about that superstar Vanita Cyril of TheStrategicMama blog…so she gets credit for the font size and all. Happy outcomes Vidya, I love happy outcomes. 🙂
Elle,
First off, I love the new site. Secondly, it’s great to see your picture on the site! Third, I am so happy that you continue to step out of your comfort zone and do new and exciting things. I am so happy for you! You deserve nothing but the best. 🙂
-Victor
Thanks Victor I so appreciate your kind words…I still can’t get used to seeing me out there front and centre, it’s an entirely new state of mind for me to live in. And it’s all good. 🙂
Yay! It’s SO nice to see you, Elle! Congratulations for pushing through your fears and sharing YOU with all of us. You are pretty darn amazing, and you’re definitely soaring! XOXO
Thanks Jodi…ooh I like that image…soaring. I’m going to keep that in my head today. 🙂
My credit card balances are 0. They are. They were totaling almost $60,000!
I have a list I keep saying as affirmations, and many have come to pass. Interesting how sometimes I don’t realize it for quite some time, a certain affirmation has come into being!
It’s a fabulous practice.
WOWO…now that’s a great testimony to the power of affirmations. Great job and thanks so much for sharing…this can encourage many. Would you say your persistence played a role in your wonderful success? 🙂
Elle-
Anything I say will sound superfluous – My heart says it all ~ it’s a privilege to witness you becoming who you’re meant to be…with love, Fran
Thank you so much Fran. I am truly touched by all the wonderful comments and virtual ‘hugs’ I’m getting here. My heart is full.:-)
I *love* the photo…it conveys your radiant energy so well! Now that you have opened that door, I am excited to see what continues to unfold for you!
Affirmations are life-changing. I use them each day, along with intention and awareness, as external tools to cultivate ‘magic’. I speak and move in affirmative ways, and World responds with resonance.
Thank you Joy…I love the idea of cultivating ‘magic’ and what you say is breathtakingly true…speaking and moving in affirmative ways and the world responds…OH YES. 🙂
Darling Elle,
How much I love your beautiful picture is beyond words. And now I see that your site is all revamped and so full of your gorgeous energy. I love how its all ‘just right’ and feels so radiant. By the way the hint of pink on you and the header is making my hear smile wide….cause pink is my absolute favorite color 🙂
May you continue to blossom dear one.
Love you lots,
Z~
Welcome Zeenat…If you could see me now…I have my hand on my heart as it’s so filled with joy that it’s overflowing with all the love I’m receiving. If I’d have known that ‘stepping out of the dark’ would have been so beautiful I might have done it a long, long time ago and thrown off those last remnants of shyness fear. I hope that this encourages others who are still sitting in some darkness to simply take that one step and come out…it’s truly magnificent out here. 🙂
It’s amazing what a short sentence can do to your mind, your consciousness and your life. I’m so glad you decided to go with the photo and I love the changes on the website. It’s amazing to see you lean into your fears! So proud of you.
It’s so true Anne-Sophie…a little persistence goes a heck of a long way. And I thank you for your kind words and bright soul. 🙂
I like the way you walked everyone through how to get to affirmations that actually work for you. It really comes down to what it comes down to.
I must say Elle, I’m really lovin’ your take on things, and your knowledge of Emile, Silva, affirmations, etc.
I also love that you made the affirmation present tense.
Good for you for benefitting from Tess’s course, and I must agree with Vanita and Mary Jaksch – I’d love more photos. I imagine someone with such beautiful writing to have a beautiful appearance, traditional or otherwise 🙂
And now for my affirmation that had unexpected results:
I affirmed that
“I am a legend & a touchstone, impacting the world in game-changing, timeless ways.”
I must’ve said, thought, repeated that more times than I can count.
Shortly after that I ended up:
-being homeless (3x)
-evicted lost all possessions & ID (3x)
-being betrayed a LOT
-failing 8 businesses
-8 failed LTRs
-and finally… someone stole my life’s work.
My affirmation seemed to lead to intense emotion and ‘bold’ living as you or Tess might say.
It also led to the creation of RyzeOnline.com 🙂
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P.S. Quick question:
Was this: ” …should emphasize the works in every respect, ”
Supposed to read: “…should emphasize the worDs ‘in every respect’ ?”
Wow Jason that’s some journey you’ve been on, leading to your wonderful creation. For myself, never knowing how my desire will manifest I’ve learned the need to feel the ease with which I experienced it. Not that I’ve ever had your challenging experiences…but I do rather like ease and grace in my world. And hats off to you my friend for coming out of the dark in your own way.
Also, well spotted, it is supposed to read words and not works and I’ve altered it.
Thank you so much for sharing your story Jason and now my big question is. Are you happy that your path lead to RyzeOnline.com? 🙂
Thanks for the awesome reply, Elle, and I’m gonna use to spring to even more discussion 🙂
I adore ease and grace, and when people hear my story they assume none of it was easy or graceful… but to me, that’s exactly what it was.
There are people in third world countries, living in squalor, being tortured, who embrace life and share love moment to moment.
There are primitive tribes who know little of technology, ambition, or a “grander life”, who are immensely happy.
When I tell my story, most people hear it and think “Wow, I don’t know how you do it,” or “that sounds like hell, dude.”
But through it all I continue uplifting others. How is it that I can uplift others?
Well, it’s said that we can only give what we ourselves have.
I can only give smiles, if I can smile. I can only give happiness, if I am happy.
I can only write unabashedly about the ’embarassing’, ‘intimate’, ‘shameful’, ‘dark’ parts of my life if I’m completely at peace with them.
Are they how I dreamed/imagined my journey would be? Hardly.
But being attached to our imagined dreams is not recommended, and a recipe for pain, in my experience.
To me Elle, your question, “[Jason] are you happy with your path leading to RyzeOnline.com”, is similar to asking:
1. Nick Vujicic “are you happy that you were born with no arms or legs and turned into a powerful motivational speaker?” or
2. asking Aaron Ralston “Are you happy you were trapped for 127 hours under a boulder, and sawed your own arm off, only to become a famous movie?” or
3. asking 50 cent “Are you happy you spent your youth struggling in the drug game, and getting shot 9 times, only to become one of the top 3 richest rappers?”
Many of the world’s greatest, most shining examples of abundant, high-leverage life have intense stories of drama, pain, and darkness as their origin.
Whether I end up among such a crowd, or whether I end up an unrecognized Martyr like Van Gogh or Tesla, or whether I end up somewhere in between… I’ll say this:
I am 100% congruent, aligned, and happy with every one of my choices along the way, and I milk life for as much fun as I know how.
And it’s a desire for me that my contribution to the world ripple into the coming generations — and I’ve already gotten that – a legacy I’ve left behind at least 50 glowing testimonials of people I’ve impacted massively with my perspective, and they go on to inspire others 😉
We can leave behind all kinds of material things, but what beats leaving behind transformed and uplifted human experience? For me… not much 🙂
Many things to be happy about, for sure 🙂
Happy THAT your path lead to your current life experience as opposed to with the path that lead there. And it sounds as if you most truly are. Love your attitude. 🙂
Right back atcha, Elle, thanks for noticing — I love my attitude too :P:P:P
P.S. Andd I love your gravatar, it shines with beauty! I knew it would!
I was so in love with your new design, I almost forgot to read the post! So glad I did because it is right on point and exactly what I needed today. I often use one of the Course in Miracles lessons as my affirmation to begin the day. Today’s lesson says “God’s peace and joy are mine.”
Aww Galen that’s so sweet. Vanita did a wonderful job in ‘expressing’ me via a web page.
That’s a wonderful affirmation too…that’d keep my heart singing all day. Thanks for sharing. 🙂
In all honesty, I can’t say I’ve * consciously* noticed an affirmation bring incredible results, well, kind of… The one you mentioned, “Every day in every way I AM better and better.”, is one I use each morning, and quite frankly it does hold some truth, because I do make daily improvements, so that’s your call!
Oh, and the present tense thing – that’s truly epic. When writing out my goals I never miss a beat on that, I’m already there! Awesome thoughts, Elle!
Daily improvements are pretty great Nick. I think there are times when we are looking for some giant leap in consciousness or experiences. Which of course is super. AND those every day little changes that are taking us forward often end up being the giant leap…just not all in one go. Taking at look at where we were, who we were, what we had or did last year versus now…can sometimes be pretty eye opening. 🙂
What a coincidence… I am listening to an audio program with some of these affirmations here, especially this one “Every day in every way I’m getting better and better.” Funny thing!
But I know that it does help because it can give us more self-confidence and when that happens we take more action and get more results… I really love your post.
Thanks for sharing.
Thanks Steve…so happy the post resonated with you. Any affirmation that’s sprinkled with a lot of feeling is a powerful tool for living the life we want. I like your take on it about self-confidence. 🙂
Hi, I have been saying this affirmative to help with anxiety induced abdominal pain. Anyone have à modified one for this? I’ve been, every day in every way my gut is calm. Any advise would be appreciated.
Sounds like a great affirmation Chris – what’s important is that you attach a feeling to it. Maybe you feel relieved that all is well, or simply happy. Feeling is the real secret to affirmation success. Good luck and do let us know how it works for you. 🙂
These are some amazing and helpful tips Elle!
I struggled for many years on how to make my dreams come true and when I found the power of affirmation, it all started to make sense to me. Where my focus goes, energy flows. My words have power and I didn’t realize it until I spoke up about it.
Thank you for the reminiscent reminders Elle! All the best!
Hi Vishva…the things we say to ourselves are creating our life experiences…I found it always a good thing to have one or two at hand when something happens in life that I would rather perceive differently! 🙂
Hello Elle ..
I stumbled upon your post last year .. I was really astonished by the whole concept of autosuggestion .. After that I read so many articles about the unbelievable power of our subconscious mind and the effects of our thoughts in our day to day life ..
But .. the sad fact is .. I never started practicing autosuggestion till now ..
( Damn ! Why’d I born a perfectionist ?? )
I was searching for the perfect sentence ..
Mostly because “better and better” sounded “bitter and bitter” when I tried the universal Emile Coue phrase .
And so at last I found the one that resonates almost good for me ..
” everyday in everyway, I’m getting more and more awesome ”
Should I go with this one ..?? Or would you recommend any changes ?
Please help me .. Thank You ..
Hello Am…Emile Coue’s phrase was originally intended for people who were sick, so I think any word that works for you is fine. Personally, I always use the now moment phrase of I am. So I would be saying something like ‘every day in every way, I am totally awesome’…or something similar. Hope that helps. 🙂
Thanks Elle ..
I’ve tried the sentence you suggested. But the problem is, some voice inside me is screaming ” it’s not true !! ”
I think I’m not really ready to use a now statement. Or is there something I could do about it..?
And what if I just start with the sentence ” everyday in everyway I’m getting Awesome ”
Would it be any good if I don’t use the ” more and more ” ?
Hope you’ll help me ..
Thank You ..
And also .. why am I acting too perfectionist ..? I just can’t do anything about it ..
Do I have anxiety ..??
Am, you have to stick with something that works for you. It’s all about persuading yourself that it is so. If you want to let go of more and more – junk it. There’s no hard and fast rules. And remember thoughts that say it’s not true are just thoughts. Like cars passing on a street, you can watch them but you don’t have to keep running after them.
It is true in your inner world of imagination if you keep seeing yourself as being awesome…it simply hasn’t materialised in the outer world of reality yet. But stick with anything long enough and you’ll begin to see shifts and changes.
As for the perfectionist part….join the club…I’m a recovering perfectionist myself…and I’ve learned to laugh when those tendencies appear. Simply recognizing them for what they are gives them less power over you. Hope this helps. 🙂
Thanks Elle for replying soo fast .. You’re really cool ☺
And one last question if it doesn’t bother you ..
Can I listen to a recorded affirmation while falling asleep ..? Will it help ..?? Also, should I use the second person or just go with the normal sentence ..?
Thanks Am. And great question. Let me tell you a little story. We wanted to own a property in Kauai but had no clue how to do it, or how we could do it, so every night I fell asleep listening to an app that played gentle rain, just as it rained softly in Kauai every night, imagining myself sleeping in a bed in the place we wanted. You know the end of the story right? Within a few months, there we were in our place on the island. It’s a really powerful practice. Fall asleep being who you want to be or having what you want to have and you are placing your universal order for what you desire. Go, do it…and let me know how it works for you. I always use first person…and often use the phrase I am happy and grateful now that….. Hope this helps. 🙂
Hi Elle … just ran across this article, thanks. I was a little confused by the picture at the beginning of the young girl sitting on a pile of suitcases on the beach. I thought that that was you, since the made the point to mention about putting your picture on here. There should be a picture of YOU sitting on the beach. Anyways, keep up the good work!
Hi Nick, thanks for taking the time to connect…I’m not sure I have a picture of me sitting on a beach…but I do take your point. 🙂
Thanks so much for this site, Elle! Awesome article! Just what I needed to read.
Hi Gan – nice to see you here and thanks for your kind words. 🙂
To be happy you have to laugh first!
Hi Stuart, I like that idea. Thank you for sharing it.